and they're some of the same ones that don't think twice about commiting fornication, adultery, & having children out of wedlock??? i come from a muslim community in philadelphia, pa. & polygamy is common there & some outside of the community turn their noses up at us & their the ones "some of them" that have 3 or 4 children following behind them & have never been married!!! please, i don't wan't anyone but those who are going to give a serious answer...no smart-a$$ or dumb answers. i've been wanting to ask this question for quite a while.
2007-04-06 02:14:53 · 19 answers · asked by sulaimaan ibn ya'quub 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You're right. As a female I don't see why I can't have 6 husbands. Why don't you join my harem? Oh, right...in your mind it's always one guy and all the women, right?
2007-04-06 02:18:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
This may seem redundant but mostly I think it's because they're raised in a culture where you should only be with one person. Or rather, raised to believe that you should only need one spouse who can help you.
Many also may look down on it as cheating, in a way. If you're in a relationship with someone and you come across a problem with them then you go to get another wife/husband who you don't have that problem with instead of working it out. They may think that by taking another wife/husband you could be going outside your marriage and consider it cheating.
I personally don't mind polygomy although I wouldn't be in a polygomous relationship. I do, however, understand what you mean when you talk about having children out of wedlock and such. I still hold to traditional values, regardless of my generation, and believe that there's no sex before marriage. I won't condemn someone for doing it but I can't do it myself.
You do bring up a good point though about the hypocrisy some have towards polygomy.
Have a good day!
2007-04-06 02:26:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's just another thing that society has backwards....
Religion said marriage was between a man and a woman and the courts have changed that because enough people whined....
Give it time and someone will sue to be allowed to have many spouses one day...
And you're right, the same who cry foul about polygamy, are the same ones who want gay marriage or have several kids out of wedlock...
Society is to blame for this..
We should allow people to run their lives the way they want, with no state/religious interference.
2007-04-06 02:20:34 · answer #3 · answered by kamustahappy 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I stay in Saudi Arabia, and polygamy is noticeably elementary the following. i don't think of any society would not seem down on polygamy except if there's a fantastic reason to marry more advantageous than one.
2016-11-26 22:32:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with polygamy because it makes sense. i know too many people who have a lot of children by different fathers out of wedlock and no one bats an eye. i bet you ladies would feel different if you were unable to have children and your husband wants them. my question to you is should he just divorce you b/c of it. i mean that would be heartless. and to the muslim lady the laws of islaam precendes the laws of the land yes you have to follow them but it does not supercede. the 2nd etc.... may not not be recognized by the non muslims but is is recognized islamically and if he is truly a righteous brother than he will deal fairly with all of his wives. it's funny how even some muslims follow only what they want to when it comes to qu'ran and sunnah.b/c it says in surah al nisa that a man may marry more than one one but if he cannot treat them all fair and equal than one is best for him. it doesn't say that it is not allowed. the issue isn't all that controversy b/c as many of you have stated that it's difficult to deal w/ one not too mention that there is conditions for polygamy and if you cannot meet them then it is not permissible to to and the husband doesn't have to have his wife's permission to do so. at the most important condition is that he financially afford it. i know plenty of successful polygamist marriages and so if it's permissible then it's ok. just because some people practice bidah(innovation) in the religion and becoming westernized has made it easier for some to deny ayah(verses in the qu'ran). so be careful of bidah. by the away i am an american muslimah who adheres to qu'ran and sunnah and to the christians both moes and abraham had two wives. i know i was raised christian so if you read your bibles correctly you would know that too. everyone wants to justify their own actions instead of the truth. but hey i forgot in a world where it's ok to commit adultery and fornication why marry if society agrees with your behavior. i would rather my husband have another wife than to cheat on me w/ some random woman. i wish my husband could financially afford another wife.
2007-04-06 12:50:13 · answer #5 · answered by freedom fighter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. the rules of society dont make sense.
like why do we have to wear clothes.
its absurd if you think about it
like our own body is a crime in itself.
2. people (or some say sheeple) are herd animals
they like to run with the pack for the most part
they feel more comfortable when other people around them
think the same way that they do
3. they're jealous
they cant stand thinking someone else is having more fun
2007-04-06 02:22:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im Muslim.
Am I for polygamy in the US or any other part of the world where its against the law? NO.
Mainly because the law does not recognize the second(3rd, 4th) wife as a legal wife and if theyre not legal, they have no RIGHTS as far as wives go.
A righteous Muslim brother, would devote his time to making humane decisions. And if you decide to marry a woman who isnt completely your wife by law, youre putting HER in a bad situation. In the event you guys get divorced, how will you handle the legal responsibilities of paying up for the children like Islaam commands you?
Are all men saints?
Am sorry but God does not intend man to do something that is against the law of the land.
So why do it?
2007-04-06 02:30:05 · answer #7 · answered by Antares 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It has to do with culture. The people who don't like alternative family arangements are the one who have always accepted that their way is the "right" way and everyone else should be that way too.
I figure, if it's not hurting anyone and it makes the people involved happy, it can't be all that bad.
2007-04-06 02:33:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because they are not used to the concept.
Polygamy is also common in Utah among members of the LDS community.
2007-04-06 03:44:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In America, you can't afford multiple wives unless you send them out to work, and that is not the tradition of polygamy.
2007-04-06 02:21:46 · answer #10 · answered by Davie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
everyone seems to have forgotten what Marriage is. polygamy is 'looked down on' because humans are greedy selfish creatures and having more than one mate seems to be hording... which is socially unacceptable.
2007-04-06 02:19:29 · answer #11 · answered by Invisible_Flags 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋