Your kid is kidnapped in 5th grade. He doesnt resurface until he is 25. His kidnapper raised him. He asks you.

Question

Your kid is kidnapped in 5th grade. He doesnt resurface until he is 25. His kidnapper raised him. He asks you not to go after his kidnappers because he grew to love them even with their wrongdoings. What do you do?

This is all of course a theoritcial question and has no basis in reality.

Answer 1

Kidnapping is a federal offense. It doesn't matter what the parent and the now-grown kid want. The law will go after the perpetrator.

Answer 2

The easy answer is to say I would press charges and get my kid into counseling to understand that even though the kidnappers cared for him it was still illegal to take him. However, I don't think it would be that easy. Sure, I would be full of rage at these people kidnapping him but would I really want to jeopardize losing my son again, not from kidnappers but on his own accord. I think this is a question that could only be answered if it occurred.

Answer 3

i would say it depended on the kidnapper and what "wrong doings" were involved.

if it's the other parent that did the kidnapping, and no "abuse" occured during the time that the child was raised...i'd say let it go, because the child would probably take kidnapper's side and you would lose the child all over again.

i'd ask myself, why was the child kidnapped? before i'd go jumping into court. my child's feelings are more important than mine...so i'd have to take alot of these things into consideration.

most of all...make the most of the time you have now, a child at 25 is still young enough to have a nice relationship with, especially if he was with you til 5th grade.

Answer 4

Although this question is just in theory. I don't think it would matter. If the authorties were aware of the situation, they would go after him anyway. But if the authorities were not aware, i would probably do it anyway. The kidnapper didn't just deprive the child of his parents, they deprived the parents of their child. And now that my child is grown, the kidnapper would now be a danger to another family. NO DOUBT about it, I'd go after him. It would be morally irresponsible to allow the person the opportunity to do it again and destroy another family.

Does nobody recognize the threat this kidnapper would pose to other children?

Answer 5

You respect your child, and how they feel. But you also need to explain to them the pain and turmoil that you experienced during the time the they (the child) were missing. And in order to keep order in the world, you must make things right and report them(the kidnappers) to the police,so this will not happen to another family. If the child hates you, you must understand and respect them, but still try and maintain a relationship,because now they are an adult and will make their own decisions, and make your best effort to make an attempt at going to counseling together and trying to patch your relationship up with your child.But the key thing is to remember how your child grew up, to them,their parents were the kidnappers,and thats all that they have known. Try and rekindle memories,and tell them what life was like before they (the child) was kidnapped, to show them how things changed in your life when they disappeared.

I hope this situation never happens, but one thing I can truly suggest? Pray! Pray! Pray!
God will help you through it step by step!

Answer 6

That was also a plot on Star Trek, the Next Generation. They wound up leaving the child (Chad Allen) with the kidnapper to spare the child avoidable psychological trauma.

The question is, is the child's love for his abductor deserved or simply a manifestation of the Stockholm Syndrome?

Answer 7

I don't believe you have to do anything accept that the FBI will take care of the kidnapper regardless. Just let them know that the kidnapped child has shown up. The FBI likes to solve and close cases and put child kidnappers under the jail.

The childs syndrome is very common, people who have been kidnapped often become attached to their kidnappers after long periods of time.

If you don't report this you yourself can go to jail. Its that simple.

Answer 8

You go after the kidnappers because he has stockholm syndrome. It would be like not going after a battering spouse because the victim spouse loves the abuser.

What's love got to do with it? As far as the hypothetical son, if he didn't get that, he would need to think of other children who are left to be the prey of his kidnappers.

Answer 9

The cops would go after them so it wouldn't be my decision to make or my childs. I would want to make sure my child understood that kidnapping was very illegal and wrong on many levels or else he might feel it would be ok to repeat the act himself if he felt it was necessary but I wouldn't go after the kidnappers no, I would just let the cops do their job.

Answer 10

You would have no personal say in the matter-as this is a crime where the police would go after the kidnapper regardless. They would not need you or anyone else to press charges in such a crime.
But morally it is a interesting question.

Answer 11

The way I see it they stole my child from me. I've lived with fear and pain for that long not knowing anything about where he was or if he was alive. I would say to he** with them and take everything I could from them. After all they took the life you could have given your child from you.I would want to see them in prison for the rest of their life. Even though my child did grow to love them its because he didn't know any better. They were all he really had ever known. of course he would probably have feelings for them. Its a hard situation but I'm sorry I could not forgive someone that did something like that. I'd want to see justice served!!!!!