My relastionship is rocky and my husband is not helping matters by lying. My husband is Catholic and just Friday we got married in the Catholic church so I can be baptised and confirmed Catholic. If I am not catholic will they be able to accept a divorce or should I just kiss my dreams of being Catholic good bye. Saturday is rehersal for conformation what should I do?
2007-04-06 03:44:04 · 8 answers · asked by Renea 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
My husband and I had a civil marriage by a ordained minister and we are heading towards are two year anniversary. Things just seem to be getting out of hand. He is addicted to World of Warcraft, he insults my inteligence and is very spiteful. We have a one year old together. My husband is not even a practising Catholic.
2007-04-06 06:51:14 · update #1
Leave him. Religion has nothing to do with it. If you don't love him, and he habitually lies to you, why would you stay with him?
2007-04-06 03:47:05 · answer #1 · answered by Some Dude 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is NOT a sin to be divorced. The sin lies in being civilly divorced, then getting remarried without an annulment.
Sounds like your marriage was convalidated. that is good- it means you are free to enter the Catholic Church.
I pray that the grace you received this weekend will help you in your marriage. Perhaps if you really get into being Catholic, your husband will start practicing his faith, too and both of you can work to make your marriage better.
Get "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage" both by Dr Laura Schlessinger.
2007-04-08 19:56:39 · answer #2 · answered by Mommy_to_seven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you say you just got married on Friday? Why would you want a divorce so soon?
you really need to talk to a priest.
But if you do get a divorce/annulment you can still be Catholic. The big question will be whether you will be considered married to him for the rest or your life, or if you will have a successful annulment.
2007-04-06 11:14:04 · answer #3 · answered by janet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as Catholic divorce. If I were you, I will not overtly concerned with the papers and ceremonies. What matters most is your relationship with your husband.
But by a stroke of bad luck (God forbids) that either of you wants to leave each other, you can apply for an annulment. It's similar to a divorce. It's a process whereby your married status is erased and you will revert as single as if you were never married at all.
2007-04-06 11:02:20 · answer #4 · answered by NONAME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as a catholic divorce.
If you are rich, powerful and famous, you can apply for an annulment. King Henri VIII of England applied for one and was turned down.That's when he decided to separate from the Catholic church and to create the Anglican church. Perhaps you could do the same thing ?
2007-04-06 11:08:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...are you definitely getting divorced? You won't be divorced by Saturday...but you need to talk to the priest. If your husband is a practicing Catholic and lying...he has issues beyond marital problems. His soul is in danger. I assume you'll be going to confession prior to receiving...tell the priest your issues and ask what to do.
Actually, you can be Catholic as a divorced person, but since you've had your marriage validated...you could not remarry and continue to receive.
You need to do everything you can to save your marriage. Start with prayer, your husband and you need to talk to the priest in your parish for help. You are both responsible to God first and then each other. Your husbands behavior is out of sync with a relationship with God.
I had problems in my marriage and came close to leaving my husband. But I turned to God in my suffering and realized that all that really matters is God. I love my husband but I love God more. I offered my pain up to God, because he understands and loves me. I prayed for my husband and turned myself to living a holy life.
Things have changed dramatically for me. My husband has changed. We are different together now. My husband does not go to church, but I pray for him always. He is good to me now and I know it is because of my focus on God and prayer.
2007-04-06 10:58:29 · answer #6 · answered by Misty 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hmmm, i think your real question is whether or not you can be a catholic all your life. the answer is yes. even if you are not married and you want to be a catholic, you can do so.
2007-04-06 11:24:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak with a priest right away.
2007-04-06 10:51:13 · answer #8 · answered by Midge 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋