Should I invite my ex boyfriend I was with for 5 years 2 my wedding hes now married too????

Question

We broke up like 2 and a half years ago and we havent really talked but im inviting his two brothers and yes i would invite his wife also!!

He and his wife probably wouldnt even come.

Answer 1

Depands what kind of feelings you still have for him, or how your husband to be also feels about him.
If you're friends... then why not.

Answer 2

I'm having the almost exact same issue. I wanted to invite my ex boyfriend who is married now with a baby on the way to my wedding.
The question for you here is are you going to be okay with having him at the wedding and will he be okay at the wedding. If you are very good friends now than by all means i would suggest you talk to your fiance about inviting him. But if there could possibly be lingering feelings and/or history that could catch up then i'd suggest you shouldn't.

Unfortunately even if you are close friends and you love his wife and want her there as well you should still talk to your fiance about inviting him and his wife. In my cause my ex and i get along great and there is no lingering tension nor feelings for eachother anymore. The problem was my fiance. When i suggested inviting my ex he said it would make him very uncomfortable to have that ex at the wedding just because he and i had such a close bond.

In the end my fiance said he would rather me not invite that particular ex boyfriend to the wedding, but that my other ex who i am best friends with now is more than welcome to come.

So i would seriously consider what your fiance wants because it is his day too and you don't need an unhappy and uncomfortable groom on your happiest day. Plus any tension between the your fiance and your ex if you insist he comes and your fiance doesn't want him there. So talk it over with him first before you make any decisions.

If the answer is no, don't be too upset. It's an insecurity. My worst problem was explaining to my ex that as much as i would love for him to be there that it would be too uncomfortable for my fiance and that we would have to celebrate at a later time going on a double date with his wife and my then husband.

Good Luck

Answer 3

Married or not, inviting your long-time (ex) boyfriend to your wedding sounds like a recipe for disaster. What could go wrong? It would be easier to try to speculate on what could go right. Your husband-to-be might be upset (even if he thinks he's okay with it now, his feelings could change when he sees your ex at the wedding). Your ex could say something terribly personal and embarrasing, either as a blunder or out of a long suppressed resentment. Your ex-boyfriend's wife (presuming he brings her along) could make a scene. Another member of the wedding party could say something tacky or hurtful to your husband to be. Someone in the wedding party could say something mean to your ex. Well, you get the idea. The list just keeps on going and going and going...

Answer 4

I say yes invite him and his wife. As a matter of fact send them an in vitiation. Especially because you are inviting apart of his family. what was with the two of you is over, he married and you are getting married to the one that you love. if they don't come at least they were invited. Sometime when you don't invite them later down the road they pretend that they did not know or ask question as to why they were not invited. so I would. i went to my ex-boyfriend wedding and invite him to mine. We both got married in the same year. We are still friend. my husband know him and I knows his wife. I am still very close to his family. he love his wife and I love my husbands. we are still friend. we did not fall out. we kept it at a friend ship level. So their was no tension between the two of us as we got married to someone else.

Answer 5

Unless you've kept a relationship with your ex I really don't see the need to invite him or his wife to the wedding unless you would be doing it to prove something. Did he invite you to his wedding? Regardless if your not friends why bother?

Answer 6

I think it really depends on you and your fiance's relationship with him. My ex is the one who set me up with my current boyfriend so of course he wilb e at our wedding someday. (My ex came out a few years ago after we dated, so it's not like there would be any feelings beyond friendship there anways). My point is, it is really up to the two of you. Since your ex is already married and you seem on friendly terms with both him and hs wife, then invite him.

Answer 7

I am inviting my ex. We are still friends, it ended on friendly terms, he has a wife (who is coming as well) and I am inviting alot of our mutual friends anyways. My FI doesnt have a problem with it (I talked to him). So just see if your FI has any concerns. If not, go ahead....It would be courteous to invite them since you are inviting his brothers. (But if you feel it would be akward or your FI is opposed AT ALL...then dont do it)

Answer 8

yes if it doesn't bother your fiance. If your still close friends if your not still close friends why bother..If it bothers your fiance i would say no way.. he's an x do u really need his blessing? If it were me i wouldnt invite him i wouldn't want anything to put a damper on my wedding day. I'm sure his wife probably doesn't care to come to your wedding either.

Answer 9

I would normally say no, but the fact that you're inviting the brothers makes it more complicated. I think in this case the best thing to do is ask your fiance and go with whatever he says, no argument.

Answer 10

Thats a tough one. If you dont really talk to him anymore- I wouldnt. But that could be bad inviting his brothers and not him. Its totally up to you. Good Luck!

Answer 11

If He Didn't Try To Kill You Then I Would, It's No Big Deal If It Was That Long Ago And You Are Secure With Your New Relationship. If He Doesn't Go Then It's His Problem, If He Does Then It Shouldn't Be That Bad. It's A Nice Gesture If You Do Though...