OK so this guy and I have been seeing each other on and off for the past two and a half years. Well we finally had a falling out last summer and didn't talk for months. At Christmas we found our way back to each other. We spent every minute together. I go to college and he doesn't, which is really a bummer and he lives with his mom, who takes care of his kids. Yes I know you are thinking "what a winner" but he makes me feel like no one else has. I come from more of the higher class family and he is more toward the lower in. I guess I feel like I can help him. I spent thousands of dollars on us for vacation, a month after that he broke it off...he said he wasn't ready for a real relationship right now..but a week later he was with this other girl saying how much he loved her. And that has really taken a toll on me. I just wonder did he do this cause he knows that I deserve better and that he isn't right for me or did he do this cause he really doesn't love me?
2007-04-06 03:06:44 · 7 answers · asked by Dekota 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's hard to say why he did what he did without knowing him.
The only thing I can say is that you deserve someone who wants to be with you and is crazy about you. Money and social class aside, if this guy did truly care about you, he would want to BE WITH you and only you!
Don't waste your time, energy, money, and resources on someone who doesn't want to be with you as much as you want to be with him.
As far as wanting to help him, it's not your job to help him succeed in life. It's his. If you really want to help people in need, volunteer at a shelter or a hospital or a retirement home. Spend your time and energy on people who really do need and want your help. Who knows, you might meet someone wonderful while doing it!
2007-04-06 03:14:06 · answer #1 · answered by dehalima 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants your money, get away from him as quickly as possible. Just imagine a few years down the line. Say you two get married, he will quit his job because he will think oh well she went to college so she can bring home the money. Plus living with mom...I just got out of one of those relationships. We never could spend a night alone without a knock on the door for him to do something. If he comes crawling back don't give in. Tell him you found someone and are totally in love with him...see how he feels about that.
2007-04-06 03:12:16 · answer #2 · answered by Chrissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't love you Honey ... He loves her ... Its ok cause you really love him & you want him to be happy ... whatever that takes. He obviously didn't know what was better for you only you know that so just be patient .Things have a way of working out .. always ..... When 2 people love each other class status ...family money really shouldn't play any part .. When you love someone its inside that counts!!! {Not the wallet}
2007-04-06 03:17:34 · answer #3 · answered by harlot j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be with this guy........ and stop trying to help him. one day you will realize that no one can change someone else. only he can change and help him self. and stop wating your money on vacations with this guy. COME ON.... just be friends and be smart about the whole thing. sorry but thats the truth.......
2007-04-06 03:12:42 · answer #4 · answered by henry_o01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need the stress. Do what my father used to tell me when I found myself hooked to a looser, "Put him back where you found him and find someone better."
2007-04-06 03:14:00 · answer #5 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, the price of *One Way* love.
2007-04-06 03:12:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
does it really matter both reasons are no good.
2007-04-06 03:22:21 · answer #7 · answered by derrik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋