he hurt me really badly, left me when i was 6 months pregnant, then slept with the cow who caused endless arguments between us and kept lying to me about things. how can i make him prove he wont do it agn? hes already sai he will, i just have 2 tell him what i want him 2 do
2007-04-05 12:16:27 · 45 answers · asked by evilbunnyhahaha 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
question. i think he left mainly cuz he were scared. we were both told we'd neva hav kids, so i think when i started to show it sunk in n he paniced.
2007-04-05 12:21:30 · update #1
dnt think i explained clearly enuf, he slept with said cow AFTER we'd split, but lied to me bout sleeping with her full stop. didn't mean he cheated on me...i just accused him of it when were we together
2007-04-05 12:24:04 · update #2
lol, his names Dan. i;ve been out with 3 dans...all been horrible to me, u;d hav thought i'd have learnt to stay away from Dan's by now!! glutten for punishment i guess.
2007-04-05 12:35:36 · update #3
oh wow...uhm let me see about this one...he probably did leave because he was scared of being a father...you love him right?...and he lied about being with another grl?....wow that is a toughie...
i think you should go back out with him...see how he is with you...if he really does care about you then he wouldn`t do anything to hurt you or even make you sad...
or what you can do is see how he is NOW...how he treats you and if you like it then go out with him and if he starts hurting you then leave him...srry thas all i can say for this one
2007-04-05 12:31:53 · answer #1 · answered by datcoloricanmami69 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound elated at getting this toe-rag back but you have REALLY got to play this cool else he will worm his way back in and will merrily trawl through the rest of his life looking for his next 'catch'.
Be careful, confident, cagey and co*k sure about yourself before you lay down a few ground rules that he has to stick by. When he has proved himself, move on to another stage and only after a lengthy time let him back into your affections and your bed.
Trust me...you give it all up too soon and you will be back at square one and he will be looking for an escape route in no time at all.
Think about it. Take some time away...and I mean DAYS to think. Don't see him...let HIM ponder on what he has done. If he is sure that he can walk back into your life, he will do it again and again and again and you will be a doormat forever.
Be sure of what YOU want and what is best FOR YOU.
2007-04-05 12:25:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's this blokes name? He sounds exactly like my ex with his ex in the picture, i too was pregnant all the time he was messing behind my back, i lost the baby, became more dependant on him and one day i woke up and left, he kept in touch with me telling me he wanted me and loved me, then he got his ex pregnant, they didn't stay together, i found the love of my life 8 years later i have 4 lovely children and haven't looked back, he was my 1st love but i realised he didn't love me enough he wouldn't of hurt me so much if he did. I can't really advise you, just tell you my story. Only you know (deep down) if he won't cheat again and as for you having to tell him what to do he needs to prove to you on his own without being told if he really loves you he'll find a way of proving it. Good Luck
2007-04-05 12:27:02 · answer #3 · answered by louloubelle2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there really is a way for him to prove that he will never do it again, is there. He can say anything and everything to try and show you that he wont, but it really wont matter as you wont believe him, you will always have something in the back of your mind thinking that he is cheating. But then again i think that it all boils down to trust. If you do believe him and believe that he is sorry and wont do anything to hurt you again then its only you that truly knows him, and therefor it is only you that can make this decision!
I hope it all works out for you x
2007-04-05 21:20:27 · answer #4 · answered by Danni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take him back, and he should already know what to do if? he really cares, If you get onto an argument I think he will take off again. No matter how scared you are you just don't abandon a young mother and kid, Bet you were scared too, but you had no choice, He did, and took the wrong one
Remember this is just my opinion,the final decision will be yours.
2007-04-05 12:40:49 · answer #5 · answered by El Lobo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU CAN'T MAKE HIM prove that he won't do it again. It's always a chance you take. Love and relationships are a gamble.
Why does he want you back? And why would you take him back, just because of the baby? Not good enough. There always has to be committment and a lot of sacrifice. It takes work.
What is he willing to do and what changes do you need for him to make? Go figure.
2007-04-05 12:24:04 · answer #6 · answered by forlove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him if he has his balls waxed and tattoos your name on his sack - then walks out naked in a the middle of the local mall and professes his undying love to you on a loudspeaker while pointing to his crotch and then getting arrested...
You let him sit in jail for a few nights and then bail him out with his own credit card (one with the highest rate 18% or higher) and tell you him you paid cash for the bail, then you tease him with the idea of sex with you after he goes to get you some of your favorite food at the store...
only to find out you took out the bulbs in his taillights and put some open bottles of booze in the back seat so he'd get pulled over and fined...
once you bail him out the second time say your don't like him anymore and if he still wants you he can enlist in the military and server at least one tour overseas and you might take him back.
Short of that. Dump his lying cheating *** b4 you get screwed again.
2007-04-05 12:30:21 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take this prick back what ever you do ! If he really respected you he would never have cheated in the first place. Maybe he was scared of becoming a dad (it happened to me) but you dont go off sh***ing someone else. He's a recipe for disaster if you ask me. Find someone who will treat you with kindness and respect and honesty.
2007-04-05 12:22:26 · answer #8 · answered by j_clarke2 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
it will be hard for you to trust him again, and all the time he's not around you'll be wondering what is he doing. it's hard for you cause you are with his child and you'll have to have some contact with him for many years to come. personally i would give a second chance (everyone makes mistakes) but NEVER a third. you'll just have to take his word for it and hope he doesn't mess up again.
it's harder when kids are involved. especially when you look at the child and you see your ex starring back at you.
2007-04-05 12:33:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
not to be a pessimist here but...people rarely break these patterns of cheating and dishonesty.
im sure you dont wanna hear that, though. he cant prove what he will or wont do, only time will tell. if you do decide to let him back into your heart/life, tread lightly, keep your wits about you and trust your gut
good luck!
2007-04-05 12:21:40 · answer #10 · answered by j. deo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋