what should i do? im still in my teens and both me and my boyfriend think were ready for a child we cant wait.

Question

we both believe we can finacally support the child and give it as much love as possible....uuughhhh i really dont know what i should do?????

Answer 1

okay, I do understand that at this point the two of you are probably in that stage of the game where you are deeply in love, that is wonderful and I say enjoy it. But having a child is a big step and it puts a lot of stress on your relationship, it means long nights, working all the time to support the child, irritability, exhaustion, and fighting a lot of the time. Plus being finacially stable isn't enough. You have to be emotionally stable to. Think of it this way? Don't the two of you like going to the movies at a moments notice? Don't you enjoy being able to go for a walk late at night? or cuddling or even making love without someone inturrupting? I'm telling you from expereince all the fun stuff about being a couple pretty much dissappears once you have a child. Don't get me wrong I love my son, but I miss being able to do all the fun stuff me and my fiance used to do. If you truly love each other than enjoy this time to be a couple and wait until later. Give each other the chance to have fun and grow before you lock yourself down for life. Hope my advice helps

Answer 2

I would wait you legally haven't even enjoy have a drink or two. If you have a child now you won't be able to hang out with your friends as often. Having a child is a lot of work. Could you both work after you had this child? Do you have money for child care and have you found a child care that you would feel comfortable leaving you child at? Can you deal with the child be up at all hours of the night when you both have to work the next morning. I'm 28 my daughter is 14 months old and I'm glad i waited I've had fun spending my money on things that I wanted. Now all my money goes to getting things for my daughter. Things she needs and things i just want to get for her. Please wait a little longer if you truly want a baby wait until you are 21. If your love can last that long go for it. For now get a puppy and enjoy taking care of it. sorry so long. Best of luck.

Answer 3

Wait. I'm a teen - 17 to be exact - and both my boyfriend of one year and I want a baby.
My stepfather told me he would help support the child if I were to get pregnant, and both my boyfriend and I have jobs. We're both in high school still, though.
Financially ... I doubt you earn enough to support a baby, especially without assistance. That's not meant to be deragitory to you, not at all.
Go to this link and do the stuff on it. When I thought I was ready for a baby financially, this changed my mind about it

http://www.teenageparent.org/english/costofbaby2B.html

If you need anything else, feel free to IM me, even if you just wanna chat about possible babies and pregnancy :)

Good luck
~Ishy

Answer 4

wait wait wait. that is all there is to it. as a teen you have yet to begin life. When u get older you are going to want to go out and have fun alot and you will not be able to because you have a child. Also you need to be able to pay for

2 bedroom apt: APX 800 a month
Electric: 30 - 200 a month
Water: 90 a month
Dipers: 100 a month
Formula APX 150 - 250 a month depending on brand
clothing for child APX 100 per every other month
Doctors visits 50 - 100 per visit.

Along with many other things now tell me can you afford that??

Answer 5

The first thing that you need to do is finish school if you haven't done so already. And as far as being financially stable no parent is financially stable to care for a child whether they prepare or not. But in your case you should really wait until you are at least 25 I say 25 because at that point in most peoples lives they already know what they are going to to with the rest of their lives. Also at that point they have already gotten all of the partying, drinking, and going out all the time out of their systems. And of course you know that you ARE going to want to do those things when you are old enough to do them. And trust me having a baby to take care of kinda puts a burden on that part of your life that you are supposed to have.

Answer 6

Enjoy being a teenager, even if you think you're ready for a baby. I'm 19 with an 8 month old son and believe me I love him with all my heart but it gets hard sometimes. Not just not being able to go out, losing touch with friends, but it brought up issues with my boyfriend too. We never realised how different our opinions of parenting are. And as financially stable as you think you may be, you probably arent if your a teenager... babies get more expensive every day it seems. No one can stop you if its what you truly want, just be absolutely positive you can provide everything for your child and its what you really want

Answer 7

Financially support? How much income do you both pull in a year? And what will that be if you need to be on leave? Plus Ill give you a different answer at age 19 (wait) compared to 15.(wait more)

Answer 8

DON'T have a baby you are way too young. You cannot support the child properly if you are a teenager. Diapers, food, housing, medical insurance and more. Wait until you are in a happily married relationship and you are much older and mature enough to take on the responsibility.

Answer 9

Babies do grow up into little monsters. They don't stay little for long. There is a lot more responsibility then you think. You have to give up a lot of things that you want to do. If I were you I would wait to have a baby at such a young age. Enjoy life and have kids later.

Answer 10

are you really ready to give up being able to sleep in already??? I agree that you should go to school and go traveling and get a puppy. And save $!!!! Always have savings for emergencies and repairs..never know when yer cars will need fixing. And daycare too is a load of cash! Health insurance is another biggie.