WHY ARE MOMS SO OVERPROTECTiVE????

Question

OMG this just ticks me off. Parents on the forums saying that a 14 year old does not understand violence in a movie. A 14 YEAR OLD UNDERSTANDS ABOUT EVERYTHING IN A R RATED MOVIE!


There is absoloutly nothing wrong with a 14 year old viewing a bare breast or violence in a good movie, they are FULLY aware. Parents are sheltering their kids way too much and thats going to ruin the kids.

Answer 1

Sounds like a 14 year old not allowed to view an R rated movie to me...

Answer 2

The movie has ratings and rules. If it is R, you don't go in if you are underage. That's the way it is. Of course, if the parent brings the kids then it's ok. NC17 means no kids under any circumstances.

What you are missing here is that as a parent, it is my duty to safeguard my child. I want her to expand her intelligence, meet interesting people, travel and have a diverse list of interests.
One 14 year old may be so used to seeing violence, you maybe?, that you think it's not an issue. My family doesn't watch murders in movies and when something nasty comes on tv, they are the first to change the channel. They, at their young ages of 10 and 12 have morals instilled in them that will help them get through life's challenges. A teenager does not have to watch killings, gore, nudity, or violence to become a better person.
It is wonderful when a child is responsible and has learned to care for pets, friends, family, and volunteers in communtiy clean up events. Do you see what I"m trying to say?
The question I ask back to you is, why do you feel that 14 year olds need to watch nudity and violence?

Answer 3

Actually i think that moms are being right in being protective. These kind of scenes can really have an effect on a child's mind. I'm 15 myself and about a month or so back i saw the last king of scotland with a friend. This movie sickened me. The other problem was that i saw this movie against my parents and that too during exam tim. Some scenes in it were very hard to forget and i almost ended up flunking my exam because of the kind of graphically explicit scenes in the movie. Horomones are bursting at our age and these things can also stay and get etched in our mind longer than most people. So i'd say let moms be overprotective to a n extent. It's good for the children.

Answer 4

Take 60 seconds and just breathe. Now that you've calmed down, do it again. And when you're breathing and not being angry, just say to yourself "My mom loves me." Because she does.

Yes, there is something wrong with a 14-year-old viewing an R-rated movie. First of all, you need to be at least 17 or have adult supervision.

Second of all, if you were to attend an R-rated movie (supervised or unsupervised) it is a direct reflection on your parents and their parenting skills. Allowing an underage child to attend an R-rated movie means that either (a) your parents are REALLY lenient, (b) your parents aren't paying close attention to the films you go see, or (c) your parents didn't even know you went to the movies.

It has been my experience that moviegoers under the age of about 16/17 often lack a certain level of respect for their fellow moviegoers. Additionally, a lot of the content in R-rated movies are intended for adult viewers who have a better understanding of what is going on. Why show a sex scene to a 14-year-old who is not legally old enough to have sex?

I'm not saying that I didn't watch movies rated to high for me to see when I was your age, because I did. My parents just went about it in what I believe was a successful manner. They would rent R-rated movies (remember when people used to rent movies from an actual store? I miss that...) from Blockbuster after reviews came out and after, depending on the movie, they already saw it. There were certain movies they didn't want us to watch because they thought they were too violent, but as we became older they became more lenient.

Please give your parents time. Most parents don't like to think of their children as grown up... I know mine don't and I've been living away from home for about 5 years now. If you respect their wishes about seeing R-rated movies, you will gain their respect for being so mature about the situation. If you show yourself to be a mature 14-year-old and don't complain about the R-rated movie thing, then they will eventually come around... but likely with some caveats (ie: only movies that they've already seen; a parent must go with you to the theater; certain movies are off limits).

Give it time and don't try to grow up too fast. The whole being able to get into an R-rated movie is overrated anyway. Especially since all the awesome movies are PG-13 and lower (have you seen the new Pixar films??).

Answer 5

I know how you feel. I had a mom too who's so overprotective that she won't let me go to to subway to buy a sandwich or something. She thinks that subway is waaaay too unhealthy for me. You know how Saudi people act. Life over here is very restrictive and almost everything is forbidden. I'm not like those freaks!

About the R rated movie: There's nothing wrong if you watch movies like these with your age range but you have to understand your mother's point of view. Movies are rated for a reason. R means restricted. I'm living here in Saudi Arabia so i cant understand the differences between the ratings. At the least try to convince her that you're not a kid anymore.

Give her some time. I'm sure you can understand her point of view without any confrontations.

Sorry about my long answer but it's a pleasure and honor to answer your question. Thanks!

Answer 6

It's all about motherly love. Besides movies are rated for a reason. Kids pick up on what they see on TV, movies etc.
Don't take offense to your mother loving you. The harsh reality is regardless of how a 14 yr olds brain works, a mother is a responsible parent for at least keeping some of the violence and what not from being viewed.

Answer 7

Eh, I'm sixteen. I saw 300 the other day and there is plenty of extremely graphical violence in it, with some nudity.

Let me just say that after seeing it, the only difference that occured to me was that I was exhilirated to the point of jumping for joy after. It was a great movie. I did not have any nightmares. I understand clearly that none of what happened was real, it was just a movie. It's a very simple concept to grasp.

Parents are overprotective for two reasons, because they fear something will happen to their kids if they aren't, and because they do not think that their kids are smart or wise enough to fend for themselves. That's the cold, hard and unfortunate truth to the matter.

I supose you could call me mature though. My mother has been my friend for my entire life. Very little parenting was needed for me, because I was smart enough to evolve on my own while still making decisions that will reflect a good future for myself.

My mother has always been confident about me. She knows I'm smart enough to make my own decisions and understands clearly that petty things such as porn or violence don't affect me. Why would they? What does seeing an image truly do to someone who is sentient? Teenagers are given way too little credit from my own observations and experiences.

Answer 8

i dont see how seeing a rated R film makes a parent over protected...yes a 14 year old might understand those things...but its rated R for a reason...but if you realize alot of movies now are pg-13 that should be rated R... to me what an over protected parent is..not letting their child go out and do things with their friends..always having to stay home...being overly stricted...its good to have a parent some what protect their child to an extent...b.c once you get older you would thank them for you not ending up on the streets...

another example of a over protected parent..my mom when she was younger wasnt allowed to ice skate...roller skating..swim..and so many other things..to this day..my mom is 50 something and does not know how to swim...

Answer 9

I know what you mean. I knew kids whose parents were so strict, didn't let them stay out past 10 on weekends, didn't let them go to parties or watch r rated movies until 17...and now they're getting their first taste of freedom now that they're in college and they're drinking like crazy and humping everyone. I guess their parents meant to insyill values, but instead they instilled restlessness that's now manifesting itself in 4 years of hard partying. That being said, the motion picture academy rated the R movie for people 17 and older, and that's why parents try to follow those guidelines. But some go overboard, I know.

Answer 10

It really depends on the maturity level of the child and the nature of the film.
My mom was always really lenient towards letting me view violent or horror movies, but always really conservative about letting me see things with graphic sex. I'm 28 now, and I don't think this was a terrible idea considering how many young girls are pregnant where I live.