Need advice for my relationship, Have we lost it?

Question

We have been dating for nearly a year. I love her more than anything, but she says we lost "it". That confuses me. I would like to know how to bring "it" back. Any time I try to do somthing it blows up in my face. She is late on her period, but the pregnancy tests both said negative. She seems to think the is still pregnant regardless. Lately she has been more moody than normal. Normally when she says somthing mean to me I just take it and move on. But it keeps getting worse and worse. She yells at me when im not even doing anything alot. I'll call her and be like "Whatcha doin?" and she just snaps back "Nothing, why are you trying to be my daddy?". I'm like "I was just asking." and again she will snap back somthing like "Well don't". I dont know what to do. Lately I have been real depressed, or at least thats what other people say. They say I havn't been acting right. I'm just confused and lost and dont know who to turn to anymore. Please help me if you can.

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Answer 1

Hey you,

It sounds like you are too nice to her and you take it all the time. She seems to be upset and always taking it out on you. That is not a relationship. You should find a happy dedicated person that is nice to you as you are to others. You should NOT take this abuse. I think you should shut her off for a while and let her do without you and see if she really is worth it if she comes looking for you if not let her go. You seem like a real nice guy you shouldn't let anyone treat you like that. And last but not least if you do all for someone don't forget about you. You are fogetting bout you and you're ending up depressed. I felt so bad for you. You will find yourself happier when you surround yourself with good friends when you separate yourself from this mean girl. Good luck.

Honestly,
Martie S.

Answer 2

Hi Bradley's Mum.. wow, lot's to digest huh ? Well, honestly I have never been in this situation before, but your boyfriend has a lot of emotional stuff going on right now. He took on an awesome responsibility, and now it looks as though the baby's Dad is coming back into the picture. Somehow it seems to me that maybe your boyfriend is feeling invaded somehow. The Dad leaves you, he comes along and takes care of you and loves the baby and all at once Daddy pops back up in the piicture. He may not feel "needed" anymore? Give him some space. Let him sort things out. He does seem as though he cares very much for you and the child (obviously) but at the same time, maybe it would be nice if the Daddy actually took more responsibility for the child. Your boyfriend is moving out of the way to see what happens. I think he's doing more of a courageous thing than a bad thing. If he loves you, he will be back. In the meantime, don't contact hin in any way. Let him contact you if he wants to. Stand your ground with your EX and make him me responsible for the baby financially, that's HIS responsibility and maybe your bf was gettting a little overwhelmed ?? I think you should ride this out with patience, and know that no matter what, things will work our for you. If the bf should decide to break if off with you, then you are better off without him. You will see. Hold your head up high, breathe in and breathe out, the days will go by and time will take care of all of this. Just keep that baby the number one priority ! Good Luck !

Answer 3

I think your girlfriend has got a problem.If you are not domineering and possessive and upon calling her,she snaps back at you,that is not normal,unless in the past she has been in abusive relationships.If so. she needs to get some help with that because she can not tell the difference between someone who is possessive and someone who genuinley cares for her,afterall most people appreciate a phonecall to see how they are doing..I would also ask why does she continues in the relationship if its lost and why you continue if she tells you this and she continues to hurt you.If she does not love you anymore then she should disolve the relationship now,and you should cut your losses now.I am sure you can find someone else who would appreciate your sinceretyBy the way if you are having these problems why would you not be more careful about bringing a little one in the picture? good luck..

Answer 4

If you two have some gotten into some kind of depressing mode and if that's causing all this, one thing you can try. Book a nice weekend vacation, take her there, don't push any discussion but just try to talk about things easily when you are there. That changed relaxed environment might do good for a bit down relationship.

Answer 5

For your own sake...you need to get out of this relationship. She's obviously not ready or willing to work things out and make the relationship stronger. You don't want to spend the rest of your life this way...trust me, it would be brutal and lead to severe depression. Just back off awhile and see if she calms down enough to have a rational conversation. If she's unwilling to communicate with you...then you have to move on before you get in too deep to get out (in other words...now is NOT the time to have a baby or get married)

Answer 6

What is the use of you loving a girl who is no more having same love and respect for you?
Love is gotta be mutual and equal other than that is a degradation and meanness in both dignity and feelings. Don't regret you've been patient with her but she has finally chosen her way.
Find a life for you too.

Good luck.

Answer 7

If the b*tch ain't pregnant... dude get the F away from her. Go find another piece of A, and move on. If she's like that just after a year, imagine what she'll be like in 5 more. You wanna waste your time on that?

Answer 8

yikes! i don't know how to say this nicely so im just gonna say it. it sounds like your relationship is pretty much over just no one has made it official. she says you lost it and when a relationship loses it there ain't no way to get it back once its gone its gone for good. even if you tried to get what you lost back neither of you sound happy. so save yourself more heartache then necessary and end it for her happiness and yours. good luck :)

Answer 9

Sounds like she is very unhappy. I am not too sure you can save it. You can try by asking her to go to couples therapy with you. If she refuses, she really doesn't want to continue the relationship.

Answer 10

the way she is acts like that , she doesn't love you anymore. try to talk with her so that you can move on. remember she is not the only female in the world. you need to find one that make you happy. we only have one life and we should enjoy it.