My seven year old daughter knows that I am seeing someone. I just dont know how and when to make the introduction. My soon to be ex-wife says that she(my daughter) has been embelishing stories that they have already met.
They did meet once. This was before we were involved, and my daughter thought that she was "very nice"
So when is the right time to make this introduction? We have been seeing each other for about 5 months and are talking about moving in together.
2007-04-06 04:44:24 · 14 answers · asked by emsalpha20 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're still married, have a young daughter, and are considering shacking up with a woman you've known all of 5 months? And this makes you a good role model....... how?
The right time is maybe when you've been dating her for another 6 months, are legally divorced and have realized that shacking up won't be a good influence for your child.
2007-04-06 04:48:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're talking about moving in together, then definately do it before that happens. You don't want your daughter coming over some time and seeing that this woman lives there, without knowing beforehand. Make sure you put your daughter first in this situation, the sooner the better. Your daughter does know that you're dating this woman, and she even knows who she is, so it shouldn't be that hard. Go on a kid friendly date, the three of you, hang out for a couple of hours together so they can actually interact, rather than just being introduced to each other for 5 minutes, since apparently that sort of thing has already happened (even though you weren't dating at the time). Talk to each of them individually, make sure they are okay with meeting each other. Since your daughter already thinks this woman is "very nice", that's a plus. I don't think you should worry that the two of them won't get along. So get it over and done with, the sooner the better. The longer you wait, the worse the outcome could be. You want to start the relationship between the three of you off on a good footing. Good luck.
2007-04-06 04:53:25 · answer #2 · answered by tinaroonie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Introduce them soon, very soon. If your daughter is already making up stories, then she feels it's important to know this person. You're thinking about moving in together and your girlfriend and daughter really should have a chance to form some kind of relationship before that happens. As for how, I'd suggest make a date of it. The three of you could go to the park, or museum, or shopping, or whatever your daughter likes. That way it isn't all about them meeting. Then afterwards, your girlfriend can come over for dinner and the three of you can spend some time together at home.
2007-04-06 04:51:31 · answer #3 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Wait until your divorce is finalized.
2. Do not move in together. Either get married, or continue dating. It is not fair to your daughter, she deserves to see you in a truly stable, committed relationship. It's hard enough to see you with someone other than her mother. Not to mention that your gf deserves a real committment from you.
3. After your divorce is finalized, have your daughter meet her several times outside the house. The house is still the family place, and an "outsider" shouldn't be allowed in just yet. When she is comfortable, then she can come over for dinner, movies, etc. No sleepovers, too confusing to a 7 year old.
2007-04-06 04:48:34 · answer #4 · answered by robin0408 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are talking about moving in together then you really should make the introduction very soon. I would choose someplace that is fun for your daughter and the 3 of you will have a blast together. I live in Co. Springs area and we have a couple of places for kids. We have an indoor playhouse that has gocarts, golf, bowling etc... We also have an arcade with outside rides. This would be something fun for you all to go play some miature golf and just be able to laugh, not to mention the fun stuff is a bonus with the kids. If your daughter is an outside girl then take them both on a hike and picnic! I'd just make it something fun where you are not all in the house. Get out somewhere!
2016-04-01 00:37:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you plan on spending your life with this woman it is not fair to bring your daughter into another relationship that has the potential to fail. If you do bring your daughter around her....do not hug, kiss, or cuddle your girlfriend....make the situation all about your daughter and playing with her. She has to know and like your girlfriend before even feeling comfortable with this idea. You wont do any damage if you don't make the "relationship" with this woman a big deal....she wont feel like she has lost anyone if you break up. Otherwise the best time to introduce a new, potential person in your daughters life is once you are married.
2007-04-06 04:52:04 · answer #6 · answered by Heidi L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definatley dont move in together yet!! take a saturday and invite the gf and your daughter make a whole day visit. Try to encorporate a day of fun. Let them do all the talking and try to stay away from PDA (public display of affection)
She is your daughter and always wants to be the leading lady in your life. Let the two of them bond. and take it slow, start making activities for all of you to do and spend a couple of nights with just father and daughter time. She should cathc on to your gf and learn to appreciate her, THEN have her move in, Her moving in to abruptly would be too mcuh for your daughter to understand and take in positively.
2007-04-06 04:49:39 · answer #7 · answered by gsxr650 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it a very special time. Do something fun. Maybe a an outing like the zoo or something. Allow them to do something that will allow fond memories of their first visit. The first time my daughters met my boyfriend, we went to a football game. They had a blast. They are 9 and 10.
2007-04-06 04:49:22 · answer #8 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know whenever you think she's ready. Maybe when you guys are alone, find a nice quiet spot without any people. Maybe at a beach, park, etc. I think you shouldn't lie to your daughter, just tell her the truth. If she gets angry or sad, hug and kiss her. Take her out for ice cream. Let her know you love her, although things may be changing. Tell her that change could be good.
Hope this helps! Good luck!
2007-04-06 04:53:54 · answer #9 · answered by Cheaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you give your daughter some time to meet your girlfriend before she moves in. Just introduce her slowly. Start having your girlfriend come to your place every day and soon enogh your daughter will get to know her.
2007-04-06 04:50:06 · answer #10 · answered by dianaax33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋