I hate the guys my mom dates! None of them are good enough for her in my eyes. And thats ALL she can talk about. I am starting to feel bad about not liking her date because she is telling me that I am being manipulative.
2007-04-05 17:46:32 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Mom is a grown up, let her make her own choices and mistakes...or when your ready to find a mate, you need to let your mother pick for you, even if your dont like her choice...See if you like who she choices for you...
2007-04-05 17:54:37 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just one thing to keep in mind... You will grow up and move out.. Do you think it is fair to your mom to throw every guy away because you dont like them..? Your mom does not want to be alone for the rest of her life..And you may not see what she sees in them..Im sure there is more to these guys then you know about and Im sure you have not taken the time to get to know them..My daughter tried to dictate to me who I should date and who I shouldnt, Didnt feel good when the shoe was on the other foot..You should leave your mom to make her own grown up decisions and you deal with growing up..Im sure when your mom finds the right one she will know it till then she will have to pick through a bunch of rotten apples. Your mom deserves to be happy and you need to stop being selfish and let your mom have some happiness in her life too.
2007-04-06 02:12:10 · answer #2 · answered by Dana D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is a grown woman. She has the right to date whomever she wants.
That being said, if you love you mom and feel that she is seeing someone that is not good for her then you owe it to her to have a REASONABLE, loving conversation with her about what you are seeing. Just be careful, your comment that none of them are good enough suggests that you may not be objective and may just be feeling a bit possessive. Examine your feelings to see if you have HER best interests in heart or if your reaction is based in fear of losing her.
In any case, love her, spend time with her and support her. Your relationship with her is a great gift from God and no matter who she dates or marries, you two should maintain a close, healthy and supportive relationship.
2007-04-06 01:21:22 · answer #3 · answered by Lovin' Life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have gone through the same thing that you have and although you don't want to hear it you are being selfish. Your mom just wants to find some one that she can share her life with and live with forever. I know that you are thinking right now that "the guys that she brings home aren't those types though" but the only way that she will find that right guy is by getting out there and just dating. I know it sux for you I had to go through the same thing, but if you want your mom to be happy later you just have to live with it, if she starts dating the same guy that is definitly a loser then you have the right to be mad, but if they are just a bunch of losers and she only goes on like a couple weeks worth of dates with them each then you have to learn to live with it. And also when my parents got divorced only like 3 yrs ago I'm now 14 I said that the first guy my mom was dating I would tell him to get the hell away from her, but doing that is just being an asshole t you rmom
2007-04-06 01:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by snoboard13 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, your mother is an adult and she has to have a life as well. She loves you but also needs the relationship between a man and a woman. I do suggest you sit down and actually talk to her about what you don't like and why. She might surprise you if you take an adult approach in this. Just remember you don't have to like who she ends out with but I suggest you really try to see if they do care for her. That is what is important to find a man who cares about her and her happiness. Good Luck!
2007-04-06 01:30:36 · answer #5 · answered by ShoelessJoes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you're going through because I see every guy that my mom dates in the exact same way but you have to realize that your mom is lonely and she wants an honest man to be her companion.
Just let her date and try to talk to her, but not about her dates but rather about things going on in your life.
2007-04-06 01:28:20 · answer #6 · answered by Diana_Is_Amazing 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want your Mom to be alone for the rest of her life? Some day you will grow up meet someone and marry. You will not spend the rest of your life with her. Try to get to know her dates and not dislike them because you think they are not good enough.
2007-04-06 08:36:16 · answer #7 · answered by mnwomen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would not make friends with my moms dates...at first. But you need to realize this isn't just about you...its not more so your feelings, its your moms. She is the one in love with this guy or attracted to, not you. In your eyes they may not be good enough, but if they are good enough for your mom, they should be good enough for you.
2007-04-06 01:07:46 · answer #8 · answered by better.than.you. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my mom is dating and doing the same thing and i despise her boyfriend but i keep telling myself as long as she is happy its ok but i let her know that im going to keep my distance between her boyfriend and i dont want to be included in any plans they make so she gets to have her way and i dont have to deal with her boyfriend to much i dont think he is good enough for her either and i dont think any guy will be but if she is happy and being treated nice then all i can do is stand back
2007-04-06 01:04:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure of your age but I remember when my mom brought home a date on his way up the stairs that lead to our apartment I would ask him if he would be my new daddy they usually left before their night cap..give your mom a break if she is happy she will be happy to do things with or for you.
2007-04-06 00:54:34 · answer #10 · answered by roncj88 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personaly if my mom started dating i would act the same way giving him attitude and all but just dont go around him for awhile cool off and maby u can start likin him baby step by baby step
2007-04-06 00:54:30 · answer #11 · answered by hotdancer_3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋