Sex addict or fetish freak?

Question

I am a married male with two wonderful kids. My wife and I have slowly drifted apart but remaining married for reasons I don't know right now. She is more conservative, while I am as kinky as they come. Since early teens, some 25 years ago, I have been crossdressing and seeking to be dominated and humiliated by females. I love to be used as a maid, slave, servant to other females. I have secretly done this and it is quite arousing, especially to be punished during training. To be punished or humiliated in front of a group of female friends has been done and it is unbelievable. I have drove around in my car wearing a bra, just to expose myself to a carload of females to get them to laugh or whatever. My question would be, am I too far over the line for any relationship and need to get help or am I just with the wrong person and most of this would sort itself out with Ms Right.

Answer 1

No you have some deep-seated issues about how you feel around females... I can understand actual because usually within that same area of social ego, most males drive to be dominate in the same way you drive to be anit-dominate. This then would leave me to conclude that you've had a cross-wire in your social-sexual development. So it does speck of a deep problem, also the fact that you've explored this feeling this far shows that you've neglected other ways to relate to females which has also caused this to maybe become borderling fetish... but true fetishes means an inablility to be sexually satisfied thru other means and only you would know that. Watch doc drew sometimes that man well go off on sexual fetishes, geeze.... ether way your only fix is to be comfrontable or better, the same level of comfontable relating with females in other ways. Unfornatly in this type of situation your ms right is going to be unattainable because sexuality and intimacy can become to very distict things when your talking about a fetish....you'll base your relationship on her ability to satisfy your fetish which in many ways is nothing more then a sexual addiction (true sexual addiction, yes just like porn addiction and hooker addiction, there all the same attempts at improving sexual pleasure based on fantasy and not reality) so when she is unable to supply your addiction the way you want it she'll be just as bad as your last wife to you. So you'll never develop a true deep and meaningful relationship becasue it well always be about you and your addiction and not about true intimacy. You know the ability to acutal connect in a meaningful way. Which your screwing up with your wife, who you owe trying for. You need conseling buddy sorry to say or you need to actual have a relationship with people not based, or based against you sexual dysfunction. So catch-22 with fetishes... good luck if you want to keep it, but you'll be searching the globe and never really be completly satisfied, or you could actual except that you've got a nice person there who gave you two wonderful kids, that means the world to you and theres nothing else you can do outside of doing it with her that well satisfy you. Unfornatly I don't think you've ever made that level of acceptance of your feelings are else I wouldn't be answering this question....