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I can't deal with this. My dad just died, him and my mum got into a car accident, and my dad died. I'm depressed, i just feel like killing myself. My mum is in the hospital because of the accident. and if she dies, then i will end up killing myself. I just don't know how to deal with this. I never thought that i would ever lose any of my parents. I didn't even know that this could happen to a kid like me. I'm so depressed. i'm crying, i don't know what to do. My dad has always been there for me, from teh second i was born until now, he always made everything fun. people tell me to just forget about it, but i can't. i don't know how. it just happened. please can anyone help me?

going to see someone face to face about this, is not an answer. i don't want to go see anyone face to face about this, that is why i asked this question on here because i don't want to talk to anyone face to face.

Answer 1

Who are you staying with right now? Another family member? Let them know how you are feeling - the crying and overwhelming grief are normal and will fade with time. You need someone to talk to when you need to talk and will cry with you when you need to cry. Please reach out to someone you trust and let them know how much you are hurting.

Each day will get a little bit better. It sounds like your father loved you very much and was very proud of you and I know that taking your own life would break his and your mother's heart, so please don't consider that as an option any longer. He would want you to live as a part of him is alive in you.

You'll make it.

Answer 2

I don't know how old you are. You are obviously hurting very much. There are no guaratees in life, we have no control over when we are born, or when we die. That you lost your Dad is making you sad,and there is nothing you can do about that. You can however, be the Man your Dad always wanted for you.to become. You still have your Mom and hopefully she will recover from the accident. The first thing you must do is forget about killing yourself. That will not solve the problem. You must live to carry on your family name and to become the kind or person that would make your Dad happy . You have to believe that he is looking after you from where ever his soul has gone and you must be strong and hold your head up high. Do you have any relatives that you can talk with? Do you have a family doctor that you can talk with? if you do, go see him or her immediately and tell your docotor how and what you are feeling. I know that he/she will be able to help you. I think you are more scared than anything right now, and I am going to do something that I hope will help you , If you clck on my Profile, there is my on line address. Please send me an e mail and telll me what is happening with you. I am somewhat upset that you seem alone and are in a terrible state, and need someone to help you right now. I am old enough to be your Grandfather, ot that I am sure, and even though we may live far apart. you can feel free to write me and unburden yourself. Please, do not do anything foolish. and please let me know how your Mom is doing. OK? I will wait to hear from you.and I promise to write you back. Remember that you are not alone, and believe that everything will turn out well for you .

Answer 3

Hi,I am so sorry about the loss of your father and I really hope that your mom will be okay. I don't know what your going through but I hear ya with how upset you are and how your feeling.

You lost your father and he was awesome and now he's gone and now it's a whole new world without him and it's going to be hard but your dad will always be with you not the way you want him to but he will be there, in fact he's with you right now and do you know that he doesn't want you to hurt yourself? And I bet he taught you to be strong and deal with things didn't he?

Your father would not want you to end your life, think about how your dad would feel if he even knew you were thinking that. He was there for you and taught you a lot of things and we as parents are not going to be here forever so we try to help you through anything and everything when were here so that if anything you will know what to do and how to live when were gone. You have alot of years ahead of you and please don't give up on your dreams.

It's going to be tuff for a little while but you can do this and you can help your mother get better to with some hope that yes she is going to be okay, this is a very hard thing to do at this time in your life but just try to think of positive things, everything seems pretty sour right now, like it's the end of the world but it's not okay, it's not the end for you so just try to have positive feelings about your mother's recovery and maybe things will turn around for her but she needs you to be strong right now and I know it's not easy and I am so sorry for you and I know that you can get through this, just take it a minute, day, second whatever it takes at a time to get through this okay.

I wish you all the best and my prayers are with you and your family.

God Bless.

Answer 4

Dear Friend
I have lost both parents. one by a heart attack and the other through hepatitis of the liver. What you are going through is very real and very raw i urge you to see a counselor right now you need to get help. I'm going to give you a number 1-800_ suicide. call it when you think that killing your self is the only way out. Right now you need to do somethings first you need to be strong for your mother, she wont focus on getting better if she knows you are hurting she will be worried about you and not herself. second you need to morn the loss of your dad. do it with other family members or people who also loved your father. talk about his death but also the good times you shared with him. Time does heal all wounds. You will be a stronger person in the long run.You'll never forget him but his death with be a part of you ,you will learn how to live with it
it may not seem it right now but you will survive this and i know your dad would want you to. my thoughts and prayer are with you god bless

Answer 5

I sort of understand how you feel cause my Grandma died sometime last year and i was really close to her. I know it's not the same but i do know how it feels to lose a loved one. One thing i know about grieving is that it never really stops and the pain never really goes away it just kinda numbs up. That may not be what you want to hear but it's the truth (at least for me anyway).

I'm really sorry for your loss and I'm not just saying that, I Know how it feels to lose someone you are close to, but there is not really much i can say that will fix it. Its one of those things that takes time.

I hope this helps, And really you just got to cry it out, There is no such thing as too much crying in this world no matter what people say.

Answer 6

Depression is a horrible thing and there is help out there for you. Talk to your doctor. As long as your mother is alive, remember this, SHE NEEDS YOU TO BE STRONG. In being strong for her, you will find a strength in yourself that you didn't know existed. I've lost a 34 year old daughter, a husband and both of my parents, among others. My daughter and mom passed away within 2 1/2 months of each other and we didn't know that either of them was ill. Don't allow anyone to judge you too harshly and why should you forget about one of the greatest Dad's that ever lived? People can be so rude sometimes, while trying to help. They just don't know what to say, accept it as that. God bless you my dear and find that inner strength I was talking about, it's there.

Answer 7

firstly i am sooo sorry for your loss...

secondly, those who tell you to forget about it, need to shut the f*** up. that's beyond insensitive and you shouldn't talk to people if that's the only advice they can give.

thirdly, my mother killed herself 20 years ago this year... awful i know. my dad then died of cancer about 7 years ago...

i tell you this not to take away from your pain but to tell you that, yes, there were times when it was hard, and there will continue to be times that i think about them...

BUT i know that you can be strong. my brother and i have hadn;ed this very differently. i have channeled all of my sadness into making myself a better person and have accomplished SOOOO many of my dreams because of it. My brother took a much harder route, being angry at the world and feeling as if it owed him something.

just try to focus on what you DO have, which is HARd i know... but oh so necessary.

it's so unfortunate that these things happen and i feel terrible that it happened to you. i will be keeping you and your mother in my thoughts.

keep your chin up... there will be better days, i promise. and PLEASE if you are considering doing anything harmful to yourself, GET HELP. there is a reason for you to be here, and the world wouldn't want to lose you that way...

Answer 8

Whoever told you to forget about something like this, they should go screw themselves. This is such a big issue, but I don't think you should kill yourself. Your parents would have wanted to you to be healthy and well and alive, I might add. Killing yourself isn't the answer. You can get through this, but it's gonna take some time, I'm not gonna lie. THe best thing I recommend for you is to go see a psychiatrist because then you can get the professional help that you may need. You can talk to them about anything and they can take care fo you. I'm so sorry for your loss. Don't worry and take care of yourself.

Answer 9

Let go and let God. Jesus gave us a promise in The Bible when He said "I will never leave you or forsake you". Jesus knows your pain and suffering and is right there with you. Ask Him to touch you with His loving embrace and you will get the strength and courage to get thru this. I know this from my own tragedies in my life. I never felt suicidal, but the pain was overwhelming. Pray for and with your mom if she can. Remember, this life isn't the end. Read the Bible. The Lord will make those Words come alive in your heart. The Lord willl help you beyond any human understanding. Both my parents have died, and a brother. But I know we will all be together in Heaven. But, it not up to me or you to take our own lives! You will get thru this as I did. It's perfectly normal to cry and grieve, but the pain lessens with time and the memories of your Father is a blessing. I smile and laugh now when I think of my parents and brother. Read the poem "Footprints". You can ask for this in any bookstore. The Lord will carry you too. God will help you, ask Him. Be with your mom when you can. God Bless you. I'll pray for you both.

Answer 10

I am sorry, There is nothing you can do. I know you feel helpless.You must seek out help, there are many good people would want to try and help you, let them try. I hope the doctors can save your mom.
Your death would solve nothing, you must survive. I don't mean just live, but survive.
Find a way to express your feelings, write them down, or write a song if that is your thing. You need a good friend, someone who will hold you and let you cry or someone who can just listen. Talk to someome Please!

Answer 11

I'm sorry for your loss. Be there for your mum and try not
to feel bad. Try to remember all the good things about your
dad, try to remember all the things that he taught you, and
try to think about life your dad would want you not to
be sad or upset and he definitely wouldn't want you to
hurt yourself. Your dad is probably watching over you
right now and loving you. I'm sure he would want you
to grieve and move on with your life and live life to the
fullest for him and all the things that you accomplish
you need to know he is there and very proud of you.
I pray that your mum pulls through and that you both
can move on.