I'm 15 and wondering did they take advantage of me? HELP!!?

Question

Im 15, went to a disco n got drunk. My mates want to go again and travel with the same group of people as last time. I dont think I want to travel with these people again though cos i feel like they took advantage of me last time but Im not sure. Last time, they got me drunk and I ended up sitting beside a guy who kept telling me how 'fit' and 'sexy' I was. He started rubbing my legs, but i was drunk at the time and wasn't in the right state of mind and I didn't stop him. He did try to snog me though, numerous times but I wouldn't let him. Alot of the boys kept feeling my bum the whole night and saying they wanted to f**k me!My mates are friends with al these boys but I dont think I want to be subjected to that again. I dnt tink i wud feel comfortable with those people again.I hardly ever drink and i never get drunk but they kept forcing alcohol into me!My m8s say im overeacting! Do you think think they took advantage of me? And do u think its a bad idea if i go with them people again?

Answer 1

sounds like you got more problems than just being taken advantage of since you're only 15 yrs. you could try staying home and acting your age. you can only be taken advantage of once, after that you are allowing it. just say no.

Answer 2

Please dont go. Obviously you are nervous about it, and your mates arent considering your feelings, health, or well being at all! You are too young to be drinking, esp. with people that you do not know very well. I'm not going to preach to you, b/c you know right from wrong, but I will say this- You never know what could happen. You could be raped or even killed. You could be slipped a drug into your drink. You could drink too much alcohol and pass out, then you could loose consciencnous and die, whie your friend think you are only passed out. Those boys are horny, and to them, that is way more important than how you feel. Your mates have low self esteem, and that is why they like these people. The attention that they get from these boys , makes them feel important. You know that you are so much better than that. Your family and true friends would be heartbroken if they knew that you are considering this again. Do not let anyone talk you into going. Knowing what all of us here have said, will make you very anxious if you decide to go anyway. No matter what, you cannot forget how uncomfortable you truly feel, and feeling that way will cause you to have a miseable time anyway. So, do something that will be safe, and fun for you. Trust me, you are worth it!

Answer 3

Well honestly because when you are drunk, you know what's going on in your surrounding, unlike if you were on a drug. Alot of alcohol will make you distorted but not dumb. However I don't think they really took advantage, because you were able to tell them no before because you knew what they were trying to do. But now that you know what they wanted it wouldn't be wise for you to go out with them again because this time they may actually succeed in taking advantage of you, but just make sure you are being wise and making good decisions I don't think at 15 any person could handle their liquor so it isn't wise to drink yet until you know how it can affect you and where you are getting drunk is a safe place. Good luck!!

Answer 4

You're feeling peer pressure which everyone has to deal with at some point in their life, I think what your friends mean is that they didn't mean you any harm and I don't think the boys meant to take advantage of you, if they only tried to kiss you - you're young and everyone is exploring their sexuality and sex at that age so they probably didn't mean you any harm. When you get drunk, everyone does things they regret the next day, whether it was because they did something silly or because they let something happen that they wouldn't have if they were sober. However if you really don't feel comfortable with it, don't get drunk so you can say "No" if a guy tries something you don't want to do.

Answer 5

Really it sounds like your friends need alcohol in order to do things that other people can do without alcohol. I thought you were too young to be drinking at all at 15 but I dont know where you're from maybe it's exceptable. Anyway, don't turn into a lush because your friends are. They are going to turn into a lot of things over their life and you don't want to do everything they do, let them figure it out on their own. I'd really be concerned with what would have happened if you had way too much to drink and passed out, seriously, these guys are just trying to get you wasted and do whatever they want when you are passed out. Sure sound like it anyway. Not much reason to think they wouldn't.

Answer 6

*I don't think they did, I mean some guys are just perverts, so they'll tell you how sexy and fit you look etc. and touch you wherever. So I mean that stuff alone, does not give grounds for you to accuse them of taking advantage of you while you were drinking.

-Although..just to be on the safe side, I would go get tested and get a pregnancy test...just anyways.

**But if you really feel like you are not comfortable around these boys, then trust your gut instinct and do not hang with them anymore...or at least not while you're impaired in the head. It's your choice, but make the right one based on how YOU feel, and if you tell your mate about it and he or they get mad or whatever....then they're not really your friends. Because if they were/are then they would respect you enough to understand where you are coming from, and how you feel.

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Answer 7

Apparently, you don't have the best judgment in the world. But that's okay! We all learn from our mistakes. If you really don't think they took advantage of you, then go again and see if you're uncomfortable again. I don't think that you should go (but I can't stop you) and you definitely should be more aware of what you're doing. If you decide to go, don't drink.

Also, they aren't your friends! Why? because if they were, they'd make sure you didn't feel uncomfortable like you did. You can find new friends so don't feel like they're your mates if they'll do that stuff to you. If you don't want to be subjected to that again, then don't be! No one can make you hang out with them, that's your choice. You need to see if that choice will get you further in life or if it will hold you down.

Good Luck!

Answer 8

OK. It sounds like they will try and take advantage of you sexually and if you do not want to end up having sex with them its best to stay away from them. You may be molested and or violated by multiple people again next time. This has happened to me at clubs and I recommend that your feelings are right and that you Do Not Go Again! Good question. Your feelings are more important than fitting in with your friends. I'm glad that you are going to protect yourself from people who do not respect your limits and your body. If you want to learn more about sex ed you can check out this website. Wait to have sex until you are ready and feel safe and comfortable.

Answer 9

first of all you are 15 how do you get in a club? second of all a young girl your age should not be getting herself drunk. you must have respect yourself. how? by obeying rules. a bottle says no under 18. guys are just being guys. yes they did take advantage of you and you are lucky it ended there. it could have went even far they could have raped you. but God had protected you. my advice to you is to stop going to clubs there's a lot of things in your age you can do to have fun.

but those things are just not for you. save your self from all that by staying away fro such places. I'm sure you are a young beautiful girl. make the right decisions in your life. bear in mind the things you do today will have an impact in your life in the future. you actions will determine your future so be very careful of the things you do. its up to you how you want to live. but build your self a bright future. God loves you and wants you to have all the best things in life. you still have a long way to go let all these things wait. your life is very precious so don't waste it. love you lots and take GOOD care of yourself.

Answer 10

Hell yes they are taking advantage of you, let me tell you this, they are not your friends if they put you in a potientially dangerous situation -which this is, you don't know who these people are and what they are capable of doing. Do not subject yourself to such ridiculous behavior. I'm am so glad that you are smart enough to see that these could be dangerous for you and please do not even entertain the idea of going anywhere with them and don't let anyone make you do something you are not comfortable doing.....at 15 you should not be drinking anyway-stay away from them. For them to say that you are over-reacting is repulsive, and if it happened to them how would they feel. They don't care about your well being, let them go by themselves

Answer 11

you'd be better off not going. if they got far enough and you didn't like where they went, odds are, they would try even harder to get you drunk and pop you. even worse, they might slip you a mickey and you wouldn't even know what hit you until a year from now. if your so called friends force the issue, take a friend you can be with that doesn't have to drink and refuse anything these guys offer you.

especially this 8====o

good luck