I've been with this guy for about a year now, and he says he loves me, but he has this repeated problem of putting everything before me. He has freedom to see his friends-even hang out with his most recent ex- but he does so almost every day, often times before he comes home to me. We spend an hour or so together before he goes to play videogames and then go to bed, but most nights that's it- the rest of the time he'll tell me he's only going to be 1-2 hours and he ends up being gone for 5-8 hours. I don't think he's cheating on me, but he never considers me when making decisions, just what fun he can get out of it while I constantly think about him during just about every decision I make (including refraining from making other plans b/c i think i'm going to have to be home when he gets here to let him in the house/i think he's getting home earlier so i have high hopes of spending time with him... just to end up sitting around unable to concentrate wondering when he'll come home.
2007-04-05 17:14:01 · 3 answers · asked by helpme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh hunny i hate to tell you this but you need to loose him, i just got out of a relationship of 4 years and this is all we ever did fight about spending time together and he always would rather do other stuff, hes probably not cheating but listen to your intuition, my guy was gone all the time too and i found out after we broke up he was cheating. He might be having his cake and eating it too, why dont you think you deserve better than this, the right guy for you would treat you like a princess and would want to include you in things, think about it this way , if you get serious for the next 50 years you could be number 2 that would suck!
2007-04-05 17:20:55 · answer #1 · answered by police_chick86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but he doesn't love you, just using you. He is what he is and isn't going to change for you. How much worse does he need to treat you until you get the hint? Is he currently the way you want your boyfriend to be, because that is your choice with him. Either take him as he is or move one.
Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with a loser?
2007-04-06 00:19:49 · answer #2 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him want to stay with u like have dinner and go out together more demanding it or jsut simply try giving him sex
2007-04-06 00:18:14 · answer #3 · answered by senatorray@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋