I've been cing the same guy 4 10 months now. Weren't exclusive but 4 the last 3 mos. he says he hasn't been sleeping with other women. He told me last night that I was the main woman in his life & that he wanted to give me some advice if he was going 2 stay w/ me. He asked me to not call him more than once a day. He told me to stop asking him about the other women, although he told me he doesn't want me with another man. He told me that I've been this distraction to him, because I'm trying to help him with his crummy situation. He said he doesn't want to talk to me everyday, so I should leave a message & if he doesn't call me back it's because he doesn't feel like it. He comes to my house everyday to take a shower because he doesn't have any running water at home. He was so mean & so cruel & in so many words he told me that I was a convenient situation & that he was basically using me. He said I stole my position with him & that I didn't earn.
2007-04-06 03:20:01 · 8 answers · asked by geminig 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
But he said now that I have the position I have to do as he said or else he'll find another convenient situation to take advantage of. He told me that he does love me but he hates that I call him every morning to say good morning. He said that he wants me to be here for him but I'm messing up my chances because I want too much attention. I love him & don't want to loose him. I know he talks to other women on the phone but he said he's not dating them, so what should I do in this situation? He hurt me so bad I felt like flattening all of his tires. I mean I know the situation but that's no reason 4 him to talk to me the way he does & I don't want anyone telling me revenge is not the best way to go because trust me he deserves it.
2007-04-06 03:22:41 · update #1
I don't think I have to tell you but you are pitiful. You can see the problems and yet you endure them. Where is you self confidence, your self esteem, your pride. Gone, because you love him. What is there to love? The abuse? or is it that you think you can save him. Save your self !!!!
2007-04-06 03:30:53 · answer #1 · answered by Ray2play 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man doesn not love you, this is NOT love! Love is supporting and sharing and having compassion and wanting to be eith your partner daily all day long! This man came right out and told you he's using you so believe it! Don't believe his lies about loving you! Read between the lines and wake up!You do not treat someone you love this way, he is only telling you he loves you so that he can continue to use you, it is what keeps you hanging on to a hopeless situation that he's toying with. Maybe you should look into a co-dependency class... It is not your responsibility to save him or help him or be there for him only when HE wants you to be this is not how love works! Remove yourself from this situation and find yourself someone who will love and treat you with the respect you deserve! Don't think that now you have the answers and that things will change him or that you can make him see your point b/c it isn't going to happen - Wise up girl! You're wasting valuable time on this guy when the right guy might be walking right past you everyday! The only good thing that has happened from this is that now you can learn from this.
This guy is playing you and he'll take you for everything you have your money, self respect, you dignity - everything! He'll suck you dry till you don't know who you are anymore. I hope you take me seriously I've been there, you sound exactly like me 15 years ago, learn from my mistake please!
2007-04-06 10:45:53 · answer #2 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, you sound like a person who gives love freely to the one you love, which is good. The only problem is you are giving it to someone who is not willing to return the same affection back to you. This guy only wants things when it is a convenience to him. He has learned to disrespect and take advantage of you because you have allowed him to do so. Start respecting yourself and demand respect from others or you will get exactly what you are getting now. I feel you know you deserve better and this is what is making you angry enough to get revenge. The only revenge you can get is to set standards that will dictate how people will treat you. If this guy finds someone else to use, then so be it, better them than you. Best of luck to you!
2007-04-06 10:37:53 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy cow. I only read half of your situation and I can tell you it's time to get rid of him. Who needs all of that? He sounds controlling and has a mean spirit. Those are two bad combinations. You shouldn't have to "earn" anything when you're with a gentelman. He's talking down to you to make you feel bad and the boosts you up and that makes him feel good. That's not good at all. Move on and keep your options open! Meet someone who wants to be with you and get to know you for you!
2007-04-06 10:27:27 · answer #4 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a guy and i say you should dump him. He's lame as hell. Im not sure of ur ages but if he's 25 or older, he shouldnt be playing these games. He is using you and not trying to be committed. What kinda dude can give you all these demands but then has to come over to ur house to take a shower?? It seems like he cant handle his business as a man. Like i said again, dump him
2007-04-06 10:30:02 · answer #5 · answered by PLATINUM_PLUS1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm....my opinion....what an ungrateful jerk. He actually told you that? I would leave him if I were you. He obviously doesn't care about you or respect you. You didn't earn him? You deserve better than that. He is using you, and I would get out of that relationship. Find a guy that respects you, a good guy that you deserve. And as for your "boyfriend", leave him and move on.
2007-04-06 10:26:08 · answer #6 · answered by Holy Mackerel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The dude is a JERK, I cant post up here what else I think he is. I had a bf like this. I laughed my butt off at him. I sent his butt to the curb.
Don't let no man talk to you like that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Never keep no man like that!!!!!!!!!!!! Especially one who cant pay his water bill!
2007-04-06 10:26:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him out of your life now. You don't owe him anything. Let him bum off one of his other "friends."
2007-04-06 10:48:33 · answer #8 · answered by Justthefacts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋