Now, I've never been into a relationship and have came close a few times. But it makes me sick and disgusted when guys put that ultimatum on women like that. Even if he does get some, he might be dumping you anyway like your like a used car and go with something better.
I believe if he's asking you to have sex or dumping you, than he's probably not the right guy for you. If he was the right man for you, he would respect your decisions to not get off on him. That's just me. We all have our beliefs and morals, unfortunately not everyone in the world can be on the same page.
What do you think? If you've been in a situation much similar to this, I like to know your experiences and how you felt being used like that?
2007-04-05 19:48:27 · 30 answers · asked by *One Of A Kind* 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have never given in to this ultimatum. Girls who do usually end up heartbroken.
Girls need to realize their own value and understand that this guy who is demanding to use your body isn't God. He's just a horny jerk.
The few times this has happened to me, I have always ended the relationship.
That is usually followed by pathetic attempts to get me back that go nowhere. If you give me an ultimatum, you'd better be prepared for me to take you up on it.
Nice to hear from a guy who thinks this behavior is reprehensible as well.
2007-04-05 19:55:25 · answer #1 · answered by Firespider 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Good Morning...I do believe you have answered your own question! In my opinion, guy's that treat women as such are not men and haven't grown up as yet. These certain one's are being "selfish" and thinking about their own ego and satisfaction then thinking of the woman. They must not have respect for themselves if they give the woman and ultimatum and certainly no repsect for the woman. Fortunately I haven't experienced something like this but I imagine there are those that have, which is an unfortunate mishap. But to be honest...I don't believe that this type of situation is going on like it has in the past. Women have become more independent and quite alot smarter when it comes to relationships and don't let their guards down. They have become more wiser thru learning experiences or others experiences to where situations such as this is less frequent. Have a great day!
2007-04-06 00:58:37 · answer #2 · answered by shuggabhugga05 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not silly to have your own opinion that's what makes us all unique. (Smile) And what about your needs? Have you stopped and thought about that? Are you sexually active and/or open to a sexual relationship? Never go for second best! If you give in to him now you'll be setting yourself up for a bleak future together cause when he asks you for something next time he's going to expect you to give in to that too. The thing with guys is that they dont think into things as much as we chicks do,they figue if they get it out there then they'll know sooner or later how the chick feels. Most importantly, as long as you stay true to yourself and set your own boundries and only commit to things you feel comfortable with, then you can never go wrong.
2007-04-05 20:36:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That has never come up in my life, but if a guy were to say that to me I would dump him on the spot, even if I DID want to have sex with him. I don't like ultimatums, and presenting one like that just proves you are an as$h0le.
2007-04-05 19:54:06 · answer #4 · answered by ☭ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to !$??*** OFF! Yeah it makes you feel like crap and more than likely you are more into him than he is into you. He is totally not even worth wasting your time with. You have to do what feels right for you now and in the long run. The relationship may not end now but the way it sounds it will end eventually and then how would you feel if you gave into something you really didn't want to do.
2007-04-05 19:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by jenjocpaige1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This situation hasn't happened to me, but the best advice is to not give in to his ultimatun for more than the obvious reasons. yeah, 1st of all he will most likely dump you within 2 months, 2. he is a controlling asshole, and 3 once you give in to one demand...he has lost some respect for you even though he got his way.
But, keep in mind, its to your benefit too at some point to :take the car for a test drive before you buy it!!!
2007-04-05 21:50:58 · answer #6 · answered by R H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of good answers. If I had a girlfriend who did not respect my virginity(25/m here), I would dump her on the spot and find another girlfriend who was not some horny pervert and actually respected me as a human and not a piece of meat.
2007-04-05 19:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my gf really gets on my case for not having as much of a sexual drive as her. she has never actually threatened to break up over it, but you should be aware that sex issue goes both ways.
unfortunately, sex is important for adults, and you have to respect somebody's need for sex.
if you are under 18 or haven't been dating for 6 months, everything is different. go masterbate in the shower if you are frustrated
2007-04-05 19:54:13 · answer #8 · answered by viensmevoir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never done that, but if the guy says that, that is about as good of an indicator as having the letters "p u s s y" tattooed on the knuckles of one hand, and "b o o b s" on the other.
What does that tell you?
2007-04-05 19:53:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be totally honest, If that is all he keeps wanting then i would let him dump you and you will find a guy that will respect you for yourself..
You dont need someone like that...
2007-04-05 19:51:56 · answer #10 · answered by debbie 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋