im not in love with my boyfriend anymore, before i met my boyfriend i fell in love with someone who i knew couldnt date me,we were like soul mates so i kept my feelings to myself in case it changed our friendship. He got a girlfriend and when i was around both of them i felt so awkward that i stopped being his friend although he continued to call and mail me. I met another man and dated him and began to fall in love with him,but i still love my male friend. Im so confused. Now my boyfriend keeps saying he loves me but i cant say it back. My male friend was so close, i cant get him out of my head and i feel guilty for not loving me boyfriend but i cant call quits as i go through times of loving/hating him....he has a jekle and hyde personality,ignoring me then smuthering me
2007-04-05 13:41:53 · 18 answers · asked by janeysmithster 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most times when male and female are friends they share intimacy feelings and secrets that build a bond of a true loving friendship. They say these relationships make the best lasting romances. Could be he has not seen this way, respects you as his friend, values your friendship with him, but sees you as a close sister type. As I can understand your attachment to him it may be you think it is love when in fact it isn't. I would hope you would not give up your friendship with him as good friends are hard to come. But I also can respect the fact that you feel strange hanging with him and his girl due to your feelings for him, Your boyfriend has let you down with his jekle and hyde personality, also you are comparing him with the relationship of your friend. Does not mean there is no hope of finding that special guy, and I know you will. You sound to be a loving, caring person and some great guy out there is bound to see that in you sooner or later. Best of luck to you!
2007-04-05 13:52:54 · answer #1 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple as this: If your going to plan and DUMP the damn guy,
do it now before you get yourself into a lot of trouble. Oh yeah,
by the way, you are risking your relationship with both your
boyfriend (who will definitely not be your friend afterwards) and
your "male soul-mate" (who will reject your love because he
simply loves someone else - his girl friend). But at least you
let your feelings out towards how you feel about your
"soul mate" and you have a 50/50 shot of getting him to love
you.
2007-04-05 13:52:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you and your boyfriend need to take a break for you to see exactly how you feel about him and the whole situation with your male friend because this maybe holding you back from loving and truly loving your boyfriend and if your feelings for this other guy are that strong then you need to find a way to deal with them before you try to be with anybody because those feelings may interrupt every relationship you enter if you allow them to.
2007-04-05 13:52:04 · answer #3 · answered by mamashortydoowop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a couple issues going on here that seem to have something in common...first of all you need to resolve or at least accept the past is in the past...to have loved and lost is better than to have never loved again, however, you have not accepted that you lost that opportunity and can not love again...let go of the past, live in the future...and if your bf is unstable, be sure you want to open your heart up to someone that can love you one moment and hate you the next...good luck.
2007-04-05 13:48:25 · answer #4 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe one true love either...their is no limit to the amount of love you can hand out to the people in your life.
If you gave birth to 10 or 15 kids...you wouldn't love anyone less but you would have more in common with only one or two of them than the rest. but you still love all of them
2007-04-05 13:45:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there LOVE wow ok if that person make you smile,LOL,saports you in all the ways you need do not tolk to you in a rud way and cherish you for who and what you are then yes if you dont have trust.respect, and onistei(i think thats how you spell it)you dont have LOVE now you think about it and if there is trust respect and onistei miss then he is not for you
2007-04-05 14:14:40 · answer #6 · answered by beardeddragen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to that male friend you have tell him you an important thing to tell him and be honest. You are going to need Guts to perform this.
2007-04-05 13:46:54 · answer #7 · answered by keeperc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun...dump him...and tell your "guy friend" how you feel if youve already stopped being his friend than it cant possibly ruin yalls relationship as friends cause yall dont have a realtionship period well at least thats what it sounds like to me
2007-04-05 13:47:45 · answer #8 · answered by sexyinpink922 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screw your boyfriend if you love the other guy go get him. It's better to regret something you did do then something you didn't!
2007-04-05 13:45:15 · answer #9 · answered by Ninja 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people especially men weren't meant to be monogamous, but that's just my opine but you will get that guy of your dreams
2007-04-05 13:49:17 · answer #10 · answered by coolio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋