Im 20 yr old muslim girl. dont practice to much but want to start learning more. I had a muslim bf, hes taken my virginity, i thought we were going to get married, but it looks like hes gone off me now, am i ever going to be be able to find a decent husband now? thats all i want. i know whats right or wrong, but i was in love.. i now want to be forgiven?
2007-04-06 01:02:29 · 14 answers · asked by yo 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
salam sister
its alrite now tht uve understood ur mistake n want 2 repent. Allah's door of forgiveness is always open 4 us. dun worry abt gettin a husband. Allah will make it easy 4 u, jus obey His commands 4m now on.
May Allah guide u Ameen
2007-04-06 01:07:12 · answer #1 · answered by NS 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I do not know whether a strict Muslim will want you, but is that the only way?
When I married a Catholic before I was 16, and joined the Catholic Church as a result, I knew that they did not permit divorce. (They've gotten more liberal since, but in those days it was a very big deal indeed.) When I realized that I had to leave him or suffer more bruises and possibly worse injuries at his hand, I realized that leaving him was effectively leaving the Church. I made that decision on the basis of the fact that plenty of other people have left the Church and they seem to be happy. Sure, we are told all about hell and purgatory and all that, but there are other people who do not believe in that. I jumped for my physical safety's sake, and I do not regret it.
Is there such a thing as a man who is "sort-of" Muslim, as there are men who are Jewish because their parents were, or Catholic because they were baptized, or whatever? Are there men who, while professing no religion, or a religion of which you have little knowledge, but are nonetheless good men? Of course there are!
I do not know if forgiveness is possible in the Muslim world. I do know that elsewhere virginity is not expected of most brides.
2007-04-06 01:14:09 · answer #2 · answered by auntb93 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
"virginity" is never a condition of marriage for Muslim man and woman in Islam. Loosing virginity does not indicate any sin or crime in Islam (either men or women). In Islam it is sin to have fornication with consent. And this sin is punishable only if it is proven in the court of law through 4 witnesses. Since, in the mentioned case the sin cannot be proven in the court of law with the 4 witnesses, there is no punishment until the sinner himself confess the sin. The issue has nothing directly to do with marriage of the person. ( this rule is also for both men and women) For women, mere breaking of hymen or pregnancy does not proves the sin. Breaking of hymen or pregnancy does not proves anybody's consent. If a person commits the sin of fornication/adultery and not punished in the court of law due to lack of proofs, it is upon God to punish the sinner on the day of judgement. However, God is merciful and benevolent and ready to listen if a servant repent and turn towards Him. You can send me a message if you want further clarification.
2016-04-01 00:22:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you wish to remain in the Muslim faith/community, it will be very very difficult for you now to find a husband.
Muslim men from certain regions of Africa are a little more understanding. You are talking about a religion where it is unholy to touch the Quran before or after intimate relations and you have slept with a Muslim man outside of marriage.
I think you should try to consult a family member - a woman fo course - for further guideance. I personally find no shame in what you have done but you have aligned yourself with a religion that does.
Pray that Allah sends you a husband who will understand. Part of me wants to tell you to lie about what has happened, but that may not be the right thing. Since it sounds like you wish to remain Muslim. I will pray for you too.
I wish you the best. :)
2007-04-06 01:17:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
when your searching for love dont bring religion into it. Are u doing anything bad to mankind if u fall in love with a non muslim ? what bad things are u doing which are moraly wrong ?
Nothing.
Dont let ur religion come in the way of love. If u do good things in life and help ppl god will see this, coz at the end of the day we are all created by god, so no one religion is better than another.
2007-04-06 01:11:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
you will find a person who will love you for you, not for that piece of skin in your vagina...love is great, you felt it, he probably didn't, learn from your experiences, some are tougher than others, but that's what we are here for, take good care of yourself :)
anyway, if you are living in a strict muslim environment, or if it's going to be a scandal, there are doctors who stitch back your virginity, simple operation, sorry you had to go through all this
2007-04-06 01:15:23 · answer #6 · answered by Sahar 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sure, why not.
God is Merciful, Forgiving, Understanding and Loving.
If you are sincere, then you are forgiven. Simple as that. Just find a more responsible and understanding man next time, alright?
2007-04-06 01:06:49 · answer #7 · answered by Adia Azrael 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Everyone makes mistakes. Dont worry about it. As long as you reallize it. There will be somebody out there that will love you for who you are and forgive your past.
2007-04-06 01:15:21 · answer #8 · answered by Nanook~Maybe I need a longer Name?~ 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
God will forgive you if you have truly realised the mistakes and asked Him for forgiveness.
After all, God is Merciful.
2007-04-06 11:21:14 · answer #9 · answered by Wanderer 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its between you and ALLAH. Ask for mercy and pray for forgiveness.
May ALLAH guide you well.
2007-04-06 01:28:17 · answer #10 · answered by Proud Muslim 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋