ok i am 22 my girlfriend 21 we have a little girl a year old .my girlfriend comes to me outta nowhere and is like we have been together to long . maybe we should take a break .im like what ? she says im not happy even when she seems fine and happy. okay your relationship is kinda weird. we live in separate towns about 30 miles away. yes this sucks i know we first was just kinda dating and stuff we fell for each other and she got pregnant. i go to her house 2-3 times a week and we stay the weekends together . im not happy with this and i want to live with her and my daughter. i have made countless attemps to make this happen and she is always ok with the idea to my face. and then ill get a text message on how she dont wanna make a commitment with living with me or buying a house.she now lives in her own apartment which she said i could spend the night whenever i want to but never asked me to live wit her . i love this girl and i dont want to be without her or my daughter what do i do ?
2007-04-05 18:31:21 · 11 answers · asked by ninecountton801 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont know what to do for the past 2 months we have had sex like 3 or 4 times. she says she has no desire for sex whatsoever . is this normal we do have a 1 year old daughter and ive read that after a kid some women have no desire for sex. which is fine im not with her for sex . i love her always has but now i love her even more she the mother to my child. shes a great mother shes smart , funny, thoughtful,beautiful, great at remembering stuff and best of all she isnt lazy. i just dont know how i will get over her if this does lead to a separation. we have been together 5 years and i was her first .im wondering if she wants to see what its like to be with other ppl and that kills me ive only been with 2 girl one before her and i have no interest whatsoever in any other girls .we still spend the weekends together i still give her money when she needs its and we have a good time . i try so hard to make her happy .i do everything for her even im hungry go get me somethin to eat at 2:00am
2007-04-05 18:43:58 · update #1
It takes two people to make any relationship work. Your girlfriend has told you several times and in several ways that she isn't ready to settle down yet. Maybe the two of you need to take a break. See what happens. Who knows? Maybe you'll decide that you really do belong together. Or maybe you'll decide that getting some space was the best thing you ever did. Point is, you cannot *make* her want to settle down with you. Either she wants to, or she doesn't. And right now she sounds like she doesn't. Let her go. See if she comes back. Either way, you have to move on.
2007-04-05 18:38:21 · answer #1 · answered by cherochap 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women rarely leave a man because of sex (unless he is absolutely horrible or selfish in bed).
Your girlfriend is probably just not ready for marriage. When she is ready it may or may not be you she wants to marry. It doesn't sound as if she is actively looking for someone else, however, since she lets you spend the night anytime. Just be patient, and spend as much time as you can with them. Even if the two of you split, you will need to keep a close relationship with your child both now and in the future.
There is absolutely nothing that you can do, but prove to her what type husband you would be, by being that way when you are with her.
2007-04-06 02:46:17 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its good to hear that you're a dedicated dad who loves and cares for your gf very much too. Anyway, you need to discuss with her why she doesnt want to be with you. You tried everything to show how much you care for her and the baby already. But she still isnt feeling that love for you anymore. So, you need to find out why. If she doesnt love you anymore, you just have to accept the fact that its possible that people lose interest after a very long time of being together.
2007-04-06 01:53:32 · answer #3 · answered by =P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is soo sweet.... iv never heard of a guy like u or even a situation like this where the girl has commitment phobia.... well talk to her n c but u cant push her into it.... you have a daughter you should really think about it a lot tell her that the greatest effect will be on your daughter n if she's really sure on breaking up dont hold on jus stay friends but u could also jus like hav a trial break like not speak to each other for like 2 weeks u could keep your daughter during that time n see if she misses either of u..... its worth a try
2007-04-06 01:43:14 · answer #4 · answered by thelibrandiva_666 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmmm....wt the behavior f ur gal i don thnk she thnks tat u will still love her after stayn wt her inthe same house><>>> dude lisn u neeed to talk wt her>.ok i understand the problem tat she isnt really willing to talk bou t but u WILL HAVE TO MAKE HER TALK>>>>> tie her up to a chair do watevre ! jus make her spill the beans>>mayb she has smthng against u wich dont know r mayb she thnks tat u r nt responsible enuf r watever altho u r ! so all im sayn is there is either a misunderstanding or she wants to move on coz mayb she found nother guy she like s near her place! i mean its possible id say the most posiible coz u ppl r seperated so jus ask her to b frank! and u tell hert hw much u want to b commited f she still wants to leav then my boy u will have to b ready 4 a lil break up>>>> look chnage is important in life>it makes u grow! so jus dont take ths to heart! be cool and u will b justified tat u didnt do nethng rong! 1 more advice>>in the future don t rush into relationships coz each of them will end up like ths wich u fdont want! cheers! all the best@
2007-04-06 01:42:11 · answer #5 · answered by jo_danfan 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm thinking she doesn't want to be with you anymore but doesn't want to break it off with you either. Ending a relationship is hard and it always hurts but sometimes it's the best thing. It's just a shitty situation all around, why try to stay with her if she's not happy?
2007-04-06 01:38:15 · answer #6 · answered by alittlemissconduct 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Put your foot down. Tell her that you want to be with her and your daughter and that it's pointless to live that far away. Your daughter needs to be with her father. She says that she dont want to make a commitment and all but just think....ya'll have a daughter that's a big commitment dont ya think? Plus it might be cheaper to live together because you'd be helping out and all. Good luck
2007-04-06 01:37:24 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal W 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
she doesn't want to be with u anymore dude. just focus on taking care of your kid. move on she told u already she is ready to break up. u can't change how she feels, she is serious about this. respect that or she will grow to resent u.
2007-04-06 01:37:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i know that sucks but tell her how u feel and all and see what she says. tell her u want to c her and u r daughter more often.
Good luck i hope everything goes well.
2007-04-06 01:41:54 · answer #9 · answered by Hot BaBe 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it may be the distance separating you which is causing this, so i think you should talk to her and ask her about her feelings and her intentions. just propose her to have a try: living together for some weeks and see the results
2007-04-06 01:37:27 · answer #10 · answered by nap11t 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋