Am i being a fool?

Question

I have been acquainted with someone for 4 months.
We talk on the phone, go places, and have sex.
He tells me he does not want to rush, and just to have fun, get to know me to let things happen naturally
I would like to know if I am wasting my time on this man. I know none of his family. I just met his mom 2 weeks ago.And just became known to his friends less than a month ago (supposedly)
He came out of a 8 year relationship and been single for 3 years. What is the problem. I am tired of hearing this (let's have fun thing) (I need to get to know you) The situation is strange. He does not like when I ask questions about us. He does not like to hear of other men. Sometimes I say that since we are just friends, we can still date other people, he does not like that.

He said that I ruined the surprise of him asking me to be his girl on my birthday in May. I think that is crock of crap. I think he just made that up to make the situation at the moment better.

How can you not know me enough to commit to me? You have sex with me, say you have unconditional love for and in love with me. Confusion HERE

He was never married. He was engaged.

Answer 1

You want commitment after 4 months? Maybe I've been living under a rock, but that seems like a VERY short period of time. I cannot even believe that you would begin to make demands of him so soon. I mean, you met his mother and that alone seems like a big deal to me.

Have you ever considered how much time the average person spends working and commuting? Add to that how much time an average person sleeps. Add to that the time spent eating and in the bathroom. After that, those four months is NOT really a long time (unless you were attached to his hip the entire time).

Now, please, don't think I am taking your question lightly. I am not. I just want you to see the reality of the situation because loving and wanting love sometimes blinds us.

If he was in an 8 year relationship, it's only normal that he is going to be cautious. And don't be surprised if he resents your nudging when he has made it clear that he wants to take it slowly.

Why should he introduce you to his family before he knows that you will be around in the future? One of the reasons why so many people end up breaking up is because they rush into relationships. Sleeping with someone and sharing your life with them are two different things. And just because he is sleeping with you doesn't mean that he will never want something more. Don't assume you're being used. If he just wanted sex and nothing more he could very well sleep with any random jane and not take anyone to meet his mother.

PATIENCE!

Relationships are like homes. Take the time to build a solid foundation and the house will weather many storms. Throw up a shanty really quickly and expect it to be blown away by the first strong breeze.

Answer 2

I will explain it this way. According to the time he spent in his last committed relationship (8 yrs), he was married. So his family probably really like her. Now; mentally you are dealing with a divorced man. He has (mentally) been divorced for 3 years now. Statistics claims there are at least 15+ women to every man, in some communities and cities. He is like a kid in a candy store. If you feel you are worth more than the head games and being played with. Find something more constructive to do with your very valuable time. I tell you what attracts a man to a woman, it's the thrill of the chase, not a tease but confidence in yourself to make somebody work to spend time with you. You started off wrong, you already have given him your body, before you even got to know him, and now he's telling you he wants to get to know you? As long as you continue being a beck and call girl; available when he needs you, and remain a convenience, that is what your position will remain to be; a convenience. But when you decide to love yourself first, and get your self image and esteem back, and start caring more for yourself than him. He will then try to find out whose got your head turned away from his direction. Hopefully,when that does happen, you will be more secure in your ability to take care of yourself emotionally, and make him work harder for it this time to be with you.
Suggstion: Never lower yourself to palying head games.
If you truly want to run a potential relationship away, throw another man up in your present man's face. Expecially in your case, he has the upper hand. This move, will defintely get the opposite results of what you are expecting to happen.

Answer 3

This dude is like got emotional troubles. Like placing conditions on your relationship too much. He is in control. You have no control here. I would take control by cutting off the sex. It's time to find some one else to be buddies with. Seems like he just wants a good time is all.

Answer 4

This guy has his cake and wants to eat it too. Like the others have said, I would start to see other people too. I wouldn't completely cut ties with him, but let him know that you are serious and not into playing games. Tough **** if he doesn't want to listen. Focus on your hapiness here. Let him know that you are not getting the run-around from him. He should get the picture soon enough and fold.

Answer 5

no, guy is fool. Tiger is extra discerning and telanted. have you ever considered in 60's or in the previous that factor , Tow Hourse have been given crash through twist of destiny, and the Hourse rider have been given harm? NO. potential animals are extra telanted then men in elementary senses.

Answer 6

Hmm...I'd say you're right that he's full of it. I think it's time to move on and meet other people. If a man wants to be with a woman, he will MOVE MOUNTAINS for her. You'd see it in his actions, his words and plans that he'd make with you (whatever those are). Keep your options open and go hang out with friends and meet new people! You go girl!