my boyfriend of eight months is in mississippi which he will be there for a while. me and this guy chris having been hanging out together and we both really like each other. chris moved to texas, he called me and i told him he should come back. he will only come back if i'm his girlfriend. and i really miss him but i don't know what to do.
2007-04-06 04:53:30 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just want to say one thing "what comes around goes around" carma will bite you in the a**
2007-04-06 04:57:42 · answer #1 · answered by kelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems to me that your boyfriend in Mississippi really isn't someone you want to be with and the other guy, Chris was a substitute for you to be noticed. Since he moved away, you are unsure of your feelings. You can have male friends as good friends. The best advice to you is to get a notebook or a piece of paper. Write down all the pros and cons of each relationship until you can not decide at this moment . When you are done, go back and reread what you have written.Only you can decide your fate and do not let anyone else tell you otherwise. Who knows when you are done , you might only want them both as just friends. Good luck and try it!
2007-04-06 05:02:47 · answer #2 · answered by ezanjill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No question, you can't have both. The question is, who do you love more? You don't say much about your boyfriend who is in Mississippi. How much do you trust him to be faithful? Do you love him enough? Is there an end in sight, meaning do you know how much longer he'll be gone, or when he'll come back? You need to search long and hard to see if you really do love this guy. Long distance relationships are hard. From the sounds of it, you don't really care about your boyfriend in Mississippi. It's out of sight out of mind. What you have to figure out is are you liking Chris, just to fill the void until your boyfriend comes back, or do you truly like Chris enough to date him? If yes, then break things off with your current guy, and go with Chris. Sounds like Chris wants more of a commitment than you do, though, so weigh those options. Do you really want Chris that badly that you would consent to be his girlfriend just to get him to come back from Texas? What if things don't work out between the two of you?Then you'll be stuck with no one.
If you think you'll get away with dating both guys, that your boyfriend in Mississippi won't find out, then you're mistaken. No matter how hard you try to keep it a secret, someway it will surface. Then where will you be? Again with no one. And if you do date two guys at once and are found out, who in their right mind would want to date you, for fear that you'd do something like that to them? Think about this long and hard. Think about what you're doing to your life, go with your heart. Good luck.
2007-04-06 05:08:24 · answer #3 · answered by tinaroonie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go on with your life and not place it on hold for any man. You should speak with your Mississippi bf and tell him both of you need a break and when he comes back you will resume exclusively if both of you feel that way. As for the Texas guy, there was a reason he moved...If he can and will move back, he will but it should not be for anyone including you. Let him move back on his own and then see him if that is what you want. You are placing yourself in a stressful situation and if the Texas guy does not move back it is not becuase of you it is becuase he is where he wants to be or has to be. These men are to be your boyfriends...You are not tied by marriage and obviously you are not emotionally bound where you are content with being with one person or exclusive. I hear no engagements, marriage or any comittment from your guys for you to keep yourself off the market and progress from being with someone IN TOWN there for YOU. Good Luck.
2007-04-06 05:04:46 · answer #4 · answered by city girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its all about what you want to do. I just would have a conversation to your boyfriend about how he feels about the long distance relationship. I would also ask is he being faithful to you.With one my old long distance relationship we both had a understanding that we could do what we wanted to until the other came back. That if anyone of us stepped out we would tell each other. That neither of us wanted to get our feelings hurt. I know I didn't want to wait and then find out he was coming home with another chick so I would make sure what he is doing where ever he is. My current boyfriend is in the Navy and we have been apart for about 6 months and he will now be back til July. We are both faithful to each other and I miss the heck out of him. We do alot of phone bone to keep from straying from each other and emails.
But whatever you do make sure its what you want to do. Because in the end you have to live with it. Your friend Chris cant make you be his girlfriend if you don't want to.
2007-04-06 05:14:33 · answer #5 · answered by Jha Jha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree, dont cheat. if he KNEW you had a bf before you guys started hanging out he seems really scandalous when he said he wont come back unless you were his gf. he doesnt respect you or your bf.
one bf is enough already two your asking for trouble. I have one question for you, why would you throw 8 months of your life with another man for someone else? is chris nicer to you? does he treat you better than your bf? you should decide whether you want chris or your bf, having two bfs makes you seem scandalous. we dont want that now do we?
2007-04-06 05:01:37 · answer #6 · answered by aNna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT CHEAT! I know its easier said then done but trust me, it only makes things more complicated in the long run. Take time to think about where you rlife is headed and what you want out of a relationship. Long distance ones are very hard. I had one for 2 almost 3 years...didnt end up workign out. I never cheated on him but i suspected he did on me.
2007-04-06 04:58:55 · answer #7 · answered by cassondra_83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you stop being anyone's girlfriend (since you already cheated on ur real boyfriend), and just live a single life for a while, which seems like what you want. There's nothing wrong with that.
2007-04-06 05:03:23 · answer #8 · answered by Rionoir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wise to try to have more than one boyfriend.... you need to figure out your true feelings. Decide which one you like/love the most and then act on it. Don't string your boyfriend along if you like Chris better. And if you like your boyfriend better then don't lead Chris on. The quicker you figure this out the better the result will be.
2007-04-06 05:05:32 · answer #9 · answered by boomboombaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well they guy that is in mississippi do you really love him? And do you think you guys will be togather forever? Chris do you think he will move up to where you are. E-mail me at brunswick2006@yahoo.com and I can help you more
2007-04-06 04:57:33 · answer #10 · answered by brunswick2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put yourself in the other persons shoes!! would you like boy1 or boy2 to have a girlfriend and still be seeing you ??remember what goes around comes around !!!again trust is the main thing here one or two of you will be hurt and then you lose their friendship ...what is more important to you is the answer.. far away people cannot hug or hold you when your sad
2007-04-06 05:02:49 · answer #11 · answered by ANDY S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋