I used to talk to this boy for like 6 months and when we actually got together, my parents found out that he had a criminal record and they made me stop talking to him. The thing is the criminal record was in the past and he hadnt done anything bad since then. I was in love with this boy and he made me happy and they took all of that away. I want to talk to him behind their backs but i dont know what to do. I've tried talking to them, but they have it set in their minds that he's just some thug. They even tried to find bad info on him, which they never showed me any proof of, so i dnt believe that. What should I do?
2007-04-05 16:27:30 · 10 answers · asked by *Wildcat* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm a mother of a 18 year old...okay so listen if you love something set it free if it comes back it your if it doesn't it never was! With that being I also say your living with your parents RESPECT their rules They KNOW Best...find a new interest and once you get on your own look him, up chance are he wont be a appealing! and you you understand what your parent s are trying to do! Hey also look at his parents the apple never fall to far from the tree !
2007-04-05 16:35:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not be the best thing you want to do but i think you should listen to your parents if he has a criminal record hes probably pout doing the same things but just not telling you or anybody else (not to be negative), its never right for a girl to be with a guy like that, unless of course you and others see that he has changed his ways COMPLETELY. If you only see it and others don't chances are that he has not changed and you are love blind. Please don't make the same mistake my sister did, take it easy and watch him a little.
Best of wishes.
2007-04-05 23:36:13 · answer #2 · answered by JoshER456 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW the same thing happened to me when I was a little younger... See I don't think that there is a right or wrong answer to that question but I know that personally I am hard headed and stuborn and I wouldn't stop talking to a guy just because my parents wanted me too... I think that you need to do whatever you think is right.. Because if you aren't true to your self then who are you making happy... IF it is your parents that you are trying to make happy then whats in it for you..
2007-04-05 23:32:08 · answer #3 · answered by pink_duckie_2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to become a liar and hide what you're doing, is this really the best thing for your future? If you live at home and don't pay rent, food, utilities, car, insurance, fuel, medical/dental, and other costs then you need to live by your parents' rules until you're old enough to pay your own way in life.
2007-04-05 23:34:13 · answer #4 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know alot of people who have been in this situation and some times just take the easy way out.the ones who make the effort to not get caught and still have a bf get so close.it limits space between eachother and lets you miss the person more.as long as you trust this kid and you really like or love him go behind there backs they cant control you
2007-04-05 23:44:55 · answer #5 · answered by xpsxtsukasa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know about him at all so mabye it is little hard to give you the right advise for you to lead the right direction.. but if you believe he is a truly nice guy then why not believe him and call but you have two choices rite now, so you need to pick up wit a bit naive thinkin about that.
2007-04-05 23:41:40 · answer #6 · answered by Minori S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you no that if you don't have closer you will be thinking about this boy for ever.One thing you don't want in your life is a lot of ( what ifs what if I done this what if i done that ) I'm not telling you to go against your parents but a girls gotta do what a girls gotta do.
2007-04-05 23:42:49 · answer #7 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T! this is why: if he honestly wanted to be with you for the long run. and actually loved you he would be more then willing to wait for you. If he can't respect your parents that brought you into the world. How do you expect him to treat their daughter. But seriously think about it. If his motives were right he should have no problem respecting their wishes and in respecting them he would be respecting you. Just think about it.
2007-04-05 23:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by Suya 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
go for it. as long as he doesn't hurt or abuse you, who are they to judge him? i think you know him better than they do. don't outright disobey them, but there's no harm in seeing him. it also kind of depends what his record is for. if it's drugs or alcohol and he's clean now, so what? just make sure he's not a homicidal maniac. as far as i;m concerned, if he treats you right, you've got a good guy. good luck love=)
2007-04-05 23:32:43 · answer #9 · answered by Fiona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him, you trust him, he treats you well and he cares about you, forget the parents and do what you wnat to do.
it's your life, not theirs. just dont get caught!
goodluck! =]
2007-04-05 23:32:25 · answer #10 · answered by Clarity. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋