Does sleeping with a man quickly make him think less of you?

Question

Im talking about hetro relations! If you sleep with them really soon after meeting them or after agreeing to date etc.? Speaking of soon, how long is soon, how long is a long time to wait?!

Woa so many people answering! Thanks! Just wanted to add, I don't have a situation it was just a general wondering so oi to person calling me a dirty wh*re!! Also, I am lovin reading all the girls opinions but it was male views I was looking for really coz as much as women think they know men I dont think we're always right!

Answer 1

i slept w mine on the 2nd date and now we're getting married so it depends on the man i guess

Answer 2

Don't you understand that if a man thinks less of you after sleeping with you then he is not worth bothering with? It is not a matter of knowing the male mind or not. It is about knowing your own mind and having some self-respect. Rather than being manipulated into playing some silly chastity game just so chauvinistic men don't think you're a sl*t or a sexual threat, why don't you do what YOU feel? What is the point in waiting other than trying to fit into the man's ideal of what a woman should be? Obviously you should wait if you don't feel ready, but if you want to go for it and are waiting so the man doesn't look down on you, I say dump him!

Sex should not be currency used to manipulate a man into staying with you! By denying your urges to make him be with you for longer you are using sex as currency.

Answer 3

I asked my hubby for his opinion and this is what he said:
When men are out clubbing they're looking for sex and they apply criteria which is very different from when they're looking for a lifetime partner or wife. Plus a lot of men operate a mental 'score card' of how many girls they get through which adds to their self-esteem as a man, and they like variety and choice. So if you sleep with someone really quickly, then you definitely get put into the 'notches on the belt' category whereas if you hold out for a good period of time then the man will get interested in you, rather than your knickers, and his view of you will change from 'casual' to 'long term partner'.
Well, that's Mr. GorgeousFluffpot's opinion which I hope is useful. My own opinion is that a man doesn't think less of you, he just thinks differently of you It's only if he's very immature that he will think you're a 'slapper' or whatever term is used - if he's older then he'll just see you as someone equal who wants some fun without commitment.

Answer 4

You really have to look at the situation and what kind of connection you have. It should be pretty clear if this is just going to be a fun thing or whether you see a potential soul mate. In any event, who cares? If you're both consenting adults and you enjoy each other that way, I don't think you have to consult Miss Manners about the proper waiting period. Just don't get all emotionally committed to somebody that just wants sex and companionship. Use them, then lose them. If men can do it, so can you. When the right person comes along, you may want to wait just to make it all that much more delicious.

Answer 5

I'm a man - I don't think I'd think less of you if I slept with you on our 2nd meeting . 1st meeting would suggest you're an easy lay, which may be a good thing depending on the kind of man I am. It does make our lives a lot easier if we both get the awkwardness of "should I, shouldn't I?" out of the way asap, instead being teased for ages

Answer 6

From my (limited) experience I can say that I used to think STOP and WAIT at least 6 weeks.
But then came along the one I then ended up with (happily!)...well, I think it was about 36 hours after we met (1.5 days) -- maybe even less? There was beer involved...

PS - Later:
You added that you really wanted a male experience. Well, HE says that he thought that was self-confident that there wasn't any waiting involved. And that he decided right away to come back for more and more and more....

Answer 7

I don't think all guys think bad of you...but sometimes if they just want sex, and they get it...they might not stick around longer to find out what you're like and if you're someone they might want to spend more time with.

but you should look into the reasons that you're sleeping with him right away...do you just want to have fun? that's great... are you looking for a reason to keep him around? well, that doesn't always work... but if you hit it off right away and you both agree that the relationship is going to continue, if you want to sleep together to see if you mesh that way as well, I don't think it matters if its the first date or if you wait...

but its different for everyone...if you're ready to have sex with a guy, why let others tell you if its wrong or right? and if he thinks less of you, well then don't see him again...and remember, he slept with you right away as well... just because guys see a double standard there doesn't mean we have to ;)

This of course is all assuming you're out of high school... it is quite bad for anyone in high school to practice "free love"

Answer 8

I just answered a similar question so I'll post my answer again:

I think men who accept sex when it is offered to them and then judge the woman they have slept with negatively are absolutely horrible. It takes two to have sex! They are sooooo hypocritical! They tend to be the same kind of men who catogorise women into madonna/whore types - some are for marriage, some are for ****ing. This reduces women to accessories to match with their own twisted ideals, rather than the complex equals that we are. This judgement is a kind of discrimination. A man who has participated in sex with a woman and then condemns her for it clearly does not see her as an equal. He does not see her as another human being with the same sexual urges, but instead views her as someone lesser - possibly immoral or lacking in self-esteem -because she is a woman who will 'give it up' early on: they do not condemn themselves or other men in the same way.

However, the fact is sometimes men have sex with women who offer it even when they don't really fancy the woman and have no intention of ever having a relationship with her. It is NOT the sex that changes their minds: they were never going to pursue her anyway.

I ALWAYS sleep with people very early. Mainly because I love sex and do NOT see it as degrading myself to give in to this natural desire. I have had two relationships that each lasted around 5 years and I slept with both men within hours of meeting them. I have had another 3 year relationship where I slept with the guy after a couple of days. It has NEVER turned a man off me, quite the opposite. They get hooked very early! My attitude to sex has always been quite male. I am passionate and I have never found a man who doesn't enjoy this and doesn't want a relationship with me after sex.

Answer 9

you should have waited at least 2days to get the person too soon is the day u meet too long is 7 1/2 years u catch my drift have a little fun while your relationship is new and if your still insecure talk to the person

Answer 10

I am a guy and think it depends on the guy and what he wants from the girl. My wife and I knew each other long time but never dated, when we did it happened quick and we never looked back. But do think before ya do and enjoy, it is meant to be a special thing

Answer 11

Not necessary, I guess it all depends on the situation and the guy. Some guys will think that you are easy and may be into you because of that, well others, may not think anything of it, you know, it all depends on the guy and what he is looking for, you just have to ask your self what do you think, and how will you feel about your self.