One of my friends sort of cheated on her boyfriend with the guy that I like. She likes a lot of other guys too. I feel really bad for her boyfriend (he's one of the nicest guys I know) and want him to know, he doesnt deserve this. But I don't want to ruin my friendship with her. Should I just stay out of it?
2007-04-06 05:02:58 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unless it gets really out of control. Don't worry, you'll know when you need to step in.
2007-04-06 05:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by lexiss91 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Okay, so first she cheats on her boyfriend, and she does it with a guy you're interested in. This does not sound like a nice girl. My wife had a couple of friends that would always try to steal each others boyfriends, just to prove they could do it. These people are very insecure, or bitter and nasty. I think you should tell him, if she's being this obvious, she's going to get caught anyway, you might as well do the honorable thing and try to keep him from getting even more hurt.
2007-04-06 05:26:35 · answer #2 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing worst than the wrath of a woman scorned. You can't be her friend and hate on her game at the same time. Even though she sounds like a very selfish person. With her being your friend, and she knew you liked this guy she was with. Then you may not need to be her friend anymore. And leave her to screw up her own life. Tthere is this thing called karma, and what goes around does truly come right back around.
2007-04-06 05:48:29 · answer #3 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, seriously think about why you feel so obligated to tell him. Is it because you like the guy she cheated with, or is it because you feel he doesn't deserve what she is doing to him? After that, think about whether or not you are ready to lose her as a friend, because I can almost guarantee that if you tell on her there are going to be problems between the two of you. What's more important your friendship with her or her boyfriend knowing what it is that she has been doing?
THINK ABOUT IT FIRST NONE OF US HAVE TO DEAL WITH THE CONSEQUENCES ONLY YOU.
2007-04-06 05:14:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you want to rat her out not because you think her boyfriend is nice, but because it was with the guy that you like...
Think long and hard about this before ratting on a friend - it will ruin your friendship.
2007-04-06 05:09:30 · answer #5 · answered by beckyvincenzes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my suggestion to u is to tell ur friend how u really feel about him... tell her, u really like him, and she's cheated on him... so that means she doesnt like him as much as u do.... and u wouldn't tell on her, and u aint blackmailing her, and that u dont want ur relationship to get ruined over a guy.... but tell her u r really digging this guy, and u wouldn't do anything with him, while they are dating... tell her to leave u the path free, because u like him more than she does, and she's cheated before... and if she doesn't let him free is because she's not ur friend... because first of all she doesnt like the guy -she likes many others- and if she was really ur friend, since she dosnt like the guy, she would let u have him because u would be more important to her, especially since she isnt into the guy.... good luck, and if she won't let him free, then she aint ur friend, both u and the guy u like deserve a more honest friend....
2007-04-06 05:12:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I WAS THERE... and let me tell you after 14 years of friendship I found out she was never a true friend to me...
DON'T WAIT or WASTE 14 years dear... you don't need her in your life...
Move one to meeting new friends and tell her the truth about what you think of her... TRUST ME... she will not change because you tell her, but she will know you were a true friend to her for telling her the truth and being honest with her, even if she didn't like what you said...
I told my ex-friend... "you are a selfish piece of trash, and in life you will get back what you give - and I don't want to be around you when that happens"
Good Luck
2007-04-06 05:10:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. The only reason you want to rat her out is because she slept with the guy you like. Don't ever be the reason two people break up.
2007-04-06 05:10:12 · answer #8 · answered by G-BOY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will figure it out sooner or later. I wouldnt say anything because then the friend will be mad at you. And what if you do say something and they still stay together! You will look like the bad one. Just let them work it out on their own. That nice of you to look out for someone like that though!
2007-04-06 05:08:37 · answer #9 · answered by KT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you feel the same way if she had cheated on her boyfriend with a guy you didn't like?
Slip your friend's boyfriend an anonymous note.
2007-04-06 05:10:09 · answer #10 · answered by acorn922 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to remain friends with this girl then it is absolutely none of your business to tell the boyfriend. However, if the boyfriend was a very close friend of yours then I would tell him. She doesn't sound like much of a friend or girlfriend to me anyways.
Good luck.
2007-04-06 05:09:07 · answer #11 · answered by jill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋