my 3.5 year relationship ended when she told me she was seeing someone else nov.26....now 3 months later she left him and we are going out again but she tells me she wants to take it slow...also she wants to keep him as a friend .she tells me he calls her every now and then to see hows shes doing...she also says she wants to be friends with him..can i trust her?
2007-04-05 13:45:29 · 7 answers · asked by David 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we did live together for 2.5 yrs...she left me because i told her friend she did something
2007-04-05 13:49:40 · update #1
She doesn't know who she wants. She is hoping you will stick around and play with her while she makes up her mind. But no, you should not trust her. Have you considered dumping her and moving on with your life? She is not ready for a commitment and it sounds like you are.
2007-04-05 13:51:02 · answer #1 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since I don't know all of the details, I'm not really sure what to say...except from what you're telling me I don't think you should trust her as much until she builds up that trust. She was seeing someone else while she was still dating you. Think about that for a bit...if you guys got married, what if she was seeing someone at the same time? It all depends on if she's changed or not...it's okay if she wants to keep that guy as a friend but I would just kind of watch out for that because she already kind of cheated on you with him. I'm sorry to hear that, that must have been a strong relationship you had and that's really sad that she was unfaithful. You can't prohibit her from talking to this guy, but the whole thing seems a little fishy to me. Perhaps you should wait it out, or have a conversation with her to fully assess the situation. Good luck, and I hope that helped...hopefully things will turn out for the better. If you guys were meant to be together, it'll happen, and if not, just move on.
2007-04-05 13:52:49 · answer #2 · answered by anu_dew2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can't really tell you what to do but I'll tell you what I would do. If anyone ever cheated on me, they would have a hard time keeping me away from strangling them. I would NEVER get back with someone like that. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Yet, if I did do something so selfless, I would not be able to trust that person very well, especially not if they still wanted to keep in contact with the person they cheated on me with.
It sounds like this girl doesn't know what she wants and, if I were you, I'd get rid of her. She can't expect you to be friends with the guy she ran off with. That's just unfair. She's obviously not considering your emotions at all. Bouncing backwards and forwards between two people is selfish and I would never give someone like that a chance to be my friend let alone my partner.
Yet, like i said, it's up to you. You just need to really reflect on how YOU feel about it and make a decision based on that.
2007-04-05 13:57:33 · answer #3 · answered by Fire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And she left you the first time for this guy? You can try and give her the benefit of the doubt but it's always going to be in the back of your mind because he's the one she left you with in the first place. People can change though.
2007-04-05 13:51:15 · answer #4 · answered by diamoniquejazz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way....If your back with her she need only to be dedicated to YOU....Dont do it if she wants to put up legalities like being friends with some guy she most likely had sex with....Thats a fire waiting to happen...I am sure you are better then that dont let her walk on you...I wouldnt trust it no way...sorry.....would she accept you haveing an exgirlfriend as a friend??I really doubt it....
Think about it~
2007-04-05 13:53:39 · answer #5 · answered by **Mishelly** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant trust her if she is still talking to him no way let her know you dont want her to see him anymore if she refuses then just let her go its not worth your feelings getting hurt all over again when she cheats again and she probably will !!but if she stops talking to him maybe in time u will be able to work it out
2007-04-05 13:57:35 · answer #6 · answered by suarezpimp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly...........i would not trust her at all. she ruined a very long relationship for nothing. obviously it did not mean much to her if she was willing to ruin it. now, she wants you back and is talking to the guy that she was seeing? it doesnt sound right to me. if i was u i would move on.
2007-04-05 13:50:43 · answer #7 · answered by makewake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋