I know you all probably hear this all the time here from other people but I still feel like I should at least type this out and get it out a little. I'm depressed tonight.... I've actually made a lot of improvement, I suffer from depression for over 10 years and am finally getting a lot better than I was before. (I don't get depressed as often or as badly as i used to.) But I feel really down tonight, I think I will cry myself to sleep which I haven't done since middle school. (i'm 21 now) It's just that I don't feel like my life is ever going to amount to anything.... I've never had a girlfriend and the one time I fell in love I got hurt. I recently got this job that everyone seems to hate me at.... I don't know why-I swear i'm trying to do the right thing. I'm a loner- but not really by choice- I just don't know how to talk to people. What should I do?
2007-04-05 17:28:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Depression itself eats away at confidence, and can make you perceive yourself as a bad person and that people don't like you. To a large extent, you will have to remember that it is your depression talking, that people don't REALLY dislike you, and then suck it up and talk to them. What I do is ask them questions about stuff THEY like to do, and I find that they are willing to go on and on and on, and actually, I learn a lot that way and it is usually interesting. As you do that more and more, it gets easier and your social skills get better. My teachers used to think I was mentally retarded, so I had pretty bad social skills before!! I KNOW it is the depression, because I'm bipolar, and I get the opposite too, mania, and then I'm totally extroverted and the life of the party. As soon as I get depressed again, I think everyone hates me and it is so hard to talk to them. So you need to 1) remember it is the depression altering your perceptions and 2) get treatment for the depression and your problems may miraculously go away. Good luck!!
2007-04-05 17:40:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
We all get depressed sometimes, so you aren't the only one. I am sorry you got hurt in the relationship, so just accept it and find friends. They can help keep us centered. You can think about what it will take for you to change the things you don't like about yourself. You said you don't think you are going to amount to anything. Find the good things about yourself and list the things you don't like. Then choose the things that you need to work on. We have to set goals to go forward. For now, just sleep it off. Tomorrow will be another day and you can do good things for yourself and others. Try to smile a little more and if you want a friend, you have to show yourself friendly. Good luck and God Bless YOU.
2007-04-06 00:45:52 · answer #2 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've suffered severe depression for a really long time too. Ever since around 5th grade... I'm 17 now. And I know exactly how you're feeling. It's about one in the morning over here and I'm up with it. Email me and we'll talk.
Take care.
Amanda
2007-04-06 01:20:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 21 and never had a relationship
I go to school with kids so stupid I am surprized they dont drool on themselves
I fell in love with a loser and it hurts
I am homesick horribly
Tonight I was about to get myself drunk, just because I could, and then I realized that despite all these things I wake up and have fun because i want to have fun, every day. I realized there is a lot more than hurt in my heart. I have lots of freinds, but I am a loner in a lot of things I deal with, and at times I have trouble talking to them. I stayed sober, made myself a huge cup a tea, told the world to go to hell for just one night and I read a book.
People dont tell yout his but it is okay to be depressed and angery at the world at times. But realize your beutiful, life is beutiful, and all the struggles are worthwhile because you learn from them. I think you will find a lot of campanionship if you pick yourself up and say "hey I am going to make the world work for me. Am I going to fall and fail and cry more than I would ever want to? YES But along the way I am going to be myself, do what I want to do, and not live life not on the side lines" be brave and take care
As for love. I find in life people come to you when you most need them, and they do hurt you, but you learn how strong you are.
chin up
2007-04-06 00:45:11 · answer #4 · answered by STL 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the road to recovery isn't going to be easy but the truth is kid, you're in denial, things aren't that bad for you, there's tons of people in worst situation then you are.
So, just stop being so conceited
2007-04-06 00:50:29 · answer #5 · answered by Scpwnz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do whatever you feel like doing as long as you aren't preventing anyone from doing what they want to do. Don't kill anybody.
2007-04-06 02:43:24 · answer #6 · answered by Dan A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋