I have this huge crush on a girl I met a little over a month ago. Despite all the signals I've given her, it seems that someone else has won her over. Recently this week, she met a guy and started dating and they're now in a relationship. :( I still hang on to the small glimmer of hope that maybe things can work out between us but I'm not holding my breath, and I guess we're just friends now. Her 20th birthday is coming up next month, and I bought her a emerald birthstone bracelet (my birthstone too) for her birthday before she started seeing this guy. Is it appropriate to give her jewelry maybe as a symbol of friendship? What kind of jewelry would be appropriate to give her in this case, is a bracelet ok? Also how appropriate would it be if in case I gave it to her in the presence of her other friends or even her new boyfriend, should I give it to her when we're alone?
2007-04-06 02:39:54 · 9 answers · asked by jaljcoki 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Thank you for all your answers, from what I'm hearing from a majority of you all is that giving this to her right now wouldn't really be right. Haven't really made a decision yet. I've gotten to know her a lot, we went out for coffee one time when she was single. I'm friends with some of her closest people she considers family, so I will be seeing her from time to time regardless of what happens.
2007-04-06 03:26:51 · update #1
I'm sorry man, but I think giving it to her now would be inappropriate, even though you bought it before she was with the guy. I would say either return it and get her something else or hold on to it for awhile just in case it doesn't work out with this guy... hey, they haven't been together too long, have they? Sorry about your situation, but I'm sure it will work out alright for you eventually.
2007-04-06 03:06:58 · answer #1 · answered by me 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A Bracelet I think is fine. However the feelings your having behind the gift not so Cool. Just what ever you do be honest with your self. Good luck (and do you want a girl that can be bought with Jewelry and not for who you are.)
2007-04-06 03:06:02 · answer #2 · answered by L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to see what the relationship is with her other bf before you give her expensive jewelry. I would suggest a get together of friends and find something other than jewelry. Good luck.
2007-04-06 02:57:43 · answer #3 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. Been there, done that, and we both know damn good and well that you're going to do whatever you're going to do regardless of what is said here. That is the way of love.
No one will be happy if you give her the jewelry besides you and maybe her, depending on if she likes you or not. Dating is far from absolute, but it is a way of her saying "I'm taken, don't bother."
2007-04-06 02:43:38 · answer #4 · answered by Ferret 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
in case you men merely started relationship, get her a heart shaped necklace. If no longer, you may decide for the preliminary. or you may desire to get her a ring or jewelry then get a necklace later to compliment them.
2016-11-07 09:12:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt give it to her. jewelry is an intimate gift that you would only give to someone you are going out with or someone you are really close to or know well. it would be a waste. i would try to give her something more less forward of a gift. but does she really know you?
2007-04-06 02:43:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how close of friends you are to her. If it is a crush from afar, don't do it. Does she know you have a crush on her? Have you made your crush known? Ask yourself those questions also.
2007-04-06 06:44:44 · answer #7 · answered by Mia Anne *6.6.09* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could give her the gift but i wouldn't do it in front of the new boyfriend. i would deliver the present personally, and to her alone.
it all comes down to how much of a gentleman and honest you are to both her and yourself. let her know how you feel.
stay as they say-calm, cool and collective.
you never know...she may feel the same way towards you.
blessings.
2007-04-06 02:56:51 · answer #8 · answered by polgara922 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no its not ok to be a stalker.move on and find yourself another woman to WOO..
2007-04-06 02:46:36 · answer #9 · answered by zapatadog 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋