okay so tomorrow will be the 7 month anniversary of our relationship but he's acting weiiiiird! we broke up maybe two weeks ago and we were both having a really tough time with it- he came crawling back a few days later and i held it off for a few days more until i agreed to take him back. just so he would realize how much he screwed up for sure of course.....well we're in college so of course we live, eat, go to school in very close proximity and we used to do stuff together all the time. now he's constantly with his other friends and is purposely not making enough time for me. i've talked to him about these problems like 3 times but he still doesn't seem to get it. he says i'm not his top priority and i'm not asking to be i just want him to treat me like he used to so i'll know i'm somewhere on that priority list. what the heck is the big problem here?
2007-04-05 17:16:01 · 8 answers · asked by aubs010 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Everyone loves being in a relationship. Is is not fun to stop being in a relationship. That seems to be where you are.
Honestly, you need to be top priority. He needs YOU to be top priority. It sounds like you both (or at least he) knows this isn't going to work out, but it is HARD to go back to being single.
You have to have the strength to do the hard thing and actually break it off. If you aren't a high priority for him...then your just a cuddle buddy, and that is what he misses.
So take the dive, get back out there and date again, keep looking and you will find the person you value's you, and who you value in return. NEVER let fear hold you back, NEVER let comfort hold you back, they will ruin your life if you let it.
The old is comfortable, the old is comforting, but look forward to the change. There are better things waiting for you.
2007-04-05 17:28:00 · answer #1 · answered by riplikash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you break up 2 weeks ago, what was he like before you broke how did he treat you before it got wired, the only reason why he cam crawling backe because he know you would take him back he doesnt care about you all he cares about is his friends thats why your not his first priority in his life...... tell me this how old are you both and have you both sleeped with each other..... the way he is acting now with you and around you he will never change back to the way he was when you and him first got together
2007-04-05 17:32:43 · answer #2 · answered by badgirlforlife007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men like this are not worth keeping around. If he can't treat you with the respect you'd expect from any other person in your life - a friend, family member, coworker even, then he is certainly not worth having as a boyfriend. It's easy to get into routines with people, and hard to end them, but I think you will feel smart about the decision to be done with him very soon.
Good luck!
2007-04-05 17:31:30 · answer #3 · answered by Kaitelia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Problem List: 1) You took him Back 2) Him 3) Repeat 1&2 until problem is resolved.
2007-04-05 17:20:05 · answer #4 · answered by all unknowing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him take you for granted. Tell him that if you are not important enough to him for him to put you first, then maybe you should find somone that will. Ask him if he remembers how he felt during the break-up. Tell him that is how he is going to feel permanently if he doesn't start treating you with the respect that you deserve. Be strong, there are plenty of good men around, that would be proud to enjoy your company.
2007-04-05 17:24:56 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't wont to hurt your feeling but it sounds like he wonts to drift away from you so you dont wont that to happen so let him come to you let him call you let him no what it feels like to be left in the dust OK than he might realize how much you mean to him and how much he needs you. so just let him come to you. (dont give in no matter how bad it hurts)
2007-04-05 17:27:37 · answer #6 · answered by rookiepilot007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes probably scared of having to like make that one commitment and not being to do crazy crap with his friends
2007-04-05 17:21:15 · answer #7 · answered by Lil' Doobie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow hes a jerk.. i think u should dump him
2007-04-05 17:21:07 · answer #8 · answered by luhb u much!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋