someone told me that my bf of only a month cheated on me. What do i do?

Question

i really love him even though we haven't been together for that long at all. I dont know wut to do. I havent asked him about it yet. Especially since we're on spring break and i wont see him for a week. but he's sooooo perfect except for what people tell me...... I really dunno what to do. It hurts so bad. And i dont think that i wanna let go. but he cant cheat on me and get away with it. What do i do?????

Answer 1

Who told you he cheated on you? Did they hear it from someone else or did they witness it first hand? What exactly did he do? You need to find out. Also, is he your boyfriend? You've only been going out a month... that could still be considered "dating" unless you were going "steady"... so you need to figure all that out before you jump to conclusions and accuse him.

Answer 2

well when he gets back talk about it
the things people say could all be rumors or lies so dont accuse him just ask him if they know those people and ask him if those things are true dont get mad and dont cry be up front and kind and strong

also there are signs you should look for like if he all the sudden tries to start fights or he is really sweet all the sudden these can mean he is feeling guilty

also if he all the sudden starts to take care of himself or has a sudden need to change his fashion or hair style

you can check his emails and his phone and see if there is any evidence

good luck girl

oh and if you find that he is cheating then you need to let go cus he WILL do it agian

Answer 3

First check you source and make sure he did cheat on you. People can get there story mixed around a lot of the time.

If he didn't cheat on you then everythings ok. But if he did then what you need to do is dump him and move on. It will seem difficult and maybe impossible but you need to do it. People like him will never change and the longer you stay with him the more it'll hurt when he does it again. You may think you love him but ask yourself if you can love someone who cheats on you.

I know it will be hard but you will be glad you did when you find someone else who treats and respects you better.

Answer 4

its your own fault that you have lost him, however long it was either way you cheated on him. if you think telling him it was just one second long will make him forgive you and want you back then just tell him. but tbh i think you are better off finding someone else, as he will only still be hurting and wont trust you. you are only fourteen its not as if you were gunna marry the guy. learn from your mistake so that when you find the very right person you dont end up losing them again. but i really think trying to get him back is a bad idea because there willl just be no trust. find someone else and let him find someone who wont cheat and will make him happy. and also it is pretty easy to turn your head away or back away when some guy goes in to kiss you. and you have a hand to slap them away. next time use your brain.

Answer 5

baby, the first thing you should do is ask him. watch his actions and see how he would react when you ask him. you should know when he is telling a lie or the truth. it is not good to take hear say and believe it at all times, some people might just don't want to see you happy. more over every body deserves a second chance. if he slips again away with him. P.S. don't let your love blind you though.

Answer 6

Don't listen to what other people have to say, you never know what their motives are. However by the same token be wary that he might be a cheat. Dont give your all into the relationship just yet, distance yourself a little and see what happens.

Answer 7

Well first I would find out for myself if he cheated or not. Then I would go from their. You can' t believe everything you here. That person may be trying to break the 2 of you up...think with your brain and not your heart

Answer 8

Talk to him, but really sit with him and have a serious conversation. The worst that can happen is that he tells you its true and then you could work it out, try to be smart about it, give him options, tell him that you love him and your not nessesarily going to leave him for that but he needs to tell you the truth, for the sake of your relationship. Be bold not bald (yeah i know, its gay, but it came up to my mind, and seriously I dont know what it has to do with this LOL) Take care.

Answer 9

Caitlin, if he is perfect in every way except for what you've HEARD about him.... don't get upset prematurely. You're worrying about something you have no control over in the short term. Don't make yourself miserable, that's no way to live!

Just think the best of your guy until you have the chance to ask him. If it's true... THEN you have a decision to make.

Answer 10

Oh my gawd, are you serious? Ok, I'm sorry. I know you don't see it NOW, but I promise you, I PROMISE you that you do not love this boy, and he certainly does not love you. I know, I really do know that your feelings are real. And I know it hurts, I know, baby, I know, but you really need to let go. Most importantly, don't get mad. I know it's hard. I know he's done and doing you a great injustice, and I'm sure he's absolutely gorgeous, but these boys, especially at your age, do not care about FEELINGS. They just want what feels good. I know he's special, I know I know I know, but I PROMISE if you walk away from it you are going to feel 100% better about yourself than if you just let him keep treating you this way. Again, I reiterate, don't get mad at him. Don't give him that power, girlfriend. You are your own woman, and you need NO man for your self worth! Now, act it.