My boyfriend cheated on me. He was my first love and i just feel miserable, i just dont know what to do, do you have any advice to make me feel better..heellpp
2007-04-05 16:13:57 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Cheating is unacceptable, no matter what the excuse. You should just ditch the dude! Advise? Move on as quickly as you can, that will drive him up the wall! Don't sleep around or anything like that, just give the outward appearance that he didn't mean all that much to you, and he will go nuts!
2007-04-05 16:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Bigglesworth 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about this--you say it was a first love?? Well sit up and pay attention---everyone has had a first love--and a first heartbreak--you are learning that not all people are trustworthy or respectful---so that means you have to be smart and really check these new guys out--take your time and see how they treat you--how they talk to you--how they are in public and how they talk about women. There is so much to learn--so relax--the dirty cheat is gone--you certainly won't catch a disease from him---now you can stand tall, smile and look for a nice guy---set your sights high--demand the best--insist on a guy that is mature, and has an appreciation for you. If he is a creep--tell him to move on and look for another--millions of kids have gone through this--it is life. NEVER BE UPSET OVER A CREEP--smile and be glad he is gone. Never settle for second best. You got a long life ahead of you--do the right things, be nice, smile and good luck
2007-04-05 16:24:21 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, no matter how much you love him, you must drop him. NOW. Don't give him another minute of your time or energy. He doesn't deserve it. Once a cheater always a cheater. The longer you stay with him, the more in control he will feel. He may not do it again right away, but he will do it again. Iv'e been cheated on before, and not only was he my first love, he was my fiance'. We lived together and everything. I had to tell him good bye. It really hurt, but you will feel better. It's for your own good and self respect.
2007-04-05 16:21:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im so glad you asked that question I just left mine..he cheated on me with my bestfriend.. and we have a kid together, What you need to realize is that he pitched a tent with someone else...hes not interested in you and he wasnt thinking of you when he did it..I know its hard..but its better he did it now then later..now you know how he really is..There are so many REAL MEN out there that can treat you with the respect that you deserve. It sounds like you are a very honest person...you can get someone better. Just keep your options open..and dont think about it..I know its going to be hard..my ex still calls me till this day and tells me how sorry he is and that he will change..but once a cheater always a cheater.. and he cheated on me two weeks ago..after the first few days..I was over it. I dont even think of him anymore. Honestly..and he was my first love and we were together for four years. So I KNOW what you are going through..but sweety it WILL get better...just keep your head up..if you need someone to talk to more about it..just email me..I want to help!
ddiaz484@yahoo.com
Good Luck!
Dana
2007-04-05 16:31:18 · answer #4 · answered by Dana D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheat, always a cheat!!!!!! You should only give a guy one shot. If he cheats, see you later baby!!!! I know it is very painful right now, but believe me, you will always have doubts and that is not a good way to be in a relationship. It will be hard for awhile, but keep busy. Keep telling yourself you deserve to be treated with more respect then that. If you accept his cheating ways then you are not a strong person at all. Your needy. I know right now you dont want to hear things like move on or get over it or even forget him. That all seems impossible right now. Believe me tho in time you will be with someone that truly loves you and would never hurt you like that. CHEATERS ARE LOSERS!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-05 16:28:02 · answer #5 · answered by davidswoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear this, and know the feeling as well. Though we're all different, here are a couple of things that helped me out: cutting any and all communication with the cad/hanging and going out with my very closest buddies/burning him in effigy (okay, that was a joke, but it's not a bad idea to help get all the hurt out)/listening to sappy music and eating Hagen Daas (put a short time limit on this one)/after your sappy ice cream week, look like a queen, and you will start to feel like one again. Good luck, and you'll be just fine; you got rid of a big problem before it was too late! Congrats!!!
2007-04-05 16:24:14 · answer #6 · answered by Artemisia G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but I have no advice to make you feel better, If you love him it is going to hurt, and it will always hurt. The trust in your relationship is gone. Even if you guys stay together it will never be the same. There is a song that say I am willing to forgive you but I cant forget. That song hits spot for me. It doesn't matter why he cheated, how sorry he is, or who he cheated with. He is a dog!
2007-04-05 16:24:21 · answer #7 · answered by anessa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loves come and go, but good friends, wine and food last forever.
If you know for sure that he cheated on you then you must LET HIM GO because history has the tendency to repeat itself. Obviously he doesn't feel the same way about you (anymore.)
You sound young...and I know you probably won't to make him suffer...don't do it...because you're still doing it for him...be about YOU right now.
This is a good time to get with friends and live life. Stay occupied so you're not daydreaming of him. Trust me...you'll find another love when the time is right....be urself and have fun!
2007-04-05 16:22:22 · answer #8 · answered by redbone9677 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cry it out sweetie. I know it hurts, but you will feel better with time.
Talk to your friends. Let yourself feel angry because you deserve to feel angry about this.
Do not let this rat bastard back in your life. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Don't call him, don't go to see him. Ignore him like a blank spot that isn't there if you do see him.
Don't answer the phone if he calls, and for pete's sake, don't sit by the phone hoping he will.
Go out with your friends, have a spa day. Start exercising, get in great shape, get your hair done, buy some new clothes and get yourself out there!
Eventually you will find someone who deserves your loyalty and love. Don't waste another minute on this jerk.
Happiness is the best revenge. Get out there and grab some!
Good luck to you.
2007-04-05 16:24:45 · answer #9 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don`t feel miserable. He`s the one who should feel like that. You have to feel good, there ARE more guys out there. With some time you`ll forget him (yeah, break up with him now, you can`t be with someone you don`t trust 100%), that`s the bottom line, and keep that in mind, Don`t feel stupid, you aren`t , feel proud for being who you are, and let your ex-bf do what he wants. Think once or twice what can you did wrong, but keep in mind that it wasn`t your fault.
AND get some friends and get out of your home so you don`t get depressed. Do exersices too, and relax.
2007-04-05 16:25:51 · answer #10 · answered by Alec113 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋