Lately ive been feeling like my boyfriend doesnt respect me. He has just been doing everything he wants and my word doesnt count for anything any more. He is on a trip with friends now, which every one in his family was against. Now he's partying, which he said he wouldnt. I got really upset, so when i call he hangs up on me or doesnt pick up. Then he tells me him and his friends are sleeping over at this girls house (as she knows one of his friends from before) i freak out but he just hangs up in the middle of our conversation and lets me call and call but doesnt pick up. Even though he told me I have nothing to worry about, am i right to feel worried and to feel disrespected by him? What should I do?
2007-04-05 16:35:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we have been together for 3 1/2 years, and live together for almost 3 years now.
2007-04-05 16:49:22 · update #1
You're right to feel disrespected, he shouldn't do that. If he were a true boyfriend and truly loved you, he'd show you ALOT more respect than he is. He's lying, and it's wrong. He also should not be sleeping over @ a girl's house. I really don't care if the girl has known one of his friends from before, it's wrong, he can go to a hotel or something. He promised you he wouldn't party, and yet he did probably without talking to you first. This is all wrong, I am telling you, get out of it. Have a deep meaningful conversation with him in person when he gets back, tell him everything about how he's making you feel. And then, break it off... see if he changes, or it gets him thinking and realizing he was wrong. Good luck.
2007-04-05 16:41:06 · answer #1 · answered by Meg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him it is that simple! He is not a husband he is a boyfriend who will probably net be there next month or year...Grab the heart and get out of there. Once the disrespect resurfaces, you can never see it again from a mate. It may not be your fault but once started the cruelty expands and you will get more hurt trying to understand or change him or you will give up yourself for him to treat you better and you will be in a worse position. Don't be here when he comes back....He is doing things to you which will create a stable, confident person to just walk away as this is what people do when another shows such actions...Good Luck and find someone who is mature and makes you happy...
2007-04-05 16:43:11 · answer #2 · answered by city girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are correct. You say that he has gone on a trip which was not approved of by his family (he disrespects his parents), he parties when he said that he wouldn't (he lies), he sleeps at a girls house (he disrespects you), he hangs up in the middle of a conversation (he disrespects you), he tells you that you have nothing to worry about (he doesn't care about your feelings).
Let me remind you of what love and caring is:
1 Corinthians 13. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. GOD
Does this describe the way that he treats you? No. Find someone with these qualities and be glad that you are not married to this immature child.
2007-04-05 16:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by 4HIM- Christians love 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why are you giving him all the power in the relationship? You need to change the focus to you, take this time to go out or just stay at home a rediscover just how great you are, make a list of all of your good traits and all of the things you want to accomplish out of life. When you realize just how great you are you will realize you deserve to be treated much, much better. Then you will have the power to tell him to step up to be the man you deserve or you need to move on.
2007-04-05 16:44:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all a relationship is about understanding each other and giving sacrifices. It seems to me that he doesn't care about what you think or how you feel and in a relationship that just won't work. What I think you should do is really sit and weigh the pros and the cons in the relationship and think about if he is worth all that trouble. Whats the point of being in a relationship if you're going to argue. I'm not saying break up with him but I am say that you need to sit down and evaluate your relationship with him
2007-04-05 16:42:45 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might need a little space. So give him ALOT of space. For a month only talk to him when he calls you. He will begin to wonder and feel as you do now. Use you head and don't give in to your heart. Find other things to do so that when you do talk to him you will have lots to talk about. He may find you more interesting. With your fresh new independence you'll have a clearer head and know more of what YOU want. Men find that attractive.
2007-04-05 16:49:15 · answer #6 · answered by cyq01 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he treats you like this now, imagine what it will be like later...much worse. He has already shown you that he doesn't respect you, how much bigger of a house do you need to fall on your head before you understand?
He is a loser and you need to find someone new. He isn't going to change, he isn't going to get better, he isn't going to ever respect you. He is with you because you are easy and a doormat. Stop being one, kick him to the curb, don't look back and move on.
2007-04-05 16:42:35 · answer #7 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find time to sit down and talk with your boyfriend. Try to find out what's going on with your relationship with him. If your boy friend still disrespect you, you should just break up with him. Don't let this thing prolong, it will give you more damage than you can think of before its too late. Remember to love yourself.
2007-04-05 16:44:36 · answer #8 · answered by Sabrina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
End this ASAP....Please.
Who is him to make you feel the way you are feeling??
Who are you by letting him doing it?
Find a friend, forget about him. Re-educate yourself, lear how to love GOOD guys, we woman are sometimes educated bad, and sometimes love danger....yes this is a dangerous situation, this could hurt you more than it has hurt you already........maybe not phisycally but mentally.
HUG YOUR SELF every day, DO IT, that is the feeling you should feel when you are arund people who love you. NEVER IN YOU LIFE GIVE YOURSELF FOR LESS.
Really wish you Good Luck
2007-04-05 16:46:38 · answer #9 · answered by MARIA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop calling and stop running after him. Keep running, by all means, but in the opposite direction, away from him. You have wasted enough time on this moron already. It is painfully obvious that you are about no. 10000000 on his list of priorities.
2007-04-05 16:41:29 · answer #10 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋