ok, so i want my bridal party to sit at the head table with me and my soon to by hubby, but where would the bridal party's dates sit? i wouldnt want them to sit alone at a table where they dont know anyone, but i also dont want 20 people at the head table.. what are my options!!!
2007-04-05 13:53:58 · 10 answers · asked by bar22bie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You just said your options, either have them sit at a table where they really don't know anyone, or have them sit at the head table. Although, you DO have a 3rd option, and that is have a "sweethearts" table, for you and your hubby, and do away with the whole "head table" concept. After all, you're really the center of attention, not everyone else in the wedding party. ;-) Hope this helps!
2007-04-05 14:22:52 · answer #1 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there are 20 people at the head table that would mean that 8 of them would be dates right? Set them up at a table all their own, they will bond over being bridal party dates and all get along. Thats the best way to do it if you want to have your bridal party sitting with you.
2007-04-05 13:58:51 · answer #2 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar problem. One of my bridesmaids (my cousin) is engaged and I didn't want a future in-law to be left out. Plus several of the others had dates that didn't know anyone in my family. Many people suggested a sweethearts table but we didn't want to be that much of a focal point for the whole room.
One solution I did was I had a head table that had chairs for the 2 of us and both sets of our parents. Then we had a two reserved tables right in front of us. One was for the bridal party and one was for the important guests--grandparents.
I had a stage in the front corner which is where I put the head table and that way the reserved tables really were directly in front of us but it didn't block our view. The problem with a sweetheart table is then you never have a chance to sit down anyway, but with us having a spot for the parents and all that, I had a spot for my drink and people didn't keep picking up my drink. And usually one of us was up there at any given time.
I think a reserved table is a much better idea for the bridal party. They would rather sit with their significant others anyway. Plus, if one of them is a relative (like if you have your sister for your matron of honor) it's like you are ignoring your brother-in-law. I look at it as by the time the reception rolls around, they have done their duty as your bridesmaid and should be allowed to live it up.
However, it is your day and you can do it how you want to do it. Another suggestion is to have the bridal party up at the head table with you and a reserved table for the dates of the bridal party--so that they will have someone in a similar situation to talk to.
2007-04-05 15:32:36 · answer #3 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one reason I'm against head tables. It's too complicated. I'd say, just do a sweetheart table. Have you and your hubby be the center or attention; after all it is your big day. It's not you bridal parties. Sit them a table not far from yours. Trust me, they won't be missed. Everyone came to celebrate your big day and to see you and your new hubby. Not 10 of your closets friends.
2007-04-05 14:54:49 · answer #4 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Typically when it's time for the wedding party to sit down, normally even if the people in the wedding bring a date their dates do not sit with you at the head table. Most head tables don't hold more than ten people at most. When it is time for seating you can always have a seperate table for the dates of the other members of the wedding party
2007-04-05 14:24:07 · answer #5 · answered by WI Wedding Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The dates should sit with the other guests, not at head table. A table of their own would work nicely, I think.
I've never seen anyone other than bridal party at head table.
2007-04-05 14:48:09 · answer #6 · answered by Maria S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would ask the bridal party what they think about it.. i really wouldn't want my date sitting at a different table that would just be weird and awkward especially if they weren't close with anyone else. I think that's a terrible idea.
2007-04-05 14:28:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always just have a table with you, your hubby, and the parents?
2007-04-05 15:18:54 · answer #8 · answered by duritzgirl4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you won;t be sitting alone... it doesn't really matter as you are very busy entertaining your friends that before u know it , the event is over... my wife was so busy when we were having the dinner that we did not eat anything...or even able to speak to family member
2007-04-05 13:59:04 · answer #9 · answered by fooleong_chong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The dates sit elsewhere - they surely know some of your other friends or extended family members. Don't worry about them - they will mingle.
2007-04-05 14:22:16 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋