She posted a personal ad online just for fun, and I was looking just for fun (was getting tired of going through car listings). I responded, and we chatted on AIM a couple times. She said she got about 40 responses and most creeped her out. She said mine didn't creep her out. She said she was trying not to date for the last 3 months, and just wanted to see if using craigslist would work since her friend found a great guy on there. I'm hella shy, and am almost certain that I would not make a good impression on her. I've only been on one date, and it didn't work out at all. I'd like to maybe meet her for lunch at school next week, but I don't know how I should do it. I assume I should try and get her number, but I've never asked a girl for her number before. I need help.
2007-04-05 10:12:38 · 16 answers · asked by Wocka wocka 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have a problem, I'm very boring to talk to when I first meet someone because unless I know someone well, I'm way too nervous to be myself.
2007-04-05 10:14:25 · update #1
Just flat out say,
so are u going to go out with anybody from ur ads? ..if she says no say:
hey so then u wanna grab coffee or lunch sometime?..yes then:
well here can i have ur number so i can call u?
EZ as that
good luck
2007-04-05 10:19:00 · answer #1 · answered by as 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just AIM her like normally and tell her to call you at your phone so that it can be easier to talk to and go from there, if she calls you then just talk. Ask her later if she wants to meat you for lunch since you go to the same school and all (just be cool about it, have confidence and go for it) Tell her is just as friends no commitment, what is the worst that can happen, gain a friend? or even a girl friend??? Take care and have more confidence in yourself, most of the time is not the way you look but the way you feel (girls dont like guys who are not confidence in them selves, no matter how cute they are)
2007-04-05 10:22:06 · answer #2 · answered by chinaz777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. Ask her, its online anyway, so you wouldnt be too upset if she said no...but she is hinting for an invitation anyways. Always meet where there is people, meeting for lunch at school is definately a great place.
Best thing to be is honest, tell her that you wanted to ask her for her number but your are to shy...when you meet her, tell her you are shy, because awkward silences are bad enough so be honest...trust me just ask.
Now you got to come back and let us know what happened.
2007-04-05 10:20:32 · answer #3 · answered by justice_4_jbr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be calm and try to be yourself. If you guys hit it off then you could ask 4 her #. If you have problems talking to her, then before you meet just think of some things to say or questions to ask her. I'm sure you'll do great. Good Luck!!
2007-04-05 10:20:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let yourself go!! just ask her what she likes to do and stuff...and yeah you should meet her... take her to a movie if you ever have time...then later on you could talk about how boring the movie was or some funny parts in the movie...and if there is a funny part in the movie, then randomly say that part when your talking or something...it'll make her laugh hopefuly...then later on you could take her to starbucks or something....idk, that's all i can give you...i hope everything works out for you!
2007-04-05 10:19:55 · answer #5 · answered by LiveLaughLoveDance♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing wrong with waiting a little longer to meet in person, but you DO live in the same place and go to the same school, so don't wait too long or that will start to seem weird too! and just remember, if it's meant to be, it's meant to be, and that sounds corny but it really is true! so don't stress meeting too much. it'll work if it's supposed to!
2007-04-05 10:17:02 · answer #6 · answered by KJC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would meet but in a very public place
2007-04-05 10:15:47 · answer #7 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try an activity-oriented date so that talking isn't as important to the outing.
I definitely think you should go, it sounds fun.
2007-04-05 10:18:02 · answer #8 · answered by T.S. R 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Meet her. Being shy wil only rob you of something that is truly ment to be.
2007-04-05 10:17:16 · answer #9 · answered by *DestinyPrince* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to let go of your shyness if you know the girl personally just sit with her at lunch, she probobly won't mind just relax and be your self if she doesn't like you for you she's not worth it good luck!
2007-04-05 10:17:33 · answer #10 · answered by steph 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋