Me n my bf got back together and he's talkin all this serious stuff like marriage n all of that and it kinda scares me. Is that a bad thing or does everyone get nervous? I mean I can see spending the rest of my life with him, and we broke up because I wasn't 18 at the time and he was 20 so it's not like he broke my heart or ne thing, but I still get nervous when we talk about this.
2007-04-05 11:18:18 · 22 answers · asked by Jessica H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thats TOTALLY normal for you to be nervous! your young and you just want to live your life wihtout the burden of the serious talk, and you just want to enjoy your relationship which is fine! i completely understand how you feel. the best solution would be to just talk to him. tell him how serious you are about him, and how you do imagine spending the rest of your life with him, but you want to save that for when your older. he seems to just need the reassurance that your want to be with him as much as he wants to be with you, so just make sure he knows and tell him to relax on the marriage stuff.. itll happen!! good luck :]
2007-04-05 11:23:33 · answer #1 · answered by sophia bush 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The exact same thing happen to me my ex broke up with me because I wasn't eighteen. In a way I feel like that's an excuse. because if you really meant something to him, it wouldn't matter and yall could work it out together to stay together and not get "caught", anyways if you aren't ready for marriage say so NOW!! Don't wait until time goes by and then tell him because that might hurt him, let him know that you love him and want to be with him, and you want to spend your life with him, and you will but not being married just yet because even though he's talkin about it now, if you rush you both will regret it.
2007-04-05 18:26:44 · answer #2 · answered by cosmetologistbeauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and explain to him that while you are very much in love with him and you want to spend the rest of the your life with him, but the talk about marriage and such scares you. Just ask him for some time to get used to the idea. And then every three months or so, reassess how you're feeling and let him know if you're still not ready to talk about the future beyond dating. You're very young so it's only natural to be afraid of such a long term commitment.
Good luck!
2007-04-05 18:23:28 · answer #3 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur still young so of course u'll get nervous. I got engaged when I was 15 I believe. It was scary but since I'm not marrying against my will and I'm marrying the guy I wanted to spend the rest of my life with then it was ok for me.
2007-04-05 18:26:27 · answer #4 · answered by kaoru22256 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're too young say no. But if you really love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him then maybe it's just cold feet or serious nervousness. But take precaution, however. Marriage is not something to be taken lightly.
2007-04-05 18:24:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get nervous about it you arent ready for Marraige. Tell him your nervous about it but you love him and could see your self being with him for the rest of your life.
2007-04-05 18:23:14 · answer #6 · answered by jesssikahhh_x3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if just talking about it makes you feel uncomfortable then your obviously dont feel like its the right time for you guys to go to that level at this time. Just talk to him and tell him how even though you want to be with him and see yourself with him in the future, marriage just isnt in your recent thoughts at th the time if he really loves you he will respect that and wait until you want to get married
2007-04-05 18:28:00 · answer #7 · answered by Ms_Apple_Bttmz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready for marriage talk to him. you are nervous because it is a big step in your life... it is a natural feeling
2007-04-05 18:24:34 · answer #8 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey,,,that is a normal way to feel when this kind of conversation is going on....Don't worry about it and continue talking about it and it will get easier for you and you won't be so nervous...
2007-04-05 18:23:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
id be nervous about this too since ya did break up once, if i was you if you i would take things really slow right now, if he really cares about you he will understand that you need time to get your relationship secure before anything else.
2007-04-05 18:27:48 · answer #10 · answered by b b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋