when your parents talk about you right in front of you like you aren't there, and they say things that actually hurt to hear?
2007-04-06 00:16:11 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hey Allison, have you tried talking to your parents about this? Maybe they aren't even aware of it. Sometimes parents do this to get a point accross to their kids, like if they don't listen any other way. And sometimes it really is like I said, they aren't aware of what it is they are doing. I am the Mom of a 15 yr. old and communication is a key word between my son and I. We talk a lot and if there is something he does I don't like, I do try to talk to him about it first. And vice versa. However, sometimes I do talk to other adults (like his grandparents or a good friend) to discuss certain situations just to get their opinion. I do it not to be mean or to hurt his feelings but rather to see if he is really listening. Mostly though, and we've always done this, we talk one on one when a problem arises. Well, like I said Hon, your parents may not even be aware of it. Talk to them, keep your cool and be nice in your approach. Explain why certain things hurt your feelings and that you'd rather have them discuss it with you first. As long as you say it respectfully and ask your parents that it would improve your relationship between you guys, I am sure, they will listen. If you can't get anywhere with them and get too frustrated, you might want to turn to a trusted person (another relative, a good friend of the family, that knows both you and your parents or even a school counselor) might be able to intervene. Hope you can get this resolved before the situation gets out of hand and ends in a shouting match between you and them. Good Luck, sweetie, and hang in there. Teenage years can be tough :) Take care, MsB.
2007-04-06 00:34:15 · answer #1 · answered by MSB1963 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had that happen. You could tell them that it hurts that they talk about you like you aren't there, and the things they are saying are hurtful. I know it is hard, but if you can overcome this with your parents...When you are introduced to the harshness of the outside world, you will be able to speak up for yourself. People can't read your mind and so you must tell them when you need to get your point of view heard. You will feel much better if you do this. But only do what you are comfortable doing. I feel the pain you are talking about. You deserve to be treated with more dignity than that.
2007-04-06 07:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i think that has happened to most people. My parents do it to me all the time. For example, if I'm in my room and they're in the kitchen, they can be talking (loudly) about how irresponsible I am and other things like that. It can really get you down sometimes
2007-04-06 07:23:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what they're talking about..maybe they want you to hear it so you will feel ashamed or guilty and this is not the way to parent I assume.
It's more on the line of abuse of some kind I think.
I'd start getting on the phone or have someone over and talk about them in fornt of them to show them what they are doing and how it feels....
2007-04-06 07:25:00 · answer #4 · answered by Gary G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it does happen!! i too experience such situation and what i do is to switch on my music system or open the television with a loud sound or put an earphone in my ears and act as if i m not interested in their talk at all. they talk in front of me to make me feel guilty but what if i m not hearing them!!! TRY IT !!!!!!!!
2007-04-06 07:27:20 · answer #5 · answered by hannah s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think any longer but I think it used to happen often. Parents who do that don't seem to do it to anyone besides their own children.
2007-04-06 10:25:32 · answer #6 · answered by Jonathan H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes absolutely. they talk crap about me all the time, i hate that... cuz it always hurt (and its not even true) i try my best to ignore all the negative stuff - but at the end of the day it hurts bad, cuz after all its your own family talkin about you.
2007-04-06 08:10:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they think that's the only way you'll listen. Talk to them. They're the ones who know.
2007-04-06 08:57:56 · answer #8 · answered by mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think parents cnt hurt thr own children...n it is good tht they r saying it in a way we cn hear them... nt in a way by which we wnt be able to hear them.. i think by tht they wana make us feel tht we r doing som thin wrong... i knw we'll get hurt... bt if they tell us straight away in our face,, i think we'll get more hurt.. so in a way its good...
2007-04-06 08:04:41 · answer #9 · answered by Tunir S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak up, but be polite. Your feelings count .
2007-04-06 07:19:23 · answer #10 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋