my friend who exagerates a lot but ,doesnt know i like him said that she heard him say that he thaught i was pretty and he would go out with me if i lose weight but it was like amonth ago and now im crushing on him big time wat should i do ??!!
2007-04-05 16:41:47 · 23 answers · asked by tatyana a 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
talk to him and get to know him better
that way he can be attracted to your personality too
2007-04-05 16:44:54 · answer #1 · answered by ally 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, unless you're just looking to have sex with him, you need to slow down and consider the situation.
If what your friend said is true, he has already put stipulations on his involvement with you. If you want to lose weight for health reasons or for your own personal reasons, that's fine.
But any guy who would say what he said is obviously ONLY interested in the outside. It may sound corny, but beauty is fleeting. I will allow you some silliness if you're young because youth is wasted on the young. But if you're older, then you already know that one stipulation would only lead to another. First you'd have to lose weight. Then it would be your hair or the way you dress and so on...
So, it's really just a matter of you deciding what you want. Lose weight and knock the boots and get over your crush (because he'll get over you). Or wait for someone a bit more mature, someone who cares about you as a person.
2007-04-05 23:53:48 · answer #2 · answered by OSA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not really out of your league, he's just slightly out of your reach because of your weight. So if you really like him, lose some weight. But seriously, a guy who is judging a girl only by her looks is not someone who I would want to date. But maybe he's a good person inside, who knows! Good luck.
Oh, and if you want to lose weight here are some suggestions:
1. Eat healthy. You don't necessarily have to eat less, just substitute more healthy things into your meal, instead of junk food.
2. Don't snack throughout the day.
3. If you're just a little hungry but it's not a mealtime, drink a little water, juice, or milk.
4. Exercise. If you don't have time, you don't have to.
2007-04-05 23:52:26 · answer #3 · answered by julia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if what he says is true I wouldn't go out with him, because he wants you to lose weight. This doesn't sound like someone who really cares or likes the REAL you. Yeah maybe you need to lose weight big deal so what, if he can't like you because you have a few extra lbs then the relationship is already a down hiller. I would not want to go out with someone if they said hey baby if you lose 20lbs I'll go out with you, yeah right!! go bye!!
It sounds to me like he is out of your leauge not the other way around.
2007-04-05 23:50:00 · answer #4 · answered by eyes_r_open 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll date you if you lose weight? Sounds like someone is a little too interested in looks. In my personal opinion, you shouldn't lose weight just to go out with a guy. But if you can, strike up a conversation with him and find out if there's any chemistry between you. If there is, make your personality shine around him and see where it goes.
2007-04-05 23:47:11 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men/women react to you strengths or your weaknesses. So if you feel like he's too Good for you, then he will feel your insecurities in your actions and responses. Know that he sits on the poddy and it doesn't smell like roses. Let Monique's fat Fine Butt Be your inspiration. She makes me and a LOT of other people think that she is Big, Black, and Beautiful. Not to mention a Good Catch. Girl, Know and Believe You Are Beautiful............. And So will He and Everybody Else.
2007-04-06 00:02:45 · answer #6 · answered by meredyth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend was telling the truth (about if you lost weight) then nothing.
If she was telling the truth only about him thinking you're pretty, then ask him for coffee or something.
Don't think someone is out of your league, though, because then you'd really do absolutely nothing and spend large quantities of time wondering what would have happened if you had done something.
2007-04-05 23:47:00 · answer #7 · answered by Farrah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I'm sure that you're gorgeous just the way you are. Don't ever change for someone because if you do they will soon have you jumping through hoops. If you are happy the way you are, chances are that alot of other people will be as well.
2007-04-05 23:48:35 · answer #8 · answered by mumof4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's messed up of him to say that he would go out with you if you lost weight. You should just ignore him because he doesn't want you the way you are.
2007-04-05 23:45:58 · answer #9 · answered by Cardiophobia <3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him be your incentive to lose weight and when you have lost the weight make sure he sees you .That way when you turn him down he will remember what he said about you.
2007-04-06 01:09:29 · answer #10 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with the flow...if he likes you he will approach you. Dont lose weight for ANYone but Yourself! Be how you are comfortable and happy!
2007-04-05 23:44:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋