I have never been raped or molested nor had bad expereiences with men but I can't keep boyfriends because I have problems showing affections. I am afraid and I think too much before I dare to touch a guy or stand close to him. When he touches me or sits close to me, I want to sit closer and remain there but I flinch. I love them I don't feel uncomforable around them it's jjust a problem with myself.
I can't show that I care too. My first reaction to anything is to withhold my smile or care. I can't break free of myself. There is something holding me back
2007-04-05 20:02:44 · 8 answers · asked by adrienne 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is normal.
You are perfectly all right. it's just the pattrn with opposite sex.
you will know the answer very soon by your self. Be confident & be as you are.::
2007-04-05 22:31:30 · answer #1 · answered by Dilantha2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, your unwillingness to give of yourself. Are you a selfish person? Did you have a loving childhood, or did you feel the need to be alone--away from your family? There are many reasons that people are afraid to open themselves to anyone else.
You may want to seek professional help to determine why you are so fearful of closeness. If you don't, you will probably spend the rest of your life wondering if you could have been happy with someone else. Good Luck!
2007-04-05 20:22:01 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think this needs a phsychiatrist. I have this problem too. I feel like i can't show affection for people. Maybe you have to fully trust the person and trust yourself to be strong in the end. No matter what happens, you'll always have yourself, but if you don't trust yourself, it's gonna be hard for you to reach out to something when you care about it.
2007-04-05 20:15:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is to short, don't let it hold you back. What are you afraid of honey, we all get hurt in one way or anouther. I lost my husband to a car fire 9 and a hallf years ago. I watched my life go up in flames, but no matter what anyone says life goes on. We get hurt we go on. Those that I called my friends now call me a murderer. They were once my friends. I miss them, but they are not my life. My late husband is my life, what he wanted, what he is, is my life. You can get hurt and go on. My ex husband had no understanding of this. That is why he is my ex. I Wasn't allowed to even think of my late husband, now I'm living the happyness that I had with him, and also the happyness I can have with my new , soon to be husband, You can not ever give up life experience, if you choose to forgo that, then you choose to forgo life. Please my dear don't forgo LIFE!!!!!! Allow yourself to live!!!
2007-04-05 20:25:46 · answer #4 · answered by sandybug03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe that something is your conscience! Try communicating with the guys, because if they really cared about you they should be willing to show/teach or wait for you! Don't beat yourself up about hun.
2007-04-05 20:07:11 · answer #5 · answered by Nek Nek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever thought about going to a psychologist for this? I think you might want to consider that.
2007-04-05 20:06:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey I feel the same way. I'm not sure why too but something's telling it has something to do with self-consciousness.
2007-04-05 20:16:35 · answer #7 · answered by xoijdn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm....I also have this problem when I got couple when my boyfriend he reproached me that I don`t have enough trust in him ...that was then...at first i was like you but in time he won my trust.I think that`s your problem...that you don`t have enough trust in your boyfriends but if they truly love you in time you`ll be another girl without this kind of problems...believe me :D
2007-04-05 20:45:20 · answer #8 · answered by Lia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋