Am I just being stupid? Help!?

Question

Okay, so, I happened to meet a girl online, we we're both, sadly enough, playing an online game. We started speaking a few months ago now, we get on really, really well. Sometimes it's unbelievablely freaky how alike we are and how we think alike. I always did like her, she was kind, friendly, smart and an overall nice person to know. Lately these feelings have started to grow. I can honestly say that I have never actually seen a picture of her or even heard her voice, which is why I have decided to come here to ask some kind advice of you guys and to hear the opinions of a group of mature people. But, getting back to the story... As I was saying, these feelings I had for her have started to grow alot, I'm starting to wish there was more between us than just this friendship we have built over the internet. I seem to have built up a mental image of her from what I know about her, hobbies, job etc. My question is: Should I have these feelings for a girl I have never seen or even heard?

Maybe this doesnt belong in here but firstly I'd like to thank you all for the positive feedback i received, in such a short ammount of time too. Really appreciated.

Secondly, to answer a few questions etc from the posters below. I know that she doesn't have a boyfriend at the minute, she just recently (very recently actually) had a break-up with her boyfriend. I wont go into details about that but it's safe to say that it's over for good. She moved out of his place and had to lose her net for a few weeks. I kick myself everyday for missing this opportunity to exchange numbers so that we could keep in touch while she was away, she logs onto a friends PC once every other day or so to say hi and see how things are going etc. so it's not all that bad, but still..

The whole break-up with her boyfriend makes things all the more difficult for me to make a move though, I dont want to put any sort of pressure on her or anything and I'm not entirely sure how she feels over it.

Answer 1

There is nothing wrong with having feelings with someone that you have made a connection with. But if you feel this strongly about her, talk to her. Maybe she feels the same way. Don't think that you are doing something wrong, or that people can't meet others over the internet. Communicate.

Answer 2

I think it's great that you have feelings for someone, completely based on their personality and not their looks. The truth is, though, once you see what she looks like, your feelings may change. And that would be normal. If you're really interested in finding out more about this girl, your first step should probably be to ask her for some pictures. If you feel comfortable enough, maybe she'd agree to meet you too. Everything could change when you see one another. It could strengthen the relationship you already have, or it could destroy it (if you're not attracted to her, or vice versa).

Answer 3

i think it's great that your falling for someone based on personality alone. that's how it should be done. however looks are important and something to get used too. and you have to make sure they are the opposite sex (if that's what your into). it would be sad if they said they were a 25 year old female. and she really was either a 13 year old. or a 57 year old man.

you could always exchange pictures. i wouldn't try picturing her, because what you fantasize about may be nothing like her in real life. and of course meeting her - she could smell like a fish barge on a good haul.

Answer 4

Ok first do u even know if she has a bf?
Second, u can ask her for a pic and u can ask for her number to call u. Since she's ur friend and all and likes u, u should talk to her on the phone and share pics with her. Yes its ok to have feelings for someone u never seen nor heard, I mean I did. My last bf was from the internet and I was engaged to marry him but I broke that off (not going to get into that) but yeah u should ask. Rootin for ya!

Answer 5

yeah, sometimes online relationships are just as intimate because you get to know each other better because you don't have to worry about what you're doing together, how cute you look, how to act. you get lots of time to think about your next move. just know that because of this, you might not be getting to know the real her- she has time to think of things to say to give you a good impression of her. and don't fall too hard- no relationship can really happen if you've never met or aren't planning on meeting the person. sorry, but good luck love=)

Answer 6

Looks dont really matter and its good that you like a girl for her personality rather than her appearance.
As long as you are sure she isnt who she claims to be it doesnt hurt to send a picture or two.
But make sure you are in a public place if you two decide to meet up like in a library just to be safe.
Good luck
Hope this helps you.
~dillon~

Answer 7

If you really love someone, personality trumps looks every time. It wouldn't hurt to see a pic of her but even if she's not what you're expecting, remember the things about her you really like. It's more important that she makes you laugh or smile rather than her being a stunner.

Answer 8

I know a few people who have made successful relationships that started online. There would be less hurt in never trying.

Answer 9

it's easy to start having feelings for someone online. if looks are important to you then try catch her on myspace or something. start it as, you have to check out this pic i have. she probally already has on and you can check her out on there. if you want to meet her, then see if she'll meet you at a nice restarant. some where that's comfortable and public and possibly romantic

Answer 10

No you are not being stupid. Love is found when you least expect it. tell her how you feel. be honest and see what happens/
you will never know her real feelings until you tell her yours.