would do you think?

Question

i love expressing myself you know i'm one of those punker girls with the skin tight jeans. i would like to like pierce my lip,eyebrow,etc.i already have a tiny strand of hair green but i want more! but my mom is so uptight would you let your kid express themselves they way the want. and do you think people would jugde me because of some crazy colors in hair a piercing???

its not for attention OK! my moms uptight like the rest of the world :/

Answer 1

Some people will judge you for your appearance, that's not right but it is a fact. However, it's still your choice if you want to dress differently. Unless you have a huge mortgage and responsibilities and financially can't afford to be judged on your appearance at all, dare to be different, find friends and employers who take you for who you are and who do not think less of you based on your looks! There are plenty of places where you will be accepted.

It's even been suggested that people who tend to challenge social norms are healthier and happier with their lives than most "normal" people. Not only that, but they live an average of 5-10 years longer. See the book "Eccentrics: A Study of Sanity and Strangeness" in the source. Google books has parts of it online, the chapter "Eccentricity and Health" isn't included but you may be able to find it at the library.

Answer 2

As a mom of two girls - now adults - this was my take on the self expression isssue.

I was cool with anything they wanted to wear or do that was temporary, not indecent, and not a health hazzard. I'm all for creativity but not self mutilation or exhibitionism.

Now that they're old enough to do whatever they want, it's amazing how conservative my pink haired guitar playing rebel is......

And while we're at it - have you given any thought to who it is that has to deal with it if all this self expression goes wrong? Like, getting infections from piercings and so on....wouldn't that be your parents?

Leave the tattoos and major piercings for later, don't expect your mom to take that on while what you do to yourself is her responsibility. That's not cool.

Being true to yourself isn't a look, it's a lifestyle. If you've got something to express you can do it without all the superficial props and garbage.

Good luck!

Answer 3

I would let my kids do all that stuff. I am 25 and when I was growing up I was a skater kid. I used to wear big pants and all that. I would have loved to have a couple of piercings and dye my hair. My parents were both very conservative (especially my mom) and would not let me do anything like that. Of course I understand their reasons, but I just wish they had let me get it out of my system and be myself.

Having said that, the SECOND I turned eighteen I started getting tattoos and piercings. I sort of regret a couple of my tattoos now, but for the most part, I am fine with them. There are only a few things I would absolutely not let my daughters do:

1. stretch their ears
2. pierce their nipples/genitalia (way inappropriate)
3. get tattoos
4. walk around with their thong hanging out on purpose (just looks dumb in my opinion)

Other than that, piercings will close up, hair can grow out. No big deal.

Answer 4

Oh slanderous world!

I imagine the reason your mother is so "uptight" couldn't be the fact that a young person who dresses in this manner is judged and doesn't want her beloved child to be thought badly of. Don't fault her too much for wanting to spare you ridicule. It is an act of love sometimes when parents are uptight. They would literally walk on their lips before they could tolerate the thought that someone didn't think their child was the lovely creature they know you are. Don't be too hard on us old farts. Most all parents want their children to NEVER face the feeling of being unaccepted or judged. Of course this is impossible to fix for our children but our knee jerk reaction is to protect. Be compassionate to your mother. She realizes some day soon her lovely dove will fly and leave the nest and face the ugly world. Green hair or not, life happens, but don't fault her for wanting you to be happy.

Answer 5

My husband and I decided that we would let our sons do whatever they wanted to their hair and dress how they wanted (very minor restrictions) but no piercings (except ears) or tattoos until they were 18. Unfortunately alot of people judge others by their appearance. I think that may be why most parents want their children to appear "normal" so that they'll be accepted by society and not labeled "weird" or "crazy".

Our 10 and 11 yr. old boys have their ears pierced and the 10 yr. old had blue hair for awhile (hair gel) but if they wanted to dye their hair that wouldn't be a problem.

Answer 6

yes, i think society judges you for piercings and odd colored hair. but as a parent, i guess i could be ok with the green hair for a little while, like, until you needed to get a job then back to kinda normal hair colors!!...the piercings...well, some of them i would have to say no to. (just can't say anything about the multi ear peirceings since i already have some myself!)

Answer 7

Many people and companies view tattoos, piercing other than ears and non-standard hair color dyes as not normal. If your looks draw away from the decorum or dignity of school, church, neighborhood, industry, you can be ostracized. Your first impression to the world when you step out of the front door of your home is what you look like. If you're always busy defending how you look, you'll be wasting your time rather than being productive.

Answer 8

Yeah most people would, but it's in you to decide how you wanna look. I say, if you wanna see how much you can get away with, start poking... little by little. Try one piercing, then another... then maybe the hair... go slowly, don't drop the bomb so fast or it will explode in your face. Let people get used to little changes, before you know it, you've done everything you wanted.

Answer 9

You don't say how old you are. Why not be patient and wait until you're out in the real world before you do anything permanent like piercings?

Answer 10

Punky girl I know my answer will not be popular with you. I know that you do know you have rights, but they are limited while you stay with your parents under their roof.

You know your parents love you..so be patient until you are of age and out from under their roof and then Rock On.

Make sure when you do express yourself it is for you and not to be one of the others in the crowd.

It is one thing to express yourself, it is another to copy someone else.

Peace and Luv
Alan