VERY IMPORTANT QUESTION. What should i do????

Question

I talked to my stepdad last nite about if he thought my real mom would get mad at me for getting a tattoo on my chest and not telling her. I've already got a lower back tattoo and she said its pretty but its too big. I brought it up to my mom about getting the tattoo on my chest and she said absolutley not(i dont live with her yet,real dads parents adopted me) My stepdad told me to get it and not tell her till after. But my mom said that it would secretly rip her heart out.. She says' i'm too young to have a tattoo there(i'm 17.. been seventeen for couple weeks) got my first tattoo when i was 16.. couple weeks before i turned 17. But i really want this tattoo. And i dont know what to do now. If i get it, its gonna make her feel like she dont have no say so about her own daughter(which leaglly she dont) but that's not the point. WHAT SHOULD I DO??????? i really want this tattoo. Its a head of a unicorn with a rose in its mouth. I NEED AS MANY ANSWERS AS POSSIBLE

Answer 1

If the tattoo is what you really want, and is that much worth getting, it's worth waiting a while for.

I do think that it's every person's right to choose what they should or shouldn't do to their own body. And there does come a point at which your own views have to outweigh those of your parents, because it's your life, and you have to live it. But it sounds like right now this situation could cause a lot of friction in your family.

I'd say wait until you're 18 and then see how you feel. Apart from anything else, in most areas the legal minimum age for getting a tattoo is 18. I know you have one already, so you've obviously found a tattoo artist prepared to work on you, but a lot of good artists won't work on under 18s even in areas where the law would allow them to. So, from your point of view, if you wait, you'll open up access to better artists and therefore you'll be able to get a better quality of tattoo. And from your mum's point of view, you're respecting the fact that she thinks you're too young, and showing maturity in being prepared to wait for something and not rush into it, which will set her mind at ease. You're in a better position than lots of other people, because your mum isn't freaking out at the very idea of tattoos; she's just concerned that you may be rushing into them too young. Show her that you aren't, and she'll probably feel better.

I'd actually go so far as to say that if you don't feel you can wait, that's a sign that you really, really should. This is about getting a tattoo to last your whole life; a year isn't much to trade in return.

Hope this makes sense!

Answer 2

i think that getting a tattoo on your chest at your age is jumping the gun a bit. i know you're seventeen and you feel like you can make all of your decisions on your own (i think i was a lot like you when i was your age) THANKFULLY i never got any of my first tattoos in a highly visible place. let me say that i have seen quite a few chest tattoos on women and some of them are beautiful and artful and amazing but 90% of them are horribly done and look trashy. why don't you wait until you are older. think about it for a long time. pick a design and look at it every day. if in two years you still want it then get it. two of the three last tattoos i got i thought about for three years before getting to make sure that i really really wanted them first. my first few tattoos were horrible and i ended up getting them covered up and i knew that i wanted to make these good ones that i'd love forever.
here i am, 25 years old and i am just now getting great tattoos. please do yourself a favor and just wait.

just this tattooed girl's opinion.

Answer 3

Tattoos are pretty long lasting. If you wait a while it's probably better because then you will know after a while if you really wanted the tattoo for the long haul or if you just wanted it for a while. So perhaps wait a few years and see how you feel, if you still want the tattoo and like the idea, get it done then! theres no rush and you are still underage. I think your mom would understand more if you got the tattoo and you were an "adult". Hope this helps! It helped me... I changed my mind about mine (3 years after I planned it)

Answer 4

You're probably not going
to listen to anyone. But it
is a very bad idea for a
tattoo and for the placement.
If you never listen to her again,
listen to her now. She has your
best interest at heart. It is a very
painful place as well. Trust me.
You get what you pay for. If
you have gotten other tattoos
and you are only 17, I can only
guess at the quality of the work.
A good artist would not do that.
If it is a sound idea and you are
mad crazy to get it...It will still
appeal to you in a year. You
might look back in a year,
and think , "Whoa, what was I thinking."
Can you afford to give it the time?
Waiting for what you want,
is part of being an adult.
Think Before You Ink

Answer 5

You know how I look at tattoos...they are for life. Just picture yourself 15-20 years from now with that tattoo on your chest and maybe your children asking you why did you get it. Or maybe when you're a grandma and your skin has stretched and become wrinkled. We really don't think about these things but I know when I thought about these things I changed my mind about a tattoo I really wanted (same area) but I did get one on my ankle. You already got a big one on your lower back...imagine when your 60 how it's going to look. Also remember that a tattoo that might cost $100 bucks to get will cost thousands to remove. you're still young take your time and think about it from all angles.

Answer 6

Ok, though you want it really bad, you can get a tattoo anytime but if you break your moms heart it will be that way for a long time if not the rest of her life. i think that you should talk to your mom and tell her you'd like to get it for your 18th birthday. And explain that by turning 18 you are an adult and believe you should be able to make your own decisions and you don't mean to hurt her. And don't worry it can wait till then, it will go by in a flash. Goodluck.

Answer 7

I would first talk with your mother first and maybe consider her advice. She's looking out for you and shouldn't just do it, it might be disrespectful or hurt her. Tattoos can wait. if she wants you to not have it now, but that's maybe saying you should rethink about the tattoo on your chest. But if you strongly feel about it, definitely talk to your mom about why you want it and that your old enough to make this decisions.

Answer 8

What licensed (i.e. legal) tattoo parlor will touch anyone under 18? There is reason for the age limit.

Answer 9

wait until you're 18 and decide for yourself. where i'm from, it's illegal for a tattooist to tattoo anyone under 18. lying to your mother or anyone else is never a good idea, whether or not they have anything to say about what you do.

Answer 10

just wait one more year. think about what matters more. the tattoo or her feelings??
good luck, hope you make the right choice.