Back in the old days it was common for pappy to take a strap to your backside in the wood shed. Now kids cant even be punished at school. What are your thoughts? If they know they are untouchable will they ever show respect?
2007-04-05 10:36:30 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Of course. Spare the rod and spoil the child. If kids are raised to push you over how are they suppose to react to authority. I punish my children and yes a part of that is spanking. I do not abuse them . I think some where down the line people have gotton these two things mixed up.
2007-04-05 11:04:34 · answer #1 · answered by jen 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course kids today are out of control due to lack of discipline. HOWEVER, discipline doesn't have to take the form of corporal punishment. A strap to the backside doesn't fix the problem. Control comes from the knowledge that their parents will stand firm on an issue. That's BOTH parents, on ALL issues. Want to fix the kids? Fix the parents. And forget about corporal punishment in schools. Respect doesn't come from fear. You get respect when you give it.
I think punishing kids physically is the easy way out. You don't have to work very hard as a parent if you can just smack the kids whenever you don't like what they're doing. It's a lot harder to set boundaries and be consistent about them (especially if the parents are divorced). And yet, boundaries and consistency are exactly what turn kids into little angels. (Okay, maybe that's a stretch.) Raising kids is a lot like training dogs (and now I've ticked off the other side) - show them what you expect, then show them again, and again, and again, and don't ever back down. Praise them when they do well, and discipline them (without force) when they do wrong. The goal is to raise kids who behave well because they want their parents' praise, not because they're afraid of their parents' belt.
2007-04-05 10:48:39 · answer #2 · answered by swbiblio 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
American kids are the least disciplined and worst behaved, if you compare them to peers in other developed countries. I went to school in Italy and you better believe you will be slapped upside the head if you opened your mouth in class, and then you would get your **** whooped again when you got home.
God forbid you say something to a badly behaved kid in US, you'll be sued and ostracized in the community for abusing the "poor kid". You can't even make kids pick up their own trash at school because it's child labor. When I attended high school in US I was totally blown away by how brazen kids were and yeah, they knew they could do pretty much whatever they wanted because the teachers couldn't really do anything to them and the parents would always take their side.
There is no respect for the elders, whether it be teachers, parents, or just adults on the street, and kids don't really know their place in the food chain. Now this whole "paddling is illegal" nonsense.
2007-04-05 18:18:10 · answer #3 · answered by Sophy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that's the reason. Personally since it was done for thousands of years I don't see what the problem is anymore with children being hit by their parents if they mouth off and don't respect their elders and their parents. I also think they need to bring back corporal punishment in the schools because kids today are out of control there as well. They mouth off to their teachers, skip classes, have sex with each other in the hallways, don't do their homework, etc.
2007-04-05 16:13:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, many of todays children run wild due to lack of discpline.
There are many forms of discpline, you mention only one, corporal punishment. Beating a child into sumbission to gain "respect" is no longer deemed appropriate discpline.
I have found with my own children, that when I show them respect, they treat me with respect in turn. This is an outgrowth of the time and energy I put into guiding their behavior since birth.
The most poorly behaved children in school are probably receiving neither discipline nor respect in their homes, because their parents either don't know what to do, or don't care.
I don't presume to have a solution, but here are some ideas that might help:
1. Teach martial arts instead of traditional phys ed. The kids will learn respect, self-control and discipline while gettting physical activity.
2. If you are a caring parent, extend that care to a student who needs more parental love than he is getting at home. Invite him to spend time in your home, support him in his schoolwork and creative pursuits, include him at your family meal table.
3. Provide things for kids to do outside of school. A bored child will get into trouble. Kids that are busy learn to get along with others, time management, and develop specialized skills that can help them in their adult life.
4.. Create a society where every child is wanted and loved.
That might mean a different form of sex education, opening a crisis pregnancy center in your community, or becoming a foster or adoptive parent.
2007-04-05 11:01:49 · answer #5 · answered by not yet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a child growing up with proper discipline becomes a productive, responsible member of the society. the parents role is to make sure that their kids will have proper values and respect to another human being. i agree with you that kids today are out of control because of lack of good discipline. both parents are working and the babysitter or daycare centers just let those kids loose without proper guidance. so, yeah. it's sad but true.
2007-04-05 11:04:54 · answer #6 · answered by Lola 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes definitely kids are out of control today due to not being disciplined, and even adults because they were not disciplined as a child. I was lucky to be disciplined as a child spankings did me good it taught me wrong to right. It is a shame that people can't take care of their children and teach them right from wrong.
2007-04-05 10:47:56 · answer #7 · answered by starrgirl_05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agree...My mom used coat hangers on us. They left these red lines across your butt. Effective though....we never made the same mistake twice.
I do see a lot of brats out there today...I think the T.V. is programming them, also you can't let them eat what they want, otherwise they will just eat junk food. As far as discipline goes...Sometimes all a parent has to do is one good licking when the child is young. You have to make sure it inflicts a good amount of pain on their bottoms for it to be good and effective. You also have to tell the child that the reason you punished him....is because you love him.
2007-04-05 10:57:47 · answer #8 · answered by Ugly Betty 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
yes kids are out of control these days no respect what so ever and its sad because the laws have changed to make them act this way
2007-04-05 10:52:17 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes very kids act like little brats all the time and need more diciplene but its like parents just lert it roll off the top of thiere heads
2007-04-05 10:41:45 · answer #10 · answered by shoppergirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋