should i still wait for her (in alot of pain and need a lot of help so please answer)?

Question

i asked this question like 20 min ago but im in alot of pain and i need alot of help. i just dont wont to give it up and lose her
ok im in 9th gread and my ex girl friend is in 8th and our 2 schools are split in between those ages. ok we start going out and its great were talkin every day and were just clickin really good bu twe didnt EVER get to c each other. well later in the relationship she started to get into trouble and we werent gettin to talk as much or c each other so she broke up with me. i told her i would wait for her till she moved to the new school. well its been 2 months now and we dont ever get to talk but she tells me she still likes me but its tearin me apart when im just sittin her waitin, but i really like her and i think she is beautiful and she has a personilty like no one else i know. i dont wont to break my promise but im scared that im gonna wait for 2 more months and shes just gonna screw me over in the end what shoul i do

Answer 1

Just because he's young doesn't mean his feelings are not sincere wtf is wrong with you people ><

Wait for her if you feel strongly about her and when she gets there see what happens.

Answer 2

Hey Your Still Way Too Young My Man, The 9th Grade Is Suppose To Be A Grade That You Are Suppose To Be Learning Not Only On Your Studies But on Your Life Studies. Everyone In That Grade Now And Back Then, Had So Many GirlFriends.
That's Just Something To Learn From In The Big Life, Relationships Come And Go, Learn That Now, You Will Have A Lot Of Relationships From Now Untill You Get To The 11th Grade. After That Your Mind Starts Thinking Differently. It's All Up To You Then To Keep A Relationship, With Someone You Love Or Go On To Your Studies, And Have A Relationship With Your Future. What DoYou Want. A Girl Frindship Now, Or A Nice Future Later. It's All Up To You, I Know I Messed Up Mine, Will You Mess Up Yours??

Answer 3

Well, honestly. If you really truly do like her, wait for her. If she screws you over. She wasn't ever worth it and all you'll have to do is learn from it. I mean, you're still young. Honestly, young love like this usually doesn't last. Yeah, sure. There are cases where you do end up IN THE END, marrying your high school sweetheart and all that. But, that's like slim.

If you're the type to commit and stay in long relationships, it's honestly best to just stay friends with her. And, if she does happen to give you what you need within the next two months or whatever, then go for it. But, don't put too much expectations because you don't know what can happen.

Just remember, always be prepared for the unexpected.

Answer 4

You are probably not going to want to hear this but, there are tons of girls/women in the world -- you know "tons of fish in the sea". Not to diminish the pain your are feeling right now but, being in 9th grade, the likelihood that you will be with this person for the rest of your life is very small.

Right now she seems like the only one for you because you are dwelling on it too much. Try not to dwell. There are many things you can do to get her off your mind. Here are a few: Listen to your iPod, study or do your homework, workout (it's great for stress relief), volunteer your time to help someone else, go to the movies this weekend, go shopping for a new pair of sneakers, a pair of jeans, etc. learn how to do something you don't know how to do already, for instance, spring is coming....run track, skateboard, swing a golf club, go for a run, hang out with your guy friends. Stay busy.

Don't waste your time waiting. Time is too precious to waste. There is another girl out there for you.

Hope this helps.

Answer 5

God, am I glad I am not that young anymore!

Well, sweetheart, I know you don't want to believe it, but this too shall pass.

You emotions are so immediate because of your age, and the newness of the hormones washing through your body. Once you have a little more living under your belt, you will be able to handle these overwhelming emotions much better.

In the meantime, stay in touch with her however you can...but don't ever stop living your life. You say that you are just waiting. What you should be doing instead, is living your life--enjoying being with your friends and doing those things you like to do with them. You can think of her all you like, and miss her, but don't let those feelings stop you from living your life for yourself.

I know you don't want to hear this, but some time along your route through life, you are going to realize that we only ever have control over ourselves. And that the first person we have to think of is ourselves. Because if we can't keep ourselves emotionally and physically healthy, what good are we to others? If we have made an emotional wreck of ourselves, what do we have to share with the people we love?

The answer to that is pain. If all we feel is pain, then all we have to share is pain. But if we live our lives and enjoy ourselves, then we have that joy and love of life to share with the people we love. Do you understand?

Answer 6

Ok listen up freshmen. Here is how it goes. If you like her as much as you say you do then wait but chances are she will screw you over if she ended it. Trust me there is a reason she broke up with you and its not just the distance thing. My friends bf moved to another state and they are still going out so its not distance. Move on! Nobody deserves to waste high school with one person. That's what being old is for. You have plenty of time during hs to date different girls. Don't hold on to just one who probably has another bf. Forget her and look for a new girl.

Answer 7

Come on' get a life! if she really cherish the relationship between the 2 of u. she should be settling this asap and not letting u waiting alone. U are only in 9th grade and not turning 90. How do u know there's more beautiful ladies out there when ur eyes are only set on one? Just chill out and enjoy ur youth.....dont waste it!~

Answer 8

Awww, I know that you are hurting because you have a bad first crush. You are both too young to be dating and you need to learn about the world and other people. This is not what you want to hear, but it's true. She is going to meet new people, and so will you. That's the way it should be when you are so young. Maybe she will stay in touch but don't depend on it. You need to get your mind onto other things: sports, music, school, friends and having fun. Someday you will look back on this and wonder why you were so upset. It will pass.

Answer 9

Oh, I remember the pain of that age and love, it hurts.

I would imagine that if she is all that you say, she must see you in that light as well. I don't know the cause of you going your separate ways really, but perhaps you should let it go and if it is to be, it will. You can't fight what is going on, so you may as well embrace it, be her friend and in the meantime, come back to living your life to the fullest and before you are even thinking about it, there she will be, the one......

You are worth more than this, quit torturing yourself.

Here is the ultimate check, would you torment someone else's heart and soul as horribly as you treat yourself? Bet you wouldn't. Let go, let her go and see what happens, dare you. All I can promise is you are going to find your joy again.

Good luck kiddo, you are going to do great things.

Answer 10

Buddy...you are so young to be so miserable.

Just move on and find another nice girl. Yes, it would be great if it works out...but you are just in 9th grade. You have your whole life ahead. Make new friends. Meet new girls. Live your life...no need to stay in the past...you are a very important time of your life. NOT the time to think you have met your soul mate.

Just let her go and see if you meet again in the future. REALLY!

Answer 11

look bro, i just went through the same deal, except we were in the same grade, just went to different schools. i made the mistake of waiting. she probably wont come back. woman are good about that sometimes. no offense to all you woman out there, its just that guys get screwed over alot. you are only in 9th grade dude. you wont stay with her forever. move on and find someone else. let her come to you. thats like the only way to get a girl back it seems like. if she wants you shell come back. if not than it wasnt true to be. i say move on, its high school, have some fun.