Question about unmarried sex and abortion?

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I find it funny when a Christian is faced with abortion, they automatically go into the "But babies are such wonderful, beautiful, living, breathing beings! They're so innocent! It's a sin to murder!" etc, etc.

However, when a Christian is faced with an unmarried woman who had unmarried sex and yet was blessed with one of these wonderful, beautiful, living, breathing beings, the unmarried woman gets shot down with such statements like "Oh you're going to be so sorry you had unmarried sex because it's a sin! Just wait until they grow up and you're struggling to make ends meet!" ... sounds a lot like a pro-choice statement to me.

Are sex and procreation only blessings when they're conceived under your and your Bible's terms and conditions, or is it just your and your Bible's hypocrisy?

Answer 1

The way to reduce abortion (for you will never get rid of it) is to reduce the need, which would mean a fundamental shift in how we approach out sex lives.

Answer 2

I am a Christian and I believe that abortion is wrong--period. I also believe that sex outside of marriage is wrong, unless someones raped or something, of course. So, even though a child is conceived outside of marriage, that doesn't mean that the child is cursed or less worthy of love or anything like that. Have you ever made a mistake that you regretted? I'm sure you have, and I'm sure you've been sorry over it. But you go on with life, and deal with the consequences and ultimately blessings that come from your mistake. If a child was not meant to be born, they wouldn't have been. If a parent is not able to care for their child, then there are other options, such as adoption. And yes, I know adoption has some horrible consequences--my mom gave up a baby for adoption 29 years ago and it hurts me everyday, missing him. But I would rather he be alive and potentially happy somewhere else than dead. Imagine how much joy he may have brought to his adoptive family--even though my mom made a mistake, blessings and joy came out of it. She does suffer the consequences of being without her son everyday. But I know she loves him and prays for him, and we hope to one day meet him. If she had aborted him and he were dead, we would have no such hope--just deep regret and sadness.

Btw, I think you're kind of stereotyping Christians... and I don't see how that's a pro-choice statement. That's an abstinence statement.

Answer 3

Sex wasn't the mistake. Sex when you were unready and without protection was the mistake. Libido is a natural drive, and sex is a part of a healthy romantic relationship. Don't beat yourself up too much for that. Wait a while until you are more ready and be sure to wrap his rascal. Look online or in the phone book. There should be a planned parenthood clinic somewhere near you. You can go there. They have good counseling, doctors, and ethics. They can help you with all sorts of things including getting birth control of many varieties, abortion, day-after pills, sex education, STD testing, all sorts of things. I'm pretty certain that they will NOT bring your family into it if that is a concern for you. Be careful that you go to "Planned Parenthood." There are some clinics run by churches, especially the mormons, that use names similar to "planned parenthood" in hopes that unsuspecting people will show up. They push their conservative agenda through these clinics. They will make your life miserable.

Answer 4

Because babies are such wonderful and precious things, they need the protection of a two parent (mother and father) home in which to be raised. Because that rarely happens when the child is conceived out of wedlock, having a child that way is wrong and abusive to the child. The best way not to get pregnant is not to be having sex. (There are lots of other reasons also not to have sex outside of marriage, but we are discussing babies).

So there is no contradiction between believing babies are beautiful and not wanting to see them suffer from having to be raised in a single parent home. Rather, they compliment each other.

Sometime actually sit down and read what the Bible has to say about "widows" and "orphans". You will find that time and again God speaks of that as been a tragic situation for both the woman and the child. It places suffering on both. Suffering that can be avoided by not getting pregnant out of wedlock. You do that by not having sex.

What could be simpler or easier to understand then that?

Answer 5

I'm sorry that you had a bad experience with a so-called christian.
The main thing that goes thru the New Testament is that we should love our neighbor as Jesus loves us and to not judge or we will be judged harshly when we are judged.

Sex in marriage is not considered a blessing as per se, but it is something that is done to procreate or make babies - which is considered one of the biggest blessings we could ever recieve. Because babies are such a blessing given by God, that makes abortion an attack on God which is a sin.

Answer 6

I think its a lil unfair to say "Christians" b/c as u may know the term Christians apply people who believe in diff. ways of life... I am a "Christian" I do believe its it better to go by the Bible to be married and stable "etc, etc". But life obviously don't go that way and as a Christian I believe Children are blessings regardless of how the child was conceived..so no sex and procreation are not only blessings under the "Bible conditions"

Answer 7

Sweetheart no. First of all there is no such thing as pre-marital sex. Biblically speaking sex is marriage. Yes children are a blessing. Don't listen to man study God's Word for yourself.

Answer 8

It is not hypocrisy to seek power over others' actions, and indeed, their persons, by taking an untenable and contradictory moral stance. Evil, perverted, wrong and greasy, yes; hypocritical, no.

Every human being who has led a religion has been tempted to abuse the power that goes with the job, and many of their lessers don't even bother with temptation but go straight into bully mode. May you meet better Christians in the future.

Answer 9

What is hypocritical about stating what God said and did? Although I certainly did not write that she would eventually be sorry, that is a distinct possibility you will have to admit. Frankly I hope she is blessed throughout her life with the presence of this child. I'm sure she will love her child just as much as I love mine.

But God did set the rules whether we like them or not. He said sex without marriage is wrong. I didn't make them up nor has any other Christian. Just because you think sex is great and procreation is wonderful under any conditions you decide doesn't mean that God agrees with you. I am not saying that their is anything wrong with the child. I know God will love that child just as surely as he loves mine.

Sex and procreation are abilities given by God...not gifts. It would be like saying that having the ability to eat and digest food is a gift. It is not. It is simply the way God made us.

Answer 10

the child is not the sin...the sin was having sex before marriage...that is all...

the fact of the matter is..she didn't understand the CONSEQUENCES of what she had done..and the baby is still YOUNG...

we were not being pro-choice...we were showing her what consequences will occur..as accountability and responsibility had escaped her...outside of pre-marital sex, it has nothing to do with the Bible so much as life itself..she is financially responsible for this child ALONE...and that is an amazing burden...maybe not as hard with one...but try women who do this and have 2-3 kids and are still single??

when people are married and have 1 or 2 careers at work...then the chances of that child getting what they need and deserve are higher..

when children are born within a family...especially one that is happy..the children are going to be better off end of story..

opportunities come along quicker and you can take advantage of them......yes the children themselves are good..but what is the foundation for this child? where is the infrastructure in this child's life? just mom?

that sounds rough...

btw... Then, once you're married, sex is still sort of frowned upon unless you're "open to the possibility of life" (i.e., willing to have a baby every year.)

maybe that is true in the Catholic faith...but in the Mormon faith..have all the sex you want..you are married..live your life according to you and your wife...LDS faith doesn't have original sin...

Answer 11

Ok, it is my understanding that the Bible teaches than any sexual act outside the bonds of a marriage is sinful.

Sinful equals not right to do.

Some humans see that something is fun, and decide to do it whether it is right or wrong. Sex, of course, is rather appealing so that is a common thing to want.

Many times, a thing is deemed as "wrong" because there are dire consequences. Sex is one of those things. The consequence of sex is pregnancy. It doesn't happen every time, but hey, pregnancy is the intended PURPOSE for sex.

God made sex pleasurable to ensure that the marriage it is supposed to be happening in remains strong and stable. A strong and stable marriage is the best environment for raising children, the natural product of said sex.

So, with all of its rules and regulations, the Bible is actually trying to keep us out of trouble. It is trying to protect us from dire consequences of our actions. It is trying to get us to think before we do. It is trying to get us to not do things that are not right.