I'd like your opinion please!?

Question

I was outside of work on a smoke break. A guy in a car drove up and said " You looked so fine from behind that I wanted to stop and say hi." So I said thanks and thought he'd leave. He kept asking me questions and I didn't really want to give him any information about myself, so I said that I had to go, and he said I was being a bi*ch. I thought I had been nice enough to talk to this guy I didn't even know.Do guy's really think this is a good way to meet a woman? Was I being a bi*ch? What should I have done?

Answer 1

it's jerks like him that make it so hard for guys like me to be trusted. no, you are no b****. i apologize that many of my gender are so ignorant and demeaning.

Answer 2

That crap happens to me all the time. There isn't anything you can do. I had some creepy guy look me up and down, stare at my chest then say "God bless you". I minded my own business and kept walking because he was a stranger and he yelled, "You should say 'thank you', you bi*ch!'. I've also had some guys threaten to shoot me because I refused to get in their car after they slowly followed me down the street for 10 minutes, harassing me. I get cursed out all the time if I refuse to talk to sleazy men who hit on me. A lot of times, they will tell me how sexy I am and if I don't reply, they start yelling about how I'm actually really ugly and nasty.

I have no CLUE why they do that. All I can think of is that it actually works with some women because why else would they keep doing it? All you can do is walk away and try to forget about it. One guy came up behind me and stuck his hand between my legs and grabbed my crotch. I turned around and kicked him in the shin and he pulled back his fist to punch me in the face. His friend had to hold him back and then they both told me I was a 'c*nt'. It happened on a busy sidewalk while I was waiting for a slice of pizza. It's insane and there's nothing we can do.

Answer 3

You were not being a female dog. He was being a jackass!

I get hit on multiple times a week at work, and some of them are nice and simply talk to me a for a moment (I have a boyfriend and I tell them that always) and when I tell thema bout my man, they leave me be. Some of them are so shady! And they just won't leave me alone and such and when I get rude they tell me I am being a female dog and I laugh at them. Seriously. Men are fools to think this is a good way to meet a woman.

Comedian Elaine Boosler once said the reason women don't yell at men from their cars is because we know that they will try to get in the car and go home with us!

You thanked him for the compliment. Really. You were under no obligation to talk to him at all beyond that.

Answer 4

You were definitely not being a b-tch! If anybody was acting retarded here, it was the guy. Plus, he shouldn't have just judged you by your behind. It's disgusting, creepy, and just plain strange. Most guys aren't like this and you were doing the right thing by walking away. He was a total stranger anyway ... how would you know if he was a psycho escaped from a mental institute or just a normal guy? Good thing you escaped, even if he did call you a b-tch.

If you see this dude again, walk away as fast as possible or linger with a large group of people. And don't make conversation with him.

Good luck ... hope I helped!

Answer 5

You definately were not in the wrong. You were kind enough to talk to him, but i understand totally what you mean. When a person you dont know invades your personal space it can be very confronting and downright rude. You have the right to say that your not interested, or in this case "you had to go". Feeling uncomfortable about something can sometimes be the worst thing in the world.

He was the one who was rude. If you are not interested, then your not interested plain and simple. Think of it this way...what is better? Walking away because your not interested? Or staying and talking to him even though you didnt want to? You did the best thing for you. Dont beat yourself up about it.

Answer 6

You were nicer than I would have been - I wouldn't have even talked to the guy. I don't know why guys think they can get anywhere acting like that. The only thing more you should have done is told your manager or somebody so they could maybe watch out for him - you can't trust anybody and especially when he went from calling you "so fine" to a "*".

Answer 7

not all guys r like that.u said that he drove up and said:"you looked so..........and say hi"question is-the way he told u that,why did u said thanx?,and why did u kept on answering his questions?i think this why he said you're a bi,,,ch sorry for mentioning it.THE THING IS,HIS APPROACHING WERE WRONG,AND IF A GUY IS INTERESTED IN A LADY THAT'S NOT THE WAY TO APPROACH.I'm not praising myself but wouldn't do like that.u brought that bi...ch thing over yourself by answering his questions.DO NOT DO IT AGAIN.

Answer 8

u were not being a bi*ch, he was acting like a dog
u should have slapped him for calling u that
no, this is a stupid, desperate way to talk to a girl
u did the right thing by leaving

Answer 9

The guy sounds like a jerk; next time something like this happens, though, I think I'd turn and walk away - there are too many weirdos out there to risk talking to ANYBODY who approaches you in a vehicle these days.

I'm glad you're safe - stay that way!

Answer 10

He obviously thinks he's God's gift to women.

If he hadn't called you a b*tch, then he would have yelled 'Lesbian!' at you. He just didn't understand why you didn't immeidately jump into his arms. After all, he must have spent at least two minutes of his invaluable time on you, and was looking for a payout.

Don't worry, move on, because you did the right thing.

Answer 11

The problem is him, not you. He was trying to probe way too deep, and you had every right to be concerned. That guy was potential stalking material, and he was ticked at the fact that he wasn't getting the info he needed to carry out his psychotic tendencies.