What is it like to be a mother to a boy?

Question

I just found out that I am pregnant with a boy, my first child. I have always been a girlie girl and never really understood either boys or men. Because of this, I always dreamed I would be the mother of a girl. I am sure this is the reason god has given me a boy, but I am devastated and completely scared. I just don't know what I am going to do with a boy. I love my husband and I know I will be lucky if a son turns out to be like him, but it doesn't take away from my fear. I picture all little boys running and jumping and screaming and playing with cars, trucks, etc. I can't help looking at baby girls and feeling a pang in my heart. I thought it would be helpful to hear from you momma's of boys to get your take. I know that when my little one comes out I will love him just the same no matter what the sex, but I guess I need some reassurance that everything is going to be okay. Did anyone ever experience these same emotions? What is it like to have a boy?

Answer 1

I have three boys that are 9, 7 and almost 3 and they warm my heart and make my life truly exciting for the better. I too always wanted a little girl, and when I was pregnant with my first, I was told it was going to be a girl! I was so thrilled and went out and bought all these little girl clothing, blankets, toys ect. No one was in more shock than I was in March 1998 when the baby I gave birth to was indeed, not a little girl. I remember my husband returning all the girlie stuff and coming home with little football, baseball and soccer jerseys, stuffed sports balls and huge sports car framed photos. I was disappointed for a day or two, but I got over it. I realized it was just as much fun to dress him up in sports jerseys and make him look cute as it would be for a little girl. Then they grow up a little and they start to absolutely adore you. There's no love like a little boy's love for his mother. They love to please you and make you laugh. They want to sit with you when you're upset or sick. Best of all they love giving you hugs and kisses. The perfect moment is when your son runs up to you, gives you a kiss and asks with a little plastic ring in his hand if you'll marry him. I think my favorite day of the year by far is mother's day, when my three sons come to me in the morning and hand me a little drawing, project or card they made for me in school. They work so hard to make it perfect and I don't think the day would be as special if I had three girls. I also love taking pictures with them. I always found pictures of mothers and sons very heartwarming and I have tons of photos of me and boys around the house. I guess it relates to that saying "Mama's boy"
They do get dirty a lot and sometimes tend to get a little hyper, but they're boys. I've seen little girls whine and I must say I’d rather have a hyper child than listen to the whining. I think boys are also easier to pick up, pack up and go in a matter of seconds. They're easier to by clothes for since they don't really have a care ;) and lets face it, trucks and racecars are cheaper, easier to pick out and clean up than Barbie, Barbie’s friends, Barbie’s shoes, Barbie’s clothes, Barbie’s car ect.
Every now and then, I pass by a rack of little girl clothes or see a baby girl in a stroller and I think to myself "Hmm, maybe I’ll try for another one." Then I think of how happy I am with my boys and how unhappy that little girl would be with three big brothers!
Congrats to you and your husband! I know you'll love that little boy with all your heart. They really are a joy to have, as any child would be. He is only your first and you could always go for a number 2 in the future. Everything will be just fine, you'll see.
Bestwishes to you and good luck! =]

Answer 2

I have 2 boys, my god was i not prepared for boys. Now im not a very girly person but my boys rattle everything. I could just about join a track team with how fast i can run now to catch the little buggers but the eldest can still out distance me. Boys seem to develope physical skills quicker than girls but are a bit behind them in the speech department. My boys can turn my house upside down in a matter of minutes and they dont stop with the gung ho stuff till they are asleep, jumping off the back of the sofa, off walls, fences and anything they can climb. My dogs are the most long suffering ever, i cant have cats or small animals. Having boys is a lifetime adventure and heart attack. My 1 year old just fell off the sofa, got up, sooked a bit then jumped off the sofa. Seriously, just as i was writing this. To tell you the truth, i am pregnant now and i am kind of a bit worried that it may be a girl coz i am now so used to my boys i dont know how i would go with a girly girl. Ahh, youll love it. Boys, men, whatever.

Answer 3

I know exactly what you mean, with my first I was so excited I was having a girl, my husband on the other hand kinda wanted a boy, but she is 4 now and he absolutely adores her, then i got pregnant again when she was 18 mnths, and I went for my ultrasound at 18 weeks, and found out i was having not 1 but 2 boys, husband now very excited, me not so much, they are 2 now, and let me tell you they would pick their mommy over daddy anyday, they are a lot more active and hyper than girls, most of the time but they are sooo much fun, my daughter is definately a daddy's girl, most of my friends that have boys and girls, say that their boys are mommas boys so you can just think you are going to have this wonderful little boy that adores you, once he is here trust me you will love having a boy!

Answer 4

I have 2 sisters. I have always been a girlie girl too. When the docs told me the baby was going to be a boy, I almost puked, lol. I didn't have a clue what on earth I was going to do w/ a boy. But, it is truly amazing. The very moment they laid him in my arms and I looked into those eyes. . .well, it's a moment I will never forget. My son is now 6 years old and I can't tell you what a blast I have had with this little boy in my life. He is the sweetest. He has opened up my world to whole new events. We are going into our second year of t-ball, lol. . .I have become a "soccer" mom. I love it!!!!!!

I hope your baby boy is healthy and I hope you enjoy the experience of being a momma to a little boy as much as I have. You will be so surprised how much comes just naturally to you because of this crazy unconditional love you will have for him :)

Answer 5

oh my...your question brought back some memories. when I was pregnant with my first son I had wanted a little girl so bad, but I had a little boy. he is now almost 17 yrs old and he has 2 little brothers...lol 5 yr old and 3 yr old... to this day I still walk by all the little girl clothes and dolls and wish, but that isn't happening anymore..lol don't get me wrong...I love my sons with all my heart and they bring a joy to my life that is indescribable.
please don't be scared! raising boys is so much fun...yes there are all the fleets of cars and trucks that my feet always seem to find to step on...lol and the skinned knees from riding bikes like a stuntman...lol and of course all the sports that they may have an interest in...personally I never thought I would enjoy high school wrestling...but I admit it...I do! not because of the sport itself, rather it is that my son enjoys it sooo much and he is good at it!! every time I go I am like this "proud mom" and when I hear all the people cheering him on....I say that is MY son. I am proud to be a mom to such wonderful boys...sure I have made some mistakes in the past, but we all do....we are only human and kids don't come with instructions...lol But I am trying to raise them to be caring members of society that show compassion to others and so far it is working.

Answer 6

My first child is a boy.
I remember being slightly, unconsciously jealous at the tenderness of the relationship between my mother and brother....My mom and I were close, but there was just a "something" there that I could never touch. He grew into a young man that adored her in turn...
My baby boy is now seven, and I will caution you that boys are definitely made to MOVE. As they grow, they tend to like being physical (roughhousing), playing with bugs, etc. They end up with bruises on their knees, cut lips, etc...and you will often wonder where the heck these injuries came from...
And yet, that little guy will always need his mommy's snuggles, and the sticky (from god-knows-what) little kisses he gives you will be the best kisses EVER! There is nothing more precious than the first flower a little boy picks to bring to his mommy......
You will love every second of being his mother.
Enjoy!

Answer 7

I was in the same spot. I love dresses, ribbons lace and pretty things. Then I found out I was having a son. I was horrified! After a few months my husband convinced me it would be better for our future daughter to have an older brother to protect her. Four boys later I finally have my girl. I am now wondering why I wanted a girl. She is whiny, demanding and high maintenance. She loves her dresses and ribbons and shoes with heels that will make noise when she stomps across the floor. Yes, my boys run and jump and climb and scream. The bring me bugs and find dead things cool. But they are also very loving, kind and bring me flowers from my flower beds, kill spiders and bring me a joy. A "girly" mother can raise wonderful boys. God knows what he is doing. I know that now. Had I had my daughter first we would be a family of 3 rather than 7 and I would have missed out on the best part of motherhood. My boys don't care that I don't race or ramp bikes, play ball or climb trees. They are happy with my watching and praying for their safety.

Answer 8

I am the mother of three boys and a girl. I was also a girly-girl and couldn't figure out the "Boy-thing" to save my life!!! Honestly, boys are amazing! They can be loud and wild, but so can my daughter (who is equally as girly as I was!) My sons are 15, 14 and 7 and I have such a special relationship with them. Having a "mama's boy" is the best part. The cuddle time and the quiet time is so different than with a girl. Boys want a mom's approval and unconditional love and want to be next to mom all the time.

Boys are such a joy! I understand how you are feeling. When I was pregnant with our 4th, I wanted to know what it was so that if it was another boy I could grieve not having a daughter. Be excited! You will adore him when he's here and you will have more love in return than you'll know what to do with!!!

Answer 9

Boys are wonderful. I have 2 daughters and a little man and there is something about having a child of the opposite sex that really chokes you up. I have wonderful relationships with my daughters but my son is different to me. I've even seen a therapist about it and it's very common for a mother to feel a certain connection with a son that she doesn't feel with her daughters. It is why we have "momma's boy's" and "daddy's little girls". My husband jokes all the time that he is completely "in love" with our daughters and I am the same way with my son. It's just something that happens when you have a child of the opposite sex.

You will be a wonderful mother and you will learn as he grows. In my experience, boys are much easier than girls are too. MUCH easier.

Answer 10

Well I had four boys before I had a little girl. I wouldn't really say that there's much difference between the sexes, but all children are different. My boys all have very different personalities. My first was very outgoing and confident, not shy or clingy at all. My second was terribly clingy towards me but at the same time enjoyed meeting lots of people and doing things (as long as I was there). My third was really placid and laid back and my fourth was very shy. When I had my little girl, she was very smiley and outgoing. You will be fine with your little boy and if you have more children you will see just how different they can be. You may have a quiet shy little boy or a loud outgoing little girl. Try not to worry everything will fall into place. Oh and congratulations!

Answer 11

I don't have kids yet, but I am positive that God gave you a boy just so you can see that having a boy is a diffrent expiriance yes but its also great, and who knnows, maybe you will have a girl too someday! I am praying for you and I know that everything will turn out fine and you will love your little boy more than anything! You sound like a great person but you need to think of all the great things about having a boy instead of a girl will be. When that boy grows up you don't want to be telling him that you were heartbroken because you wanted him to be a girl, you want to be telling him that you were sp happy and having him changed your life forever! Good luck to you and Happy Easter!