Parental nudity amongst children?

Question

At what age do you feel that its no longer appropriate for a son to be around mom while she is getting dressed, or daughter to be around dad?
The people who say it's never ok, please tell me about how your parents were?

Would you change you answer if the parents had adopted the child?
or if the parents were a gay couple?

Answer 1

Children are only upset by nudity when they are taught to be so. A child that grows up with nudity in the home will accept it as normal. The problems occur when a parent reacts with shame when the child sees them, or the parent who has been nude with the child suddenly changes the rules. Then the child assumes that there is something wrong with it and could develop harmful concepts about their own bodies..

A child in a home where nudity is treated as just another form of dress will not develop traumatic misconceptions about the body. If a child is allowed to see nudity as a normal occurance they won't be faced with having to learn about it elsewhere, through experimentation with their peers.

Children raised in nudist families have much better self-images. They have less trauma going through puberty because they know what to expect from knowing what a mature body looks like and from seeing their older friend's going through changes.

Nudist kids experience less sexual dysfunction and their first occurance of sexual intercourse averages over a year later than non-nudists.

Children should be taught that the nude body is perfectly normal, but they should also be taught when and where nudity is appropriate.

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Answer 2

I guess it all depends on the family. I personally have never seen my father "in the nude". My friend throughout grade school and high school saw her father naked all the time. My local gym won't allow a child of the opposite gender over the age of 5 in the locker rooms or restrooms. My husband and I are expecting our first child (a baby girl) in July so that issue hasn't come up with our family yet. Other than taking a bath with a young child I can't see why it would really be an issue, so when ours is able to be easily bathed in a regular sized bathtub we'll stop taking baths with her. I'd say between 2 and 3 yrs. old. I believe I've read somewhere that by age 3 most children have devolped some form of masturbation, but obviously they don't know about or understand sex. I imagine questions about why and how boys and girls are different would arise. So if you and your partner decide that it is not a big deal to either of you and will be a normal thing in your household, be prepared to answer those types of questions.

Answer 3

It depends on what you are comfortable with. My (soon to be ex) husband was a firm believer of absolutely no nudity in front of our daughter, even from me. He felt that it was abuse. He had even threatened to call the cops on me when he found out that I allowed her in the bathroom to play with her toys while I showered. If I needed to get ready for work, what was I suppose to do? He was uptight. He had issues. Nudity was never a big issue when I was small. I did see my dad once, when I was 4, but it was because my little brother pushed open the door while our father was getting dressed. And I had seen my mom countless times until I was about 8 or 9, when I finally started feeling modest about it. My daughter is almost 4 and sometimes still ends up in the bathroom with me while I shower. But it is getting to the point of her and I both wanting privacy. She wants privacy while she bathes and goes to the toilet, so I have begun to request the same from her. We live with my parents and more often than not, she sits with my mom or dad watching cartoons while I take my shower.
My point: whenever you or your child decide it is the right time. And as for opposite sex, it really should be at the discretion of the parents.

Answer 4

I take showers with my 4 year old daughter all the time. (im her mom) I don't see anything wrong with it since we are both girls. She used to take showers with her dad when she was a little baby but not since she was like..2 years old. I think once she was old enough to realize a difference it was no long acceptable. I dont' think it would matter if i had adopted her ...i just think its not good for child to be around adults that are naked of the opposite sex. I know she would feel uncomfortable about it. I have not made her feel this way. At preschool she has seen both boys and girls naked and thinks its "gross" lol...

On this note i would NEVER say its acceptable to be naked around any child that is not yours at any age!

Answer 5

Hmmm, well, where I believe it is okay to be nude around my kids-I think I will be like my mom and let them give me the cues as to when they would feel more comfortable with a little more privacy. I think my dad was really good about not letting me see him nude. I remember vaguely taking bathes with him, with my mom in the room, but I don't remember ever seeing what it was that made him different from Mom-other than the full body rug and smaller boobs.;) He kept always a certain modesty around his girls. Mom on the other hand, really didn't care until my brother was about 8, when his sense of modesty kicked in. She respected that.
My grandfather, as much as I loved him, was a complete exhibitionist. Very embarassing when I had friends over...My grandpa met my dad for the first time completely in the buff(my grandpa was nude-not my father...and this was several years before I was even a twinkle in my parents' eyes). We are NOT that extreme. I think a certain element of modesty in public and around company is very important.

Answer 6

My oldest son is 6 and I do still get dressed in front of him. I don't go out of my way to have him see me do it, but I'm not modest about it either. My daughter is only two, has maybe caught a glimpse of her father maybe getting out of the shower, thats about it. We both have the same mentality - we don't go out of our way, but we're not modest. I think it gives kids a healthy attitude. My sister is the opposite - her and her husband in particular never EVER let them see any nudity, and as a result her two daughters are obssessed with it, always talking about peoples privates. My kids don't even notice it.

My parents were the same way. My mother I still see naked at times (I'm lucky I haven't gone blind yet, lol). My father tries to be more discreet, but its not a big deal.

Answer 7

my son use to shower with me, he was about 1 1/2 and i turned around and in the shower and he noticed we were different, so from that point on i never took a shower with him. i did the same thing with my 3 y.o daughter...it depends on when they notice that there are different parts, and how you feel.

Answer 8

2-3 years old when dealing with the opposite sex in my opinion. That's when they get curious and still have no modesty.

Answer 9

never until i believe 40 thats a good age trust me im 35 and my mom still gets naked in front of me we sometimes take showers 2gether 2 she makes me doe

Answer 10

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