2007-04-05 15:21:09 · 26 answers · asked by LoveLife 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you tell your mother, your "boyfriend" will go to jail and become a registered sex offender.
2007-04-05 15:24:53 · answer #1 · answered by Jason 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The ages are an issue--he cxan be charged for anything he does with you---regardless of your desires---so instead of telling mom--just be friends and skip the ideas of a serious relationship. Mom might overreact and you do not want that. You can go with an 18 year old when you are 18. There are a lot of years ahead of you--and lots of nice young men to meet in your lifetime--so cool it for now. That would be the smart mature decision to make. You might wind up grounded for no reason or you might wind up with a dangerous guy--even though you think you know him well enough now. He certainly should know the age laws come into play here---he might be counting on you being an easy physical encounter--I doubt if he wants anything deeper than that. He should respect your decisions ---do the right thing and avoid troubles...and he can avoid jail time.... good luck
2007-04-05 22:29:19 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats a pretty big age difference. I think your mum would know you are at the age where you are interested in the opposite sex, so I dont think your question will suprise her - but it might scare her as she will be worried about your motives, and the boys motives, and maturity. I would tell her that there is something really important that you would like to discuss with her, and go from there. Is it love? Does the boy have a good character? Or do you really just feel eager to take the next step - go out with the boy - go out in his car. Is he after sex (boys at that age often are) - if so you could be very hurt if you think its love. At your age you are both immature and you could be less mature than the boy. Its nothing to be ashamed of - it is the age you are at the moment, thats all. Basically I would tell you mother everything and be guided by her. Perhaps you can agree on guidelines, perhaps not. Keep in mind that you are your mothers daughter and she has nurtured and protected you since birth, so she loves you and cares about your best interest - plus she is more mature because she is older, and she has been there! So think about your motives and his, discuss very openly with your mum, put your point of view and defend it, but listen to what she says.
2007-04-05 22:43:04 · answer #3 · answered by pete the pirate 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Best to ask her if she is bothered by this situation. You know that you shouldn't be dating an 18 year old, don't you? He'll be out checking out the world and you'll be in school with all those "hunks" and won't be able to flirt with them, or anything. Why would you want to toss your high school days like that, by dating an 18 year old. You're only young once, so enjoy your high school years. If the 18 year old is still around after you graduate, then date him. Good luck
2007-04-05 22:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by mom 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask yourself why you love him. If you have a good enough reason, explain it to your mom. If you don't, forget about him.
I'm a 15 year old girl as well and I understand why you might want to date an 18 year old, but...just wait a few years. Really. You could get yourself (and especially him) in trouble. In the mean time, try to find a mature guy that's our age.
2007-04-05 22:29:56 · answer #5 · answered by Kate 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want you and your boyfriend to get into serious trouble, you should end this relationship before you decide to move into sex. It's illegal for anyone 18 and over to be having sex with someone 17 and under. So your bf can go to jail if you're caught. If believe that he's worth waiting for, wait until you're 18.
2007-04-05 22:24:27 · answer #6 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't date him. It is actually illegal and he probably wants to have sex with you because 18 year olds won't. Ask him if he would want to have dinner with you and your mom. If he says yes, he is worth a try. If he says no, you should dump him on the spot. His intentions aren't good and wants no witnesses. He is putting you in a bad place, if he shows no concern about that, he is not for you.
2007-04-05 22:29:48 · answer #7 · answered by M J 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you should...such things should not be kept a secret and you should ask your mother for relationship advice not just rely on what your 18 year old bf says.
2007-04-05 22:41:54 · answer #8 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
'mom, i want to date
dating an older man can be tricky when you're in high school, but i'm sure you're mother will be more open to the idea if she had the opportunity to meet him and get to know him. it's her job to protect you, even when you don't think you need it. besides, lying and sneaking around will just make her mad.
2007-04-05 22:25:24 · answer #9 · answered by Julie N 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
watch out for cop sirens when youre with him cuz from what i know they can get him for child abuse or something... i think it is gonna be something very shocking for your mom to know that youre with someone 3 years older than you... when youre 15... but i think if she gets to know him and see what a good guy he is (which im hoping he is) shell be able to accept him
2007-04-05 22:25:41 · answer #10 · answered by nickname 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋