Guys and Girls Please Answer These 2 Questions..?

Question

Just curious as to what you people think!

1) Do girls value love more than guys do, or do the two genders just view love in different ways?
2) Does such a male exist who does not pressure a girl to have sex because he loves every second he spends with her, no matter if they are in the bedroom or not?!

Tell me your views/experiences of either please!

Answer 1

1. I don't believe it's an issue of value the truth is that guys and girls both think/feel/act very differently. Depending on where they are in life and where their priorities are. Guys also have a societal pressure to be tougher, just making it a little more difficult for us girls to knock down that barrier. I don't believe that love is viewed differently, it's a matter of how the mind actually works and how different people express love. A guy may do something that he thinks shows her how he feels but the girl just doesn't see it the same. She can value flowers but she doesn't see how all the little things means the same to him as the flowers do for her

2. And yes that guy does exist. I've actually found one. I have had more partners than he has (it's not a lot or anything either) he just feels that he can't really have sex with someone he doesn't care about. There have been times when HE has turned me down because he feels sex isn't all that important and would rather curl up watching a movie. It took me a while not to take that one personally! It's just him, he doesn't put everything into the bedroom. It takes a bit of luck to find someone like that but there are more. They are the kind of guy that will not put up with someone who cheats on him, very loyal, honest person.

Answer 2

1) No. You can't really divide people up by gender in this area. It's a personal thing, and I think a person needs to understand what love is to truly value it. Having loved and been loved go a long way towards that.

2) Yes. Many of them. I have a number of male friends that have never hit on me, and have known several males that were interested in me and enjoyed being around me as much as they could, who respected me and cared about me so much that they never pressured me into having sex. Pushing someone to do something so personal and intimate when they're not ready shows a clear disregard for them and lack of respect, total selfishness. I'd hope guys that would pressure you like that are the rare kind, not the other.

Answer 3

1) the two sexes view love differently, you know the whole Mars/Venus thing.

2) Yes there are some men like that...they are gay.

The fact that a man wants to have sex with his woman should be viewed as a good thing, why do some women look at it the other way? Why is it wrong that a guy wants sex from a women, yet it's not that way if a woman wants sex from a man? There are women out there that pressure there men for sex, yet it's not looked upon as a bad thing. Sex and love are an extension of each other, why do women separate them as if they exist in a vacuum?

Answer 4

This isn't a complete answer but this might help.. -Just because you were a summer fling doesn't mean you still are. -When a girl is upset, she sometimes say things that aren't true, or actually spills out the truth.. which fits her person? -Even though you might be more than a fling and she starts valuing you, girls sometimes takes advantage of the guy, feels overly superior compared to the guy, and stuff like that. -Think about if she is an honest person and stuff like that. Think about if she was serious when she said you were a summer fling, and stuff like that. If you can't, maybe you should have knew her better. -You said some things to her too, so she deserves like.. you to answer her call at least once. You should see what she says too. -It's really what YOU want to do.. and what she says.

Answer 5

1) i believe that guys value love just as much if not more than girls do these days.

In my relationship, i valued the love beyond everything else, and all the guys who i knew and hung out with were exactly the same. My girlfriend took me for granted every single moment, always caused fights, and did not enjoy spending time with me. She always made me feel like crap when i would do anything in the world for her. She took advantage of my niceness and used me. =(
all of my male friends had similar experiences.

2) I do definately believe that a male exists who does not care whether the time spent is in the bedroom or at the movie theatre or hair salon or pedicure or whatever.

I am an example of this, as i just enjoyed her company no matter what we were doing. Being with her was security enough for me.

Many other guys exist like this, you just need to find them.

Answer 6

Here are the answers to your two questions....
Question 1: Woman value love more due to we're emotional and man value love in a different more rational way. So yes men view it in a different way.

Question 2: Yes there are males out there who don't pressure women into bed. Some just like lying next to you and holding you or just goofing around.

Answer 7

My boyfriend waited for a year before I was ready. Not once did he pressure me. I was older though, 21, and he was 26. I think younger more immature guys tend to try and rush you because they too are giggity giggity 'virgins' still bursting to lose it. lol. You can't blame them, their lil hormone are raging. But if it is annoying you to the point where you feel like 'you have to' dump him.
Its not SEX or LOVE when you are too young. It is an emotional rollercoater. Ask yourself....
Can you handle a break up afterwards? Can yor mind handle it? Are you ready to become a parent? or are you still a child yourself? Seriously, I'm sick of 15 yr old posting that they are pregnant. Be responisble! Keep your panties on, you have a whole life ahead of you.. be a child first! Dang. I cant stress it enough...... .
anyways... yes there are GUYS who will wait to have sex.. however right now you are surrounded by boys who just went thru puberty.. avoid them at this time. lol. Wait! Wait!

I answered that backwards, to question number 1..... I think both men and woman value love the same. Who is to say though really? Both men and woman alike can be cold hearted and cruel. There is no 'one side'

Answer 8

1 no men make very strong attachments and hold back so the build a dissolvment of a relationship takes more time than women.

2 yes and no, for a man to really feel connected sex is involved. emotion comes as the result which is backwards from the way women are so men make the compromise but they also lie and cheat to get there quicker. without sex men become depressed and angry so sex is a mild need in a comfortable lifestyle. but teenage and sometimes older guys will only be on the lookout for sex. this is why religion says that sex before marriage is not so good. it forces to many things to happen to quickly and well look at society now.

Answer 9

1) Girls are more single minded. I mean when they love, they truly love the person single hearted. When a girl loves a boy, the boy seems to be the only person in the whole world for her. But its quite different for boys. When a boy loves a girl, the girl whom he loves thinks that she is the only one for him - but in many cases, she is not the only one for him. He has many others and he can easily hide this from his first girl.
2) Yea, it is possible that a male will not pressure a girl to have sex with him even if they are in the bedroom. If he greatly respect himself and the girl, he won't do it.

Answer 10

It is the way they love each other that is different.

A guy would normally give love to get sex while its the other way round with the girls.

But these are just what would normally happen, otherwise there are girls that would insist on sex and guys who'd value relationship more than the pleasure of sex.

So it depends more on the person instead of the gender or generalisation.