My three year old won't stop throwing fits, what should I do, the "naughty spot" has not worked for us!

Answer 1

Don't be afraid of society is my advice.

My 21 month old tried throwing little temper tantrums a few times and I did exactly what my father would have done in the early 1980's BEFORE our society became so soft: I smacked her little butt. Hard.

Only once to show her I meant business. After 3 or 4 times she learned and doesn't do it anymore.

Part of a child's respect for you as a parent needs to be derived from fear. A small part.. But if they dont fear you to a degree they will never respect you.

Answer 2

the 3's are worse then the 2's when it comes to fits etc. If you sit him in the naughty spot and make him sit there for the whole time everytime it will work. Don't sit him there for 2 long 3 minutes for a 3 year old, 4 minutes for a 4 year old etc. Also I've taken their favorite toys for a couple hours, their favorite tv show etc. Never ever give into a fit or don't follow up with your punishments. Time in a naughty corner/spot doesn't start until the childs sitting there and quiet.

Answer 3

She's asking for attention and is bored. Get colouring b00ks and learning devices [toys] to help w/her time as well as her getting a jump in school. They have so much energy at that age,think of a kitten or a puppy,it's all practical the same. Where her out & she'll ask you 4 a nap! BE CONSTRUCTIVE WITH HER TIME. She'll love to play LEARNING GAMES. I taught my kids there ABC'S & 123S WITH MAGNETS NUMBERS & LETTERS. They didn't know they were learning. I took away D in DOG & add an H-it became HOG. See? Now take away the S & it becomes B-EE, AND BEE inventive & creative,even you will have self achievements & be proud in urself! It's a win-win.You become the teacher as you/we are suppose to be. You will learn too. Always remain teachable & learnable. Do now & tomorrow it becomes history~;~)*Seriously. Don't waste another Precious day! I didn't think I'd ever say this kind of things until I experienced the living words. I didn't pat attention to others what they said these things. Now I do understand. A mind & time is a terrible thing to waste. It's so very true~

Answer 4

You can try spanking (although it wouldn't help my daugther once she has started the tantrum). It has helped in other cases though. What I do when my daugther throws a tantrum is stay calm and not pay any attention to her. If your child wouldn't be safe to be left alone in the room, stay with him but act as if you don't see and don't hear at all. Usually a tantrum would last from 5 to 10 minutes. They might seem like forever but that's how much it is. And I never give in. After my daugther has stopped crying, I always hug her and explain why I can't give her what she wants and then she usually accepts it. And I don't lose the hope that tantrums will completely disappear some day... :-)

Answer 5

Naughty spots rarely work for any three year old. If you got that from the Nanny shows, be advised that the children only act for the camera. Now sending them to their room (without toys, etc.) can be more effective. Or a good old fashioned spanking, depending on you, works as well in some situations. I've heard just flat out ignoring them and telling them when they are ready to use big boy/big girl words then they can come talk to you. With my toddler I remove him from the room and put him in his room until he calms down and stops hollering. Now if you are in public, then remove your child entirely from the situation and take care of it in a bathroom or go out to the car.

Answer 6

When your child throws fit, he/she gets what he wants. If you eventually give in just to stop him, he wins and he knows he can win next time too. -maybe he's just doing it to get attention. Even if that's the case, if you give him attention, again, he wins.
The only way is for you to make sure that he never gets what he wants when he throws a fit. -Never. And don't give him any attention when he throws a fit. The only thing you say is "I will talk to you when you are a happy boy."

It will be hell the first couple of times and you won't want to continue, but trust me do it for 2 days and you'll never have a problem again.

... so how about giving me a "best answer"?,...

Answer 7

I had the same problem. I just stuck with it(yes, i wanted to pull my hair out on several occasions) but eventually my son learned that he was in the naughty spot for a reason and to get out of it he had to sit still and be quiet. Every time he gets up, put him back. Ignore his cries and screaming. I does work, but sometimes it takes a little time and patience on your part as well as his. Good luck! 1 minute in time out per years of age is a good rule to follow too.

Answer 8

I have a 4 year old and she too has tantrums. It is very frustrating, as you know! I don't want to spank her so instead I tell her I am going to call the "Manner Police." This usually makes her stop as she is fearful of them. I also have made a video of her having a fit. I showed it to her and she realizes how pathetic she looks and I remind her that I will send a copy to Santa Clause. This works too. I just want to completely extinguish this behavior. I feel confident that I will gradually.

I hope this helps you! Good luck!

Answer 9

the naughty spot works if u are consistant. My 3 yo twins are completely different after 3 minutes on the chair. Alot of the times its just for attention so i often ignore my son and he stops doing it bcos hes getting nothing out of it.

Answer 10

Toddlers have limited negotiating skills, so they throw fits when they don't get what they want. We reinforce this behavior when we give in to them.

First, agree with your spouse what is allowed and what is not. Be reasonable, and don't dig foxholes you don't want to defend.

Then be firm. Let the toddler cry it out with no secondary gain.

Outside the home your options may be more limited. This approach doesn't work in church or in the supermarket.